Are you a Gentleman?

[Chancetobe]

Just curious, which of you males do things like hold doors open for girls and offer to carry heavy things? I have a theory that this has a lot to do with location. Most gentlemen are located in the midwest and south.

And girls, how do you feel about gentlemen?

[googirl8907]

Definitely makes a guy more attractive.

[firecrackaaa!]

I like this idea for a poll :-)

My roommate likes guys that are complete assholes, and I don't understand it. She's always upset.

[Burning Star IV]

I'd like to think I am.

[AP_Punk]

i'd say so.

[dodge_3001]

i try anyway

[Chancetobe]

I like this idea for a poll :-)

My roommate likes guys that are complete assholes, and I don't understand it. She's always upset.

Why thank you.

As for this: I've recently had a change of opinion. At first it creeped me out when guys would do stuff like that. Now I think it makes a guy more attractive though.

[11:11]

Every time I see one of my girl friends shivering, I take off my jacket and say "Here."

[mattmatumbo]

i am for all girls, but i do more for girls i like or am dating.

[wroteurname]

Every time I see one of my girl friends shivering, I take off my jacket and say "Here."
Shameless!

[nhoium]

I consider myself a gentleman.
I figure there's already too many rude people in the world.

[wroteurname]

I made some pregnant bitch cry today.

[billyboatkid]

Hell yes. I open doors for women every god damn day.

I'm even more of a gentleman for my significant other. Well if and when I have one.

[anamericangod]

I made some pregnant bitch cry today.

I laughed so hard at this.

[firecrackaaa!]

Why thank you.

As for this: I've recently had a change of opinion. At first it creeped me out when guys would do stuff like that. Now I think it makes a guy more attractive though.

Welcome.

It definitely makes a guy more attractive. It's pretty rare around here, but it's nice when guys do.
The kind of guys my roommate go for aren't just "ungentlemanly", they're complete assholes who hardly do anything kind in any way. She loves it, and I honestly don't see the appeal.

Every time I see one of my girl friends shivering, I take off my jacket and say "Here."

I don't doubt this at all.

[firecrackaaa!]

I made some pregnant bitch cry today.

How nice of you.

[Smash Adams]

I guess not, but I'm also not a forward person and the idea of asking a random girl if she needs help carrying stuff is anxiety-provoking
what if I drop it? what an ass I'd look like

[AP_Punk]

I guess not, but I'm also not a forward person and the idea of asking a random girl if she needs help carrying stuff is anxiety-provoking
what if I drop it? what an ass I'd look like

ass.

[brandnew=love]

I totally am! ;-)

[TakingBackDowd]

I usually always am, unless I'm in a terrible mood. I'll hold doors while walking, kinda half assing it.

[11:11]

Welcome.

It definitely makes a guy more attractive. It's pretty rare around here, but it's nice when guys do.
The kind of guys my roommate go for aren't just "ungentlemanly", they're complete assholes who hardly do anything kind in any way. She loves it, and I honestly don't see the appeal.



I don't doubt this at all.
Aww, thanks Ash :-)

[AussieBoy]

only a gentleman for the hotties

[MADSTA]

Gentlemanliness = hot

[4N6 science]

I am more so for a girlfriend/ friends than for some random girl. But in general I try my best to always be a gentleman. I'm also from the south (VA).

[JJJ]

I try to as much as possible. I'm really nice with girls, and it back fires on me and I get the friend card though.

[wroteurname]

I laughed so hard at this.

How nice of you.
Story: I sell baby furniture at my job and this bitch was trying to order a rocking chair and I told her we were out of stock and that I was sorry and we'd have to order it from the warehouse. Her husband said "I'm fucking done wiith this sorry isn't going to cut it" and I said "ya know, you're right I'm totally in charge of things like this so getting upset with me is perfectly acceptable." And the bitch cried.

[4N6 science]

I try to as much as possible. I'm really nice with girls, and it back fires on me and I get the friend card though.


That's the worst, I've had that happen to me lots of times.

[absolutecrunk]

The only answer in this thread: I am increasingly gentlemanly to girls the hotter they are.

Every other answer is either a lie, a sad white knight attempt, or a guy that has a girlfriend.

