View Full Version : What were your parent's methods?
DamienSaysHi
10/29/08, 12:59 PM
I'm just wondering how many people's parents actually hit them for punishment when they misbehaved. A few friends and I got on the subject and couldn't really come to a conclusion as to whether it's right or wrong. What did yours do? What will you do for punishment for your kids?
Personally, my parents believed in hitting but only if you did something wrong and only with their hands. A couple of my friends think it's terribly wrong but I don't.
shit stroll
10/29/08, 01:08 PM
parents that discipline their young kids by hitting/spanking should be thrown in prison.
Kassie09
10/29/08, 01:19 PM
My parents pretty much set a simple rule, you misbehave, you get the belt. That was always the standard punishment. However, being grounded would have been 83409x better.
Definitely not hitting my kids or letting my husband do it, teaching violence is ftl.
My parents pretty much set a simple rule, you misbehave, you get the belt. That was always the standard punishment. However, being grounded would have been 83409x better.
Definitely not hitting my kids or letting my husband do it, teaching violence is ftl.
the belt ftl.
Smash Adams
10/29/08, 01:20 PM
My parents pretty much set a simple rule, you misbehave, you get the belt. That was always the standard punishment. However, being grounded would have been 83409x better.
Definitely not hitting my kids or letting my husband do it, teaching violence is ftl.
this explains so much
and I just got TV taken away
Kassie09
10/29/08, 01:21 PM
the belt ftl.
Definitely ftl!
this explains so much
and I just got TV taken away
Hahaha, whatttt does that explain?
Smash Adams
10/29/08, 01:22 PM
Definitely ftl!
Hahaha, whatttt does that explain?
why you became an emo rebel goth crazy kid
Damn, Ian is like a Hawk whenever Kassie posts.
Kassie09
10/29/08, 01:24 PM
why you became an emo rebel goth crazy kid
Hahaha, it is definitely their fault.
Maybe if they had just taken away my TV, I'd be like you Ian. Perfect.:-d
Kassie09
10/29/08, 01:24 PM
Damn, Ian is like a Hawk whenever Kassie posts.
I know, he's kinda like an e bully.
We need a hall monitor to control him.
Smash Adams
10/29/08, 01:25 PM
Damn, Ian is like a Hawk whenever Kassie posts.
well she posts so infrequently I want to say s'up, and it's not just with Kassie
Hahaha, it is definitely their fault.
Maybe if they had just taken away my TV, I'd be like you Ian. Perfect.:-d
exactly I'm a good kid
4N6 science
10/29/08, 01:25 PM
I actually got my mouth washed out with soap when I was younger for cussing. And I've been spanked and smacked in the face before. But those were extreme circumstances.
I know, he's kinda like an e bully.
We need a hall monitor to control him.
good thinking.
Hahaha, it is definitely their fault.
Maybe if they had just taken away my TV, I'd be like you Ian. Perfect.:-d
hahahaha
well she posts so infrequently I want to say s'up, and it's not just with Kassie
exactly I'm a good kid
haha right!
Kassie09
10/29/08, 01:26 PM
well she posts so infrequently I want to say s'up, and it's not just with Kassie
exactly I'm a good kid
I'm a better kid.
ActionActionFan
10/29/08, 01:27 PM
My parents grounded me.
My father's hand was usually the weapon of choice.
Burning Star IV
10/29/08, 01:45 PM
My parent used to spank when we were little.
thespearkid
10/29/08, 02:11 PM
parents that discipline their young kids by hitting/spanking should be thrown in prison.
Wrong, although I would never spank my kids. I was spanked as a child and I'm perfectly fine. As long as it doesn't become excessive beating, it's fine.
a_money
10/29/08, 03:01 PM
My parents never hit me. Just yelled. A LOT.
