Long-Term Relationship Question

[Chevyman803]

Alrighty, I've been in a relationship for 3 years with a beautiful girl, but I have one more year of undergraduate left before I hopefully go to med school. I have been wanting independence from everything for about a month now and I dunno what to do. The icing on the cake is that I've been hangin out with old friend from high school and she's so much fun to be around, but I feel bad because hey I've got a girlfriend. What the hell should I do? Any suggestions would be amazing.

[Elixie]

Simple : are you in love with your girlfriend ? Do you prefer spend time with her or your friend from high school ?

[LoyalSubject]

If you want to be a doctor and can't seem to answer this question tahn please give me your name so I know never to have you as my Doctor.

[Louise Heng]

I hate long-distance relationships.

If you love her, then stay with her and don't do anything that you'll regret. A long-distance relationship is based on truth, trust and love, remember that.

[LoyalSubject]

I think it's Long Term not Distance.

[Louise Heng]

I think it's Long Term not Distance.
oh, hahaha.

well whatever. my advice can still apply to long-term so it wasn't a completely worthless post.

[nards228]

Alrighty, I've been in a relationship for 3 years with a beautiful girl, but I have one more year of undergraduate left before I hopefully go to med school. I have been wanting independence from everything for about a month now and I dunno what to do. The icing on the cake is that I've been hangin out with old friend from high school and she's so much fun to be around, but I feel bad because hey I've got a girlfriend. What the hell should I do? Any suggestions would be amazing.
You obviously aren't too into your relationship if you suddenly have this interest in an "old friend from high school." If what's feeling you bad is your sense of obligation to your current girlfriend, then you need to do what you reluctantly know is right and break up with her. You already know you want "independence form everything," and that would include your current long-term relationship. Do yourself and your girlfriend a favor and end the relationship before it becomes unnecessarily messy and painful.

Also: in general, long-distance relationships do not work. Somebody who is merely a voice in a cell phone is not a girlfriend or boyfriend, he or she is merely a voice. All relationships have a degree of physical intimacy that is essential their survival, and which is inherently lacking in any long-distance relationship. If the relationship is really that important to you, then find somewhere else to live so that you don't have to worry about distance. If it isn't, then end it.



Rennard

[Signals Corrupted]

you should never stay in a relationship because you feel obligated

[sleepygrlgreen]

you should never stay in a relationship because you feel obligated

I agree.

[Chevyman803]

If you want to be a doctor and can't seem to answer this question tahn please give me your name so I know never to have you as my Doctor.

Well, some how I think this doesn't pertain to the medical field, but thats okay.

Thanks for the suggestions everyone.

[kimosabe]

gotsta hit it from the back, jack!

hope that helps.

[Witchbaby]

Blah! I know what you're going through. I was with my boyfriend for three years before I decided that I needed to be single again. It's so hard b/c you have soooo much history and all that stuff and even after we broke up it hurt more then I ever could have imagined. But in the end it was the right descion for me. Do you want to marry the girl? Just b/c you've talked about it with her doesn't mean you're obligated... I guess I got to the point where I was looking around and had to ask myself if this is what i wanted for the rest of my life... The sad truth is, you're not married so if you want to be free then let go. I'm not saying it's not going to hurt or that it's going to be easy but Med school is a HUGE commitment and you have a lot more life to live. But it's up to you. Follow your heart? No, that sounds cheesy... If that other girl wasn't in the picture, would you still think about breaking up? Maybe if something like another presence can rock the boat so much, you should take that into consideration.

Maybe that helps?

[osunfg]

If you want to be a doctor and can't seem to answer this question tahn please give me your name so I know never to have you as my Doctor.
i dont think thats a fair thing to say

[__Deformative.]

If you want to be a doctor and can't seem to answer this question tahn please give me your name so I know never to have you as my Doctor.

You don't need a doctor, honey. You need a mortician, baby.

Seriously, though. That's not very fair. And with a post that short, there's no excuse for spelling errors. AND grammatical errors. Not only were you using Than instead of Then, but you spelled it wrong! Jeez!

[Signals Corrupted]

You don't need a doctor, honey. You need a mortician, baby.

Seriously, though. That's not very fair. And with a post that short, there's no excuse for spelling errors. AND grammatical errors. Not only were you using Than instead of Then, but you spelled it wrong! Jeez!

what pleasure do you crave when sex lacks passion?

[Coronary Parasite]

i posted my thoughts in the thread about this in the general forum. short story: VERY happily engaged, he lives fours hours away when he's at school, longest time we spend apart is three weeks, i go up and visit him if he can't go home, we talk every night, actually talk...we trust each other completely and i'd rather have him every three weeks than not have him at all

[__Deformative.]

what pleasure do you crave when sex lacks passion?

Thank god for Blood Brothers fans, for without them, this world would would be nothing but kids who don't know shit from shit.

[Chevyman803]

Blah! I know what you're going through. I was with my boyfriend for three years before I decided that I needed to be single again. It's so hard b/c you have soooo much history and all that stuff and even after we broke up it hurt more then I ever could have imagined. But in the end it was the right descion for me. Do you want to marry the girl? Just b/c you've talked about it with her doesn't mean you're obligated... I guess I got to the point where I was looking around and had to ask myself if this is what i wanted for the rest of my life... The sad truth is, you're not married so if you want to be free then let go. I'm not saying it's not going to hurt or that it's going to be easy but Med school is a HUGE commitment and you have a lot more life to live. But it's up to you. Follow your heart? No, that sounds cheesy... If that other girl wasn't in the picture, would you still think about breaking up? Maybe if something like another presence can rock the boat so much, you should take that into consideration.

Maybe that helps?


thanks...its nice to hear an opinion from someone who has actually experienced it. no one i know has. thanks again.