[11:11]

Story: I sell baby furniture at my job and this bitch was trying to order a rocking chair and I told her we were out of stock and that I was sorry and we'd have to order it from the warehouse. Her husband said "I'm fucking done wiith this sorry isn't going to cut it" and I said "ya know, you're right I'm totally in charge of things like this so getting upset with me is perfectly acceptable." And the bitch cried.
:appl: well done. well done.

[JJJ]

That's the worst, I've had that happen to me lots of times.

Definitely. I get it a good portion of the time, and once you get the in the friend zone there is no leaving it.

Nothing is worse though then getting a friend card, girl that is no your friend gets a bf later on, he's a dick as usual and you hear "I don't know why he's such an asshole to me, I wish guys were like you"

my god does that suck

/rant

[argg_xo]

I try to as much as possible. I'm really nice with girls, and it back fires on me and I get the friend card though.
ummmm, i really hate to say this but, i think we're better off as just friends. sorry john, you're a really nice guy though. jk! jk! i <3 you boo!

[wroteurname]

Gentlemanliness = hot
You have it backwards

Hot=gentlemanliness

[googirl8907]

The only answer in this thread: I am increasingly gentlemanly to girls the hotter they are.

Every other answer is either a lie, a sad white knight attempt, or a guy that has a girlfriend.
I love your honesty.

[caress me down]

there are zero gentlemen in highschool :shrug:

[argg_xo]

where are the gentlemen in the midwest?!???

[absolutecrunk]

I love your honesty.
Well I realize I'm never going to ever meet anyone on this site in real life so I might as well tell the honest truth. And I'm a courteous guy, too. I'll pick up dropped books and hold open doors and stuff, but if you've ever seen Demetri Martin's graph of "cuteness of girl vs. how long i want to hear about how smart your cat is", it's dead on.

[JJJ]

ummmm, i really hate to say this but, i think we're better off as just friends. sorry john, you're a really nice guy though. jk! jk! i <3 you boo!

fuck not again !

[wroteurname]

there are zero gentlemen in highschool :shrug:
They're there, just so ugly that you dont notice them.

[firecrackaaa!]

Aww, thanks Ash :-)

Of course.

only a gentleman for the hotties

Then you're not a gentleman.

Story: I sell baby furniture at my job and this bitch was trying to order a rocking chair and I told her we were out of stock and that I was sorry and we'd have to order it from the warehouse. Her husband said "I'm fucking done wiith this sorry isn't going to cut it" and I said "ya know, you're right I'm totally in charge of things like this so getting upset with me is perfectly acceptable." And the bitch cried.

Hahaha, wow. Alright. Not as horrible as you made it sound.

[argg_xo]

fuck not again !
haha!

[googirl8907]

Well I realize I'm never going to ever meet anyone on this site in real life so I might as well tell the honest truth. And I'm a courteous guy, too. I'll pick up dropped books and hold open doors and stuff, but if you've ever seen Demetri Martin's graph of "cuteness of girl vs. how long i want to hear about how smart your cat is", it's dead on.
I understand where you're coming from.

[11:11]

They're there, just so ugly that you dont notice them.
Truth.

[Chancetobe]

Yeah, I'm sensing that some of you aren't being honest here. The vast majority of you are gentlemen for every female, attractive or not? There is no way that's possible.

[brandnew=love]

Yeah, I'm sensing that some of you aren't being honest here. The vast majority of you are gentlemen for every female, attractive or not? There is no way that's possible.
I agree, there's no way this can be right...

[4N6 science]

I was honest. Some girls don't deserve for me to be a gentleman towards them.

[wroteurname]

Of course.



Then you're not a gentleman.



Hahaha, wow. Alright. Not as horrible as you made it sound.
Best part is that the guy went to my manager and was like "that kid's an asshole he made my wife cry" hey dude "pregnant bitches cry when they run out of chips."

[caress me down]

They're there, just so ugly that you dont notice them.
yeah. or creepy.

[patpratt]

I live in Minnesota and tend to think I treat women well. However, there are some definite douchebags who treat women like shit here, so not everyone from the midwest are good guys.

[Metfan615]

Yes, well I try to be.

[ESundy36]

I like in New England and I would like to believe I am a gentleman. I should probably ask some of the girls I know where I rank on their gentleman scales.

[caityconundrum]

when guys do something kind, i tend to laugh because it's so rare. i find that sad.