One of my best friends recently told me she was hit as a child, and it really freaked me out. But she said she wouldn't change it if she could. Which I find really weird. I felt super guilty for some reason.
hero_dujour
10/29/08, 03:09 PM
Yeah they spanked me sometimes, I honestly don't see what the big deal is, it was just to discipline me when I misbehaved. I'm glad I was rasied this way, too many kids I see are spoiled, whiny brats cause their parents let them do whatever they want, whenever they want.
googirl8907
10/29/08, 03:14 PM
My parents spanked me when I was younger.
tomakebelieve
10/29/08, 03:19 PM
i was never spanked growing up. my parents usually punished me by taking away all priviledges for the remainder of the day, and usually that was enough for me. usually after a few hours of getting in trouble, i usually understood why i was in the wrong, and then got over it.
skashroomking
10/29/08, 03:21 PM
when i was younge, about 5,6,7 , my parents set a pretty
resonable rule, if i fuck up, i get the belt or the switch(a stick used for hitting) which hert like a bitch
so i pretty much got in to trouble behind there backs so i wouldnt get punished, it worked fo meh
When I was really young and really misbehaved, I was spanked with a wooden spoon. Oh how I loathed that spoon, with its hole for better aerodynamics.
TheSkyline
10/29/08, 03:34 PM
parents that discipline their young kids by hitting/spanking should be thrown in prison.
Exactly what I think. My parents think the same too. My mom spanked me once when I was a kid, and she said it shut me up for like a week. She felt so bad she's never done it since. haha
Chancetobe
10/29/08, 04:22 PM
I think I was hit maybe twice in my life. My parents didn't really do that. The two times they did, they apologized profusely after. I didn't get grounded either. My parents basically didn't punish me. They would just yell at me, and that was it.
AussieBoy
10/29/08, 04:34 PM
i use to get a good wack on the butt, with the old wooden spoon!! which i totally deserved cause i was a little dirt bag as a kid (could still be debated now...)
was funny when it broke a couple times and a laugh at them! and they would try try to hold back laughing too
my dad kicked my ass so bad, so many times that our walls might as well have been painted red. i try not to think about it, last time he kicked the living daylights outta me, it was about 5 years back, it was also the day i finally stood up to him. i swore all those many nights that i would treat my children differently, treat them civil. my father loves me and i him. his father, my grandfather did the same to him, it was the only way he knew. i will stop this chain.
.invisible ink.
10/29/08, 05:26 PM
my mom used to beat the hell out of me when i was growing up, and she'd yell like crazy (often for no good reason at all, i.e., my room wasn't clean enough). It seriously bordered on/crossed the line into child abuse from my perspective. She has a very selective memory of it now and doesn't really own up to it like I wish she would but what can I do? At least we have a pretty decent relationship about 70% of the time nowadays, unlike when I was in high school. In addition to being physically and verbally abusive, she got so mad at me for hanging out with kids she didn't think were good influences and getting arrested for having a bowl in my car, that she sold all my cds (200+) and burned my posters, band t-shirts, and took away my car and banned me from seeing nearly all my friends...all of which led up to me going to college a year early, to get the fuck out of her house.
Fallinto_rhythm
10/29/08, 05:32 PM
I never did anything to serious out of talking back. She would take the computer away and not let me to out on weekends. As I hit 17 and recieved my license I would do more and she just stopped, and let me make my own mistakes.
ihatecayte
10/29/08, 05:40 PM
i got things taken away, mostly.
i think i got my mouth washed with soap once for some serious back-talking-- one mouth soaping was plenty for me.
and i think i got spanked maaaaaybe a handful of times, and only when it was something gnarly-bad.
i have no problem how any of my discipline was handled in retrospect.
smithariko
10/29/08, 06:07 PM
my mom used to beat the hell out of me when i was growing up, and she'd yell like crazy (often for no good reason at all, i.e., my room wasn't clean enough). It seriously bordered on/crossed the line into child abuse from my perspective. She has a very selective memory of it now and doesn't really own up to it like I wish she would but what can I do? At least we have a pretty decent relationship about 70% of the time nowadays, unlike when I was in high school. In addition to being physically and verbally abusive, she got so mad at me for hanging out with kids she didn't think were good influences and getting arrested for having a bowl in my car, that she sold all my cds (200+) and burned my posters, band t-shirts, and took away my car and banned me from seeing nearly all my friends...all of which led up to me going to college a year early, to get the fuck out of her house.
this is really fucking crazy. if my mom ever touched my cds or burned my posters i swear i'm going to kill her. i'm really sorry :-(
my mom still yells at me for my room not being clean enough, and she recently stopped making me go to bed at 10:00 just this year. i would get spanked a lot when i was little, and i would be forced to miss meals if i "misbehaved". at times she'd lock me in the bathroom or my bedroom until i stopped crying. presently i get yelled at for ridiculous reasons and i have to deal with my mom's inability to listen and her short irrational temper.
