be nice or not

[mediocrgreenday]

so this girl that really fucked me over for a long time just imed me today. i finally just got over her and cut off contact. but the problem is im too nice to not respond or anything even though i know i probably shouldnt. should i talk to her when she ims me or calls, or should i ignore. i think ignoring is immature, but then again i know how this girl fucks with my head. so i guess im not really sure what to do.

[Witchbaby]

If she fucks with your head stay away. There's a lot to be said for ignoring people - so what if it's immature? It saves you sometimes. Or I guess you could start talking to her and let her fuck you up all over again.
Let's call it something else, not ignoring... Conciously avoiding contact. ta-da!

Good Luck :)

[SK_mo]

I'd say don't ignore her. Don't be immature, just tell her that you don't want to talk to her and if she keeps pestering and asks why, tell her it's because she's a mind fucking whore. I personally would rather have someone hate me and tell me rather than pretend to like me.

[Louise Heng]

I'd say don't ignore her. Don't be immature, just tell her that you don't want to talk to her and if she keeps pestering and asks why, tell her it's because she's a mind fucking whore. I personally would rather have someone hate me and tell me rather than pretend to like me.
fab advice, that's what i would do.

[mediocrgreenday]

nice, thanks

[SK_mo]

nice, thanks
Sorry if it sounded a little rude, I just went through something similar except we were getting along til she stopped talking to me. Now I just think she's a disrespectful, heartless bitch.

[Signals Corrupted]

dont worry about being nice or not, if you dont feel comfortable talking to her, fuck it, dont talk to her. but if you feel you're ready to move passed that and perhaps start a friendship, then by all means.. i for one, talk to the ex that fucked me over.

[punkpixie]

fab advice, that's what i would do.

Yeah me too. Well done Kevin!

[mediocrgreenday]

thanks guys. yeah she tried talking to me again today. it started fine, then she got on the whole i miss you thing. and the reason why we went our seperate ways was because shes nuts, i wanted a relationship with her and she didnt want one, basiclly it went on for like 3 yrs, cause whenever she went away shed come back. but this time i told her why i cant talk to her, how i need to get over her, and i just cut it off, said goodbye, and hung up. it feels good to do things on your own terms for once. usually i would just milk the conversation dry and dig myself into a ditch and feel like shit after. again thanks for the advice.

[Shoes]

Dude that's really cool you had control of the conversation and on your terms good for you.
And I know what you mean about draining the conversation dry just so you can talk to them some more.

[Juliet R Delta]

i don't think ignoring is immature, ever heard of leaving well enough alone?? in this case, its knowing where the shit is and where not to walk. some people you're better off without.
Although, if you can do things on your own terms and keep it cool, then thats cool, just tread carefully i say. Learn from your past history with her. :)

[mediocrgreenday]

yeah when i was talking to her i was thinking, well if i just have a nice convo maybe we can e firends again then i'll see how it goes from there. then i was like hmmm fuck that ive been saying that to myself for 3 years now, its done, goodbye.

[Bishop]

Don't ignore her.

Whenever she IM's you, just say "Hi." And then say "is there something that you need?" And try to come off as unemotional and uncaring as possible. It pisses them off beyond belief.

[mediocrgreenday]

Don't ignore her.

Whenever she IM's you, just say "Hi." And then say "is there something that you need?" And try to come off as unemotional and uncaring as possible. It pisses them off beyond belief.

ahahha thats perfect.

[Sho]

Man, I've dealt with that before, the whole fucking with the head bit. :headshake Not fun. Honestly, up to you, really. If you want to maintain a friendship with her, go ahead and talk; if not, just tell her that you don't want to maintain a friendship. Just ignoring is rude, and rudeness is what's immature. Just my thoughts.

[mediocrgreenday]

Man, I've dealt with that before, the whole fucking with the head bit. :headshake Not fun. Honestly, up to you, really. If you want to maintain a friendship with her, go ahead and talk; if not, just tell her that you don't want to maintain a friendship. Just ignoring is rude, and rudeness is what's immature. Just my thoughts.

thanks dude

[FinchBulldog2]

Have her child and then throw it off a bridge in front of her.