[Smash Adams]

so question for girls- how do you treat guys? men shouldn't be forced to be nice to bitches

[brandnew=love]

so question for girls- how do you treat guys? men shouldn't be forced to be nice to bitches
I disagree... I think every guy should show every girl respect...

[caityconundrum]

i try to be nice and friendly to everyone i encounter. i give everyone respect until they give me reason not to.

[wroteurname]

so question for girls- how do you treat guys? men shouldn't be forced to be nice to bitches
:thisissparta:

[Smash Adams]

I disagree... I think every guy should show every girl respect...
that came out wrong, I meant I think guys deserve respect as much as girls
only respecting girls is hella sexist and saying that they're weak and need our help
i try to be nice and friendly to everyone i encounter. i give everyone respect until they give me reason not to.
this is the response I was hoping for, I try to be the same way

[argg_xo]

i try to be nice and friendly to everyone i encounter. i give everyone respect until they give me reason not to.
agreed. i'm the same way too.

[googirl8907]

i try to be nice and friendly to everyone i encounter. i give everyone respect until they give me reason not to.
Same here

[11:11]

I disagree... I think every guy should show every girl respect...
because every woman is someone elses wife/mother/daughter.

[caityconundrum]

that came out wrong, I meant I think guys deserve respect as much as girls
only respecting girls is hella sexist and saying that they're weak and need our help

this is the response I was hoping for, I try to be the same way
yeah. i also completely get what you said about not being outgoing enough to help everyone or whatever because i'm way shy in real life as well. but i'm working on that haha.

[brandnew=love]

that came out wrong, I meant I think guys deserve respect as much as girls
only respecting girls is hella sexist and saying that they're weak and need our help
You're right... guys deserve respect too... but just cause a girl disrespects you doesn't mean you should do the same thing... you can always be the better man.
because every woman is someone elses wife/mother/daughter.
exactly! you forgot sister though...

[Smash Adams]

yeah. i also completely get what you said about not being outgoing enough to help everyone or whatever because i'm way shy in real life as well. but i'm working on that haha.
not as easy as just saying I won't be shy now if you didn't get that already
You're right... guys respect too... but just cause a girl disrespects you doesn't mean you should do the same thing... you can always be the better man.

exactly! you forgot sister though...
but what's the difference between being the better man and being weak? it's kind of a fine line

[hiddentrack]

I'm around a lot of old people (65+) and they love that kind of stuff, so its nice to hold the door for them.

Most of the time, if there is someone behind me, I'll hold the door for them regardless of who they are or what they look like.

[samsara]

i think the nicest guys ive met in Roswell were the NMMI guys

they always hold doors open for girls and let them cut in lines at stores
they are just generally courteous to females

most other guys are a-holes

[brandnew=love]

but what's the difference between being the better man and being weak? it's kind of a fine line
it is a fine line... but just cause you're respectful doesn't mean your weak... don't be a pushover, but don't an asshole... (not saying you're either).

[caityconundrum]

not as easy as just saying I won't be shy now if you didn't get that already

but what's the difference between being the better man and being weak? it's kind of a fine line
hahaha i wish. i feel like i've gotten a litttttttle better over the years though. maybe.

[Fallinto_rhythm]

I 100% agree with you on the southern thing. It's not just guys being poliet though, it's people in general. Northener's are just, well, pretentious.

[absolutecrunk]

This thread has just become a kowtowing mess.

[*crying stars*]

I like respectful people.

[firecrackaaa!]

Best part is that the guy went to my manager and was like "that kid's an asshole he made my wife cry" hey dude "pregnant bitches cry when they run out of chips."

Did you manager say that?!

[m_rue]

Gentlemanliness = hot

Agreed. It would def. help win me over haha.

[AussieBoy]

the big question is do u need to be gentlemanly to cross dressers and transexuals

[caityconundrum]

you should at the very least be polite to everyone, even if you can't respect them. rudeness doesn't do any good for anyone.

[AussieBoy]

You're right... guys deserve respect too... but just cause a girl disrespects you doesn't mean you should do the same thing... you can always be the better man.

exactly! you forgot sister though...

and sex slave

[brandnew=love]

you should at the very least be polite to everyone, even if you can't respect them. rudeness doesn't do any good for anyone.
agreed!