AussieBoy
10/29/08, 06:12 PM
this is really fucking crazy. if my mom ever touched my cds or burned my posters i swear i'm going to kill her. i'm really sorry :-(
my mom still yells at me for my room not being clean enough, and she recently stopped making me go to bed at 10:00 just this year. i would get spanked a lot when i was little, and i would be forced to miss meals if i "misbehaved". at times she'd lock me in the bathroom or my bedroom until i stopped crying. presently i get yelled at for ridiculous reasons and i have to deal with my mom's inability to listen and her short irrational temper.
hell yeah! i was always threatened with my drum kit getting thrown over the balcony (and trust me she would) but the only way to combat that is threaten to throw there shit over too (in my mums case, her gay little japanese style blue and white porcelain cups n stuff in a cupboard) seemed to work
.invisible ink.
10/29/08, 06:13 PM
this is really fucking crazy. if my mom ever touched my cds or burned my posters i swear i'm going to kill her. i'm really sorry :-(
my mom still yells at me for my room not being clean enough, and she recently stopped making me go to bed at 10:00 just this year. i would get spanked a lot when i was little, and i would be forced to miss meals if i "misbehaved". at times she'd lock me in the bathroom or my bedroom until i stopped crying.
thanks, it's cool now though. Our relationship is much much better but I can't be around her too much or things get crazy. We both have super strong, assertive/opinionated personalities and that doesn't quite work together, but living away from home for a number of years has brought us closer together and i am so grateful for her being in my life, it's insane. Some people just aren't meant to spend too much time together, and I don't feel it's ever right to use physical violence to "teach" someone - it just breeds contempt, and doesn't correct the issue 99% of the time. Yelling isn't right either, it's just offensive and doesn't get your point across well. Too bad not everyone realizes this stuff.
On a lighter note, The Fresh Prince's "Parents Just Don't Understand" started going through my head because of this thread. :)
lew_1987
10/29/08, 06:33 PM
Got grounded, got banned from playing video games, had to sit in a chair until I was told I could move, got sent to my room, got hit a few times when I was really bad.
spanking is fine when it is appropriate. i feel like if someone is totally against it/hates it/wants it outlawed is probably a victim of abuse of some sort. and i am sorry about that, that truly sucks and it should not have happened. but there is nothing wrong with spanking in certain circumstances for the betterment of the child.
AussieBoy
10/29/08, 06:55 PM
spanking is fine when it is appropriate. i feel like if someone is totally against it/hates it/wants it outlawed is probably a victim of abuse of some sort. and i am sorry about that, that truly sucks and it should not have happened. but there is nothing wrong with spanking in certain circumstances for the betterment of the child.
totally i quick whack on the bum (that only stings for a few seconds) when nothing else is working is sometimes the best thing...
hows this though
on our news here, a grandma who is the legal guardian of her grandparents (as parents died in accident) gave one of the kids a smack on the bum, this got reported and now the 3 kids r living in seperate orphaages, cause anyone guardians other than parents smacking kids results in that!!
totally i quick whack on the bum (that only stings for a few seconds) when nothing else is working is sometimes the best thing...
hows this though
on our news here, a grandma who is the legal guardian of her grandparents (as parents died in accident) gave one of the kids a smack on the bum, this got reported and now the 3 kids r living in seperate orphaages, cause anyone guardians other than parents smacking kids results in that!!
that is utterly retarded.
You shouldn't ever hit them to make yourself feel better. If they're just being a brat - that's no excuse for a spankign. That's just what kids do. If you don't want an annoying, whining semi-human running around - don't have kids. Simple.
