View Full Version : I like my friend and feel like I'm in middle school again
brentkid
11/30/08, 08:58 PM
So this is pretty immature for someone my age I guess but I've fallen for one of my good friends over the past week and don't really have a clue what to do. I always liked her a little but I figured it was nothing but a little crush. This past weekend we hung out a lot and last night we had a pretty lengthy conversation.
I guess to just fill people in, she had been hooking up with this other guy from home up until recently. She got upset and pulled me aside and started to cry about why it never works out with guys for her. It then somehow developed to her telling me about her roommate's problems with her family and how upset it makes her because she doesn't know how to help. I did my best to give her advice and just comfort her and once she calmed down she told me these little comments like how she had a crush on me in high school and that her mom jokingly said we should get married. We both left for school today and she was texting me all day.
I guess it seems childish but I really like her. I haven't felt like this about a girl in a very long time. I honestly would like for things to get more serious but I'm really clueless what to do. My family loves her and she really likes them as well. I just feel like we click on a level beyond just friends, and I'm pretty confident I've avoided being pinned as just a friend with her.
I guess I'm just looking for any kind of input.
morgan_w
11/30/08, 09:23 PM
So tell her?
CrenshawPunch
11/30/08, 09:53 PM
Man up, dude. If you let her slip away, you'll regret it forever.
it could work...but be careful, she may just be using you for comfort right now bc she's been recently heart broken.
sweetforever
11/30/08, 10:02 PM
Talk to her about it, like someone said, if you don't, you might end up regretting it.
llwilliamsll
11/30/08, 10:02 PM
Yeah, give it a shot I suppose but she might be manipulating you with that whole "I had a crush on you".
*crying stars*
11/30/08, 10:16 PM
The worst thing that could happen is that she isn't over her past guy and you might be her rebound.
But honestly, that is a risk worth taking.
brentkid
11/30/08, 10:18 PM
Yeah, I think I may just go for it when we're back for winter break in like two weeks. She's definitely not the manipulative type and to say she's heartbroken over this other guy and using me is so far from the the reality of things.
i dont mean using you as a hookup, but more emotionally for your companionship & having someone to talk to. You have a 50/50 chance here. I just mean from her perspective & her history of always meeting the wrong guys, she may be trying to convince herself that you two would be perfect together because everyone in her family adores you and you're such a great guy, but in reality the feelings just may not be there. it may be more for convenience.
Either way, i would say for now just text and take it as it is, since it's all still fresh...and if the flirting continues, you should totally go for it during break. Good luck.
djUbilla
11/30/08, 10:38 PM
Either way, i would say for now just text and take it as it is, since it's all still fresh...and if the flirting continues, you should totally go for it during break. Good luck.This needed seconding.
samsara
11/30/08, 10:42 PM
The only thing worse than telling her and getting turned down
is not telling her at all and regretting it and wondering what could have been.
caityconundrum
11/30/08, 10:58 PM
awwww. go for it.
anamericangod
11/30/08, 10:59 PM
Take advantage of her vulnerability. Now is the time.
redsand62
11/30/08, 11:01 PM
anal.
redsand62
11/30/08, 11:01 PM
i'm surprised it went as long as it did without the anal response, actually.
OldJersey
11/30/08, 11:05 PM
answer looks pretty obvious to me, go for it.
anamericangod
11/30/08, 11:35 PM
Pass her a note in class one day with boxes labeled "yes" and "no." Depending on which one she checks, you will know how to continue the relationship.
.invisible ink.
12/01/08, 03:01 AM
i dont mean using you as a hookup, but more emotionally for your companionship & having someone to talk to. You have a 50/50 chance here. I just mean from her perspective & her history of always meeting the wrong guys, she may be trying to convince herself that you two would be perfect together because everyone in her family adores you and you're such a great guy, but in reality the feelings just may not be there. it may be more for convenience.
Either way, i would say for now just text and take it as it is, since it's all still fresh...and if the flirting continues, you should totally go for it during break. Good luck.
excellent advice.
she's pregnant, she's trying to trick you into being the baby daddy.
run for it!!!
Pass her a note in class one day with boxes labeled "yes" and "no." Depending on which one she checks, you will know how to continue the relationship.
this was a great country music song.
chronomic
12/01/08, 11:04 AM
this was a great country music song.
haha what song is that? i knew that somehow sounded familar...maybe...
amysaurus
12/01/08, 11:04 AM
Awww you're soooo cute. Tell her how you feel because chances are she feels the same way
about3fitty
12/01/08, 11:08 AM
i'm surprised it went as long as it did without the anal response, actually.
anal is so september
bobby runs
12/01/08, 11:33 AM
Just man up. You might get hurt but ehhh. Better than not taking the chance
brentkid
12/01/08, 01:07 PM
So I just have to figure out if I wait to tell her when we're back from break or if I just go for it now.
caityconundrum
12/01/08, 01:13 PM
tell her NOW. waste no time hahah.
brentkid
12/01/08, 01:18 PM
Thing is, if I tell her now we won't be home for another two weeks or so, it wouldn't be in person. I know that's lame but I don't know if it's more advantageous to bank off of this good week together or wait.
caityconundrum
12/01/08, 01:20 PM
new suggestion: keep talking to her a bunch and tell her right before you're both going to see each other again. or just tell her you have something to tell her and then tell her in person?
brentkid
12/01/08, 01:28 PM
Yeah, I'm going to try and talk to her friend about this, who happens to be a good friend of mine as well.
I feel like it could go either way really.
caityconundrum