[HangsLikeHeaven]

It took me a while to catch onto the whole gentleman stance. I'll always hold on the door for my girlfriend, carry the heavier load, pay for meals, make things easier on her, etc. It comes natural now but I laugh at myself for not doing it earlier in our relationship.

With other people, I'll hold doors open and on occasion carry someone's groceries/heavy load to his/her car, etc.

[firecrackaaa!]

That's nice of you.

[HangsLikeHeaven]

Took me a while to realize it.

[brandnew=love]

Took me a while to realize it.
Better late than never.

[firecrackaaa!]

That's better than what most people do.

[AshesAshes]

I hold doors open for everyone

[absolutecrunk]

I shut doors on everyone.

[caityconundrum]

I hold doors open for everyone
same.

it used to bug me that when you hold doors for people, they usually reach out like you're going to drop it on them at the last second. but i don't blame them because i've noticed i always do that too.

[AshesAshes]

I shut doors on everyone.

Thug life

[firecrackaaa!]

I hold doors open for everyone

This must be true. You're so nice :-)

I shut doors on everyone.

Fuckin' jerk.

[brandnew=love]

same.

it used to bug me that when you hold doors for people, they usually reach out like you're going to drop it on them at the last second. but i don't blame them because i've noticed i always do that too.
has it ever happened where you hold the door for someone (when there's like two doors) and they use the other one? I hate that...

[phil19]

i try to be.

[caityconundrum]

has it ever happened where you hold the door for someone (when there's like two doors) and they use the other one? I hate that...
oh wow, no i don't think that's happened. that would bug me though.

[brandnew=love]

oh wow, no i don't think that's happened. that would bug me though.
lol yeah, it's kinda bad... happened to be a few times...

[caityconundrum]

i try to be.
your profile picture is super cute.

lol yeah, it's kinda bad... happened to be a few times...
kinda sad that our world has come to that. people don't even accept kindness.

[phil19]

your profile picture is super cute.


kinda sad that our world has come to that. people don't even accept kindness.

thanks :-)

[Chancetobe]

Ok, the thing here is that there are two different types of door holding. There's holding the door open behind you, which any nice person should do. Then there is opening the door, stepping aside and letting the person behind you walk though. That is gentlemanly.

[absolutecrunk]

Holding the door open when there are two sets of doors is a common occurrence and is nothing but a funny study in lack of foresight.

[wroteurname]

Did you manager say that?!
Haha, not him, she did to me though.

[firecrackaaa!]

Haha, not him, she did to me though.

Ohhh, alright. I was like, how the fuck did that turn out? Hahaha.
I hope I am never that emotional when/if I get pregnant, but I'm sure I will be.

[Chancetobe]

Holding the door open when there are two sets of doors is a common occurrence and is nothing but a funny study in lack of foresight.

At least with me and my friends, one of us will jokingly hold one door open, then the first person to walk in will jokingly hold the second door open. We're always really dramatic about it. Like "Why, after you!"

[wroteurname]

Ohhh, alright. I was like, how the fuck did that turn out? Hahaha.
I hope I am never that emotional when/if I get pregnant, but I'm sure I will be.
I'll try not to make you cry when we don't have your rocking chair.

[firecrackaaa!]

I'll try not to make you cry when we don't have you're rocking chair.

You better just keep the damn chair in stock.

[AussieBoy]

its best on double doors to open both and then let go and see if u can squish people in between the two

[infamous_alias]

where are the gentlemen in the midwest?!???

All over the place?

[TK]

I'm too big of an ass to be a gentleman.

[disco.tetris]

I love it when a guy opens the door, lets you in first, all that. It definitely makes him more attractive.

[argg_xo]

All over the place?
there are probably tons of them outside the metro-detroit area. i need to branch out.

[HelpMeSleep]

I totally am! ;-)
actually, you really are. I'm pretty sure I've actually used that word to describe you before. lol

[4N6 science]

Definitely. I get it a good portion of the time, and once you get the in the friend zone there is no leaving it.

Nothing is worse though then getting a friend card, girl that is no your friend gets a bf later on, he's a dick as usual and you hear "I don't know why he's such an asshole to me, I wish guys were like you"

my god does that suck

/rant

Yeah I hear you loud and clear on that one. I hate listening to those conversations. All I'm think is, look right in front of you I'm right here!!