If you're going to hit them, hit them to teach them something. If they're reaching towards a hot stove, by all means slap their hand away. About to run out on the road? Smack them. It's a super learning tool.
fadedmemories
10/29/08, 07:59 PM
They hit me, but never too hard
smithariko
10/29/08, 08:04 PM
thanks, it's cool now though. Our relationship is much much better but I can't be around her too much or things get crazy. We both have super strong, assertive/opinionated personalities and that doesn't quite work together, but living away from home for a number of years has brought us closer together and i am so grateful for her being in my life, it's insane. Some people just aren't meant to spend too much time together, and I don't feel it's ever right to use physical violence to "teach" someone - it just breeds contempt, and doesn't correct the issue 99% of the time. Yelling isn't right either, it's just offensive and doesn't get your point across well. Too bad not everyone realizes this stuff.
On a lighter note, The Fresh Prince's "Parents Just Don't Understand" started going through my head because of this thread. :)
i hope very very much that this will happen when i move out. glad things are better though. :)
hell yeah! i was always threatened with my drum kit getting thrown over the balcony (and trust me she would) but the only way to combat that is threaten to throw there shit over too (in my mums case, her gay little japanese style blue and white porcelain cups n stuff in a cupboard) seemed to work
you always say really funny stuff. i tried that once, when i was 6 i broke my mom's head band because she broke something [stupid] of mine. i will never do that again, i got in a lot of trouble.
banditandrew
10/29/08, 08:07 PM
i got spanked twice when I was little
and treated with the belt a few times, but my dad was never abusive
i come from a hispanic background so that is their parenting style
it was a good thing though, i ended up being a great kid...(haha)
spansen
10/29/08, 08:41 PM
i used to be spanked if i did something really bad, most times i was just sent to my room..
i turned out just fine. and my dad, who did the spanking, and i get along great.. much more so than my mom and i.
Willy McFurgle
10/29/08, 10:03 PM
My dad used to hit me with a belt when i was a lil kid, one time he left an imprint of a belt on my leg that bruised for over two weeks.
percussionguita
10/29/08, 10:04 PM
I think it all depends on how your parents would brought up and what part of the country or world you're from.
I'm from the South and parents spanking their children is not uncommon when they are misbehaving. I think it all deals with the severity of the discipline. A smack on the leg or buttocks is usually the norm but if it bruises then I believe that would be abuse.
Which brings to my question for some of you Non-Southern people.
Does your schools paddle students?
Again being from the South, more importantly Alabama, teachers paddle students who have performed misconduct. IMO I believe that is abuse. It's not even their child; it's just some random kid who has misbehaved and the teacher smacks their ass with some wood.
switches. get to pick your own, if they think it's too small, you go pick a bigger one till they're satisfied... that straightens up a kid real quick.
samsara
10/29/08, 10:21 PM
i think that getting something taken away is good enough
but if the kid is acting really bad then a swat on the but is not going to damage them for life
AussieBoy
10/29/08, 10:26 PM
switches. get to pick your own, if they think it's too small, you go pick a bigger one till they're satisfied... that straightens up a kid real quick.
whats a switch?
percussionguita
10/29/08, 10:34 PM
whats a switch?
A thin bush/tree branch or limb.
infamous_alias
10/29/08, 11:03 PM
parents that discipline their young kids by hitting/spanking should be thrown in prison.
You're a fucking idiot.
lew_1987
10/30/08, 02:52 AM
You shouldn't ever hit them to make yourself feel better. If they're just being a brat - that's no excuse for a spankign. That's just what kids do. If you don't want an annoying, whining semi-human running around - don't have kids. Simple.
If you're going to hit them, hit them to teach them something. If they're reaching towards a hot stove, by all means slap their hand away. About to run out on the road? Smack them. It's a super learning tool.
Like not to be a little whining bitch?
fadedmemories
10/30/08, 02:54 AM
i think that getting something taken away is good enough
but if the kid is acting really bad then a swat on the but is not going to damage them for life
Agreed completely
thespearkid
10/30/08, 09:05 AM
Like not to be a little whining bitch?
:nod:
xAnti-Violentx
10/30/08, 09:09 AM
My parents never hit me. They just yelled a lot. And my mom always said bad things to me which still hurt me sometimes. I got grounded very rarely.
But now that I'm older they simply don't care about anything sometimes.
popdisaster00
10/30/08, 09:44 AM
I got spanked in elementary school. That was fucked up. I also got my mouth washed out with soap once, too. But my Dad is a lot older than most of my friend's dads, he definitely grew up in a different time. I will never do any of that stuff to my kids. ever.
deFobbed14yrs
10/30/08, 11:28 AM
i hink physical is beter than mental. mental shit stays longer then a smack to the head of butt. all those spoild bratty kids could all use a little smack. i do beleive it makes kids think before they do something. but its also good to reward fo good behavior b/c hen kids wont want to do bad things
i hink physical is beter than mental. mental shit stays longer then a smack to the head of butt. all those spoild bratty kids could all use a little smack. i do beleive it makes kids think before they do something. but its also good to reward fo good behavior b/c hen kids wont want to do bad things
*think
*spoilt
*then
i respectfully disagree.
smithariko
10/30/08, 11:37 AM
i hink physical is beter than mental. mental shit stays longer then a smack to the head of butt. all those spoild bratty kids could all use a little smack. i do beleive it makes kids think before they do something. but its also good to reward fo good behavior b/c hen kids wont want to do bad things
agreed.
alice+interiors
10/30/08, 11:51 AM
I was brought up that I got smacked when I misbehaved and it worked, the method is fine.
ReadyForAction
10/30/08, 12:36 PM
I was spanked occasionally but threatened with a spanking much more regularly. What's funny is that after my parents got divorced and I grew up a bit, I became much taller and stronger then my mom, and would actually laugh at her attempts to physically punish me
then she learned how to throw
hard
on that note, spanking is good moderation, sometimes kids just won't listen, so a smack on the butt get's their attention
mynameisX
10/30/08, 01:17 PM
My parents spanked me, and I'm glad they did. I never listened otherwise. I plan to spank my kids when I have some, too. I have a healthy respect for my parents, and I'm normally an obedient kid, so I think it worked.
nonamesleft
10/30/08, 03:20 PM
My parents never hit me. That's just crazy talk. I'm also never gonna hit/spank/whatever my kids either. I'd rather not get my kids taken away...
lew_1987
10/30/08, 05:33 PM
My parents never hit me. That's just crazy talk. I'm also never gonna hit/spank/whatever my kids either. I'd rather not get my kids taken away...
As long as they don't bruise, you're OK ;-)
raychull
10/30/08, 08:57 PM
My mom used to spank me. She also had to wrestle me to get my clothes on a few times. I look back now and I think that was hilarious, but at the time, it obviously wasn't.
caLLmEnOoNe
10/30/08, 09:21 PM
they spanked me when i was like 6 for stupid shit like standing in front of the t.v.
h23eather
10/30/08, 09:24 PM
my parents fined me money when i misbehaved.
I was only grounded once...but it was for 6 months
killyourtv
10/30/08, 09:37 PM
I usually just got slapped in the face.
immorehxcthanu
10/30/08, 09:57 PM
I have a condition they may prevent me from ever having kids but if I ever do, I will never ever hit or spank them. I used to get spankings so bad I couldn't sit for hours.
I was grounded a couple times. Other than that, it was mostly stern talks. Probably why I'm such a fine specimen of a human being today.
CrenshawPunch
10/30/08, 10:32 PM
Mostly spankings. One night my dad beat the shit out of me because I didn't listen to my babysitter. That was not fun.
HelpMeSleep
10/31/08, 04:15 AM
oh, we had the paddle. but my brother actually enjoyed it, the little freak. I usually just ran straight up to my room and slammed the door to avoid it when I was a kid.
and we definitely got soap in our mouths if we said a bad word.
lew_1987
10/31/08, 04:21 AM
oh, we had the paddle. but my brother actually enjoyed it, the little freak. I usually just ran straight up to my room and slammed the door to avoid it when I was a kid.
and we definitely got soap in our mouths if we said a bad word.
I got that once after calling my brother a fucking bastard.
HelpMeSleep
10/31/08, 04:34 AM
I got that once after calling my brother a fucking bastard.
it tastes horrible, doesn't it? how old were you then?? I don't think anything quite that dirty came out of my mouth as a kid. I learned the f word in second grade and I learned bastard for austin powers.
but now every time I think of washing your mouth out with soap, I think of a christmas story. it was soap poisoning!! lol
SwishMX48
10/31/08, 04:40 AM
Mom and dad posses the key, instant slavery.
lew_1987
10/31/08, 04:44 AM
it tastes horrible, doesn't it? how old were you then?? I don't think anything quite that dirty came out of my mouth as a kid. I learned the f word in second grade and I learned bastard for austin powers.
but now every time I think of washing your mouth out with soap, I think of a christmas story. it was soap poisoning!! lol
Lol.
My mum used like proper 'old style' soap as well, so it really tasted bad. This wasn't no soft moisturising shit!
HelpMeSleep
10/31/08, 04:49 AM
Lol.
My mum used like proper 'old style' soap as well, so it really tasted bad. This wasn't no soft moisturising shit!
haha. parents get horrible tasting soap for a reason. I think I had to do liquid soap and a bar of soap at different points.
lew_1987
10/31/08, 04:56 AM
haha. parents get horrible tasting soap for a reason. I think I had to do liquid soap and a bar of soap at different points.
Liquid soap would probably be worse...
HelpMeSleep
10/31/08, 04:58 AM
Liquid soap would probably be worse...
yeah, I don't really remember, but I think it probably was.
Undue Noise
11/01/08, 09:06 AM
oh, we had the paddle. but my brother actually enjoyed it, the little freak. I usually just ran straight up to my room and slammed the door to avoid it when I was a kid.
and we definitely got soap in our mouths if we said a bad word.
Ah we had the soap as well. When I was six I called my dad a wanker without knowing what it meant. Then the soap came...That shit was nasty.
HelpMeSleep
11/01/08, 09:07 AM
Ah we had the soap as well. When I was six I called my dad a wanker without knowing what it meant. Then the soap came...That shit was nasty.
ughh. the soap is absolutely horrible. is wanker a really bad word?
Undue Noise
11/01/08, 09:10 AM
ughh. the soap is absolutely horrible. is wanker a really bad word?
Meh...to my dad it was. He gets more offended if I use any terms related to sex than if I swear.
HelpMeSleep
11/01/08, 09:13 AM
Meh...to my dad it was. He gets more offended if I use any terms related to sex than if I swear.
wait. what does wanker mean?
iAMhollyood315
11/01/08, 09:30 AM
i remember one time i was naked to take a shower when i was like 7 and rolling around naked and my mom yelled at me and spanked my ass really hard. other than that i lost all privleges.
KidRobot
11/01/08, 10:18 AM
You're a fucking idiot.
This.
screamoutmyname
11/01/08, 10:20 AM
i believe the methods of conception are pretty simple... you're 17 and you don't understand that shit yet?
[DontEverLie]
11/02/08, 12:58 PM
when i was really young my mom would take out like a rolled up news paper and we'd run out of the room
but as i got older she just grounded me
[DontEverLie]
11/02/08, 01:00 PM
wait. what does wanker mean?
+wanker usually means f**ker
but it depends +
HelpMeSleep
11/02/08, 02:06 PM
;25417322']+wanker usually means f**ker
but it depends +
that's what I always thought! thanks! :)
llwilliamsll
11/02/08, 02:53 PM
I got hit as a kid. I see nothing wrong with it because it kept me in line and disciplined. I would hit my kid if it called for i, but like my dad, would stop when the kid reached a certain age. And when I say hit, I just mean slap on the hand or something like that. No face hits.
samsara
11/02/08, 02:54 PM
I got hit as a kid. I see nothing wrong with it because it kept me in line and disciplined. I would hit my kid if it called for i, but like my dad, would stop when the kid reached a certain age. And when I say hit, I just mean slap on the hand or something like that. No face hits.
i agree with this
and the no face hits, it just gets ridiculous when you are older
cris545
11/02/08, 03:38 PM
My parents never hit much, I did get soap once, and belted once, but I think I did something really bad to get the belt. Other than that it was mostly grounding or threats. Whenever I said bad words I'd get threatened to be slapped but it never happened. I would never slap a child.
I remember once when we got older, my brother did something wrong and my mom freaked out about it, took her shoe off and started chasing him, I literally cracked up laughing, and my brother did too. Fun times.
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