My Grandfather

[_jonas]

I was just told that my grandfather was killed last night. I'm in shock.
The last I saw him was before Christmas of last year.
He had surprised me by picking me up after school and took me to the store and let me pick out any present I wanted. A really, unbelievably giving & loving man.

There wasn't a time I can remember him mad or being negative.
It's the first real loss I've experienced.
I really loved him and wish I'd had one last time to be with him to tell him how much I cared for him. That was always my problem, not being able to show someone how much I really appreciate them.

Here's a link http://preview.stltoday.com/stltoday/news/stories.nsf/stcharles/story/EFA9922519D0810E862574F90043859B?Op enDocument (he's Earl)

It's stupid and probably disrespectful for me to post this thread, but I was just wondering how other people have been able to cope with their own big losses.

[Nerdy91]

i am so sorry that happended my friend was killed in a head on collison and died instantly i cant drive because of this itll be a year in december sometimes i still cant get to sleep because i start thinking about it

[Kill_the_radio]

first of all, i'm so sorry for your loss.
and it's not stupid if you posted this thread, death is a natural process of life.

i'm still mourning my brother's death (he drowned in the ocean 2 years ago). Sometimes I find myself waking up in tears. I can't cry when I'm awake, only in my dreams. And it bothers me because i haven't been able to go through all those grieving stages everyone talks about...

[_jonas]

I still haven't cried. I don't want to, yet it feels so wrong not to.

[Kill_the_radio]

it's not wrong at all... maybe you're still in shock, give it some time.

[raychull]

I'm really sorry for your loss. I know how it feels, because my dad died in the past year. It's hard, but you have my condolances.

[_jonas]

Thanks. I'm really sorry about all your losses too.

It's just not fair. He didn't cause this accident, yet he has to die? It's not right.

[tomakebelieve]

I am so sorry for your loss. I kinda know how you're feeling exactly because I lost my father earlier this year. I know the easiest way for me to cope is to just talk about it--I don't really avoid answering questions when people ask me about it. At first, I did. I made sure I didn't ever have to mention my dad or how much it hurt, but I learned that its just easier to say what you feel. So basically, start a blog or just talk to your close friends/family/anyone.

I'm sorry for your loss once again. :(

[mellzie14]

My mother died a long ago. I still miss her every day and think about her every day. You never get over a death, you just learn to accept it. And everyone grieves differently. I almost never talk about my mother to other people because I feel like its a private thing. But thats specific to that situation. Unfortunately, I have been in situation where friends or people my age have died, and then I like to be around my friends.

I'm really sorry about your grandfather. Its always hard to lose people close to you.

[pilot_light_out]

sorry dude, chin up

[samsara]

sorry for the loss....

i think the best way to cope is to just listen to music and be alone or with family

the crying thing is inevitable, especially if you loved the person
sorry to say that but it always happens

it is good to cry it releases emotions that need to be felt

if you have any religious views then you will know that being on earth isnt always fun and now he is in a better place

just dont let it get you down and DO NOT repress it that is one of the worst things to do

i have been in this situation way too many times and i know how its felt to lose someone close to you

[raychull]

I know the easiest way for me to cope is to just talk about it--I don't really avoid answering questions when people ask me about it. At first, I did. I made sure I didn't ever have to mention my dad or how much it hurt, but I learned that its just easier to say what you feel. So basically, start a blog or just talk to your close friends/family/anyone.



I agree. I never really talked about it to anybody, because I didn't want to seem like I was fishing for attention, but people began to put two and two together. In the end, I think it's good to talk to somebody. At least an online friend, or something. Because it sucks, a lot, to keep things in.

[caLLmEnOoNe]

sorry hope things get better

[cris545]

I'm really sorry for your loss, I know what it's like. I lost my grandfather while I was in Europe for a month. The program director of the trip I was in lead me out of the group and told me, and told me to call my parents. I was shocked and couldn't stop crying, mainly because I hadn't shown him how much I cared for him, and I had actually begun to hate him because of him hurting my mother. It was just horrible to think that he had died and I had lost any chance of mending things with him. I got through it with time, knowing that he's in heaven and can see that I did care for him. Chin up, keep him in your heart and memory, and he'll always be with you.

[WakeUpBlondie]

Wow dude, I'm so sorry. I know exactly how you feel, it's so much worse when it's unnatural. My grandma died in '05 and it just hit me last year.

[SauzaGold]

I don't even know what to say man other than that's terrible and I'm really sorry.

[m_rue]

I'm so sad for you. I lost my Grandmother just over a year ago and had such a hard time dealing with it. Try not to feel guilty about not crying, because everyone deals with it differently.

[I'm DC]

That's no good, I'm sorry to hear that.
I lost one of my best friends a few years back, it was a really rough time. Chin up.

[spansen]

sorry

[Kill_the_radio]

sorry for the loss....

i think the best way to cope is to just listen to music and be alone or with family

the crying thing is inevitable, especially if you loved the person
sorry to say that but it always happens

it is good to cry it releases emotions that need to be felt

if you have any religious views then you will know that being on earth isnt always fun and now he is in a better place

just dont let it get you down and DO NOT repress it that is one of the worst things to do

i have been in this situation way too many times and i know how its felt to lose someone close to you

This.

I'm struggling 2 years later because I did this...

[samsara]

This.

I'm struggling 2 years later because I did this...

thats sucks, its really hard to live like that

[brandnew=love]

I'm sorry to hear all this! But he'll always be in your memory and your thoughts... I'm sure he was a great person... such a shame....

[chronomic]

i dont have grandpas anymore. i miss

[brandnew=love]

me neither... I only have one grandmother... real bummers...

[DaveZeroZero]

Does this mean that you're like spiderman now?

[brandnew=love]

:rotfl:
you have no idea how bad I needed that laugh... thanks!

[_jonas]

Does this mean that you're like spiderman now?
I do have that 78 year old man on my hit list if that's what you're asking.

[DaveZeroZero]

I do have that 78 year old man on my hit list if that's what you're asking.
Spiderman didn't have a hitlist, just semen rays coming out of his wrist!

[A Love American]

I'm really sorry about this. I've never really had to experience anything like this, so I don't really know what to say. But really, everything will be alright and I know you've got your friends to help you out anytime you need it. ;-)

[Metfan615]

wow I'm so sorry man