[bung]

Gentlemen are sexists.

[berskyjr]

i hate girls, but i love my girlfriend.

[James_Brand]

I'm pretty much a gentleman in the sense that I will help women and old people carry things and hold doors for them. It contrasts my acerbic and sarcastic nature.

[DaveZeroZero]

I put no, but that's pretty much a lie. I am, most of the time, quite the gentleman.

Unless, of course, I'm talking about fat chicks whom I don't like.

[PadraicPrincess]

be a gentleman, you will get the nice girls.

unless you are older thann...35? Then you look like a huge creep.

[Chancetobe]

Uhh, I don't think being a gentleman when you are older than 35 makes you a creep. It makes you a gentleman. haha.

[immorehxcthanu]

http://i10.photobucket.com/albums/a125/yourcheckmark/love.jpg

[4N6 science]

after that second you go back to hating him?

[remedyeli]

I try to be.
Like, if it's something that doesn't take any effort at all like holding a door open, I do that.
But if I am attracted to someone or if they just really need help, then I actually help them.

For example, two days ago I was walking around the block, and I saw these two old people taking forever to carry their grocery from their car to the house. So I walked up there and took 2 minutes out of my day to help.

Karma ftw.

[FemaleCuckold]

Guys that try to be gentlemen are actually a little annoying. It always comes off as if they are trying too hard.

[paigen]

It's annoying when they never do.

[Greg]

i am a gentleman.

[mattmatumbo]

you know what sucks? pms, makes me think i should hate all women because they never ever appologize for being such bitches during pms. not even once do they appologize!

[DaveZeroZero]

http://akvis.com/img/examples/coloriage/gentleman/portrait-gentleman-bw.jpg

[Sandie-Jenkins]

You need to add another answer that says, I am a gentlemen for every hot girl.

[kaycey]

i am and always will be.T's the way my ma raised me.:fish:

[HelpMeSleep]

I put no, but that's pretty much a lie. I am, most of the time, quite the gentleman.

Unless, of course, I'm talking about fat chicks whom I don't like.
you don't seem very gentlemanlike, to be perfectly honest.

[brandnew=love]

gentlemen, they don't ask questions... they just keep quiet and pay attention.

[HelpMeSleep]

gentlemen, they don't ask questions... they just keep quiet and pay attention.
I think you're a gentleman. :nod:

[brandnew=love]

I think you're a gentleman. :nod:
lol I was quoting tbs... but thanks!

[Bigalan2004]

I like this idea for a poll :-)

My roommate likes guys that are complete assholes, and I don't understand it. She's always upset.

i like to consider myself a gentleman so i went on a date with this girl and turns out she likes guys that are complete assholes like your roommate...makes no sense.

[AussieBoy]

gentlemen, they don't ask questions... they just keep quiet and pay attention.


thats why soo many chicks get dildo's cause theyre perfect gentlemen

[HelpMeSleep]

lol I was quoting tbs... but thanks!
hahaha. I wasn't saying that to what you were saying. I just felt like telling you I think you're a gentleman. :-)

[Sventhegreat]

I like being a gentleman for all women, because I feel like not that many people do that these days. And I hope that it makes them feel good.

[Bingham88]

Definitely makes a guy more attractive.

not always true if we are too nice and gentlemenly then sometiems the attractiveness turn in to friendship.

sucks but thats whats happend the last 2 years and im trying to get that to stop.

gotta pick your gentelmanly moments.

and i agree we southerns deffently know how to treat a lady. ;)

[DaveZeroZero]

you don't seem very gentlemanlike, to be perfectly honest.
Oh, I can do it sometimes.

[HelpMeSleep]

Oh, I can do it sometimes.
pshh. I'll believe that when I see it! love your avatar by the way.

[firecrackaaa!]

i like to consider myself a gentleman so i went on a date with this girl and turns out she likes guys that are complete assholes like your roommate...makes no sense.

Oh, whoa, you live in Irvine. I'm from Tustin/Orange!

Yea, the guy she's "talking to" right now is super sweet to her and I think she's already over it. It makes me sad. I don't understand it at all. The only thing I can think of is they like having something to complain about :shrug: I don't know.

Oh, I can do it sometimes.

I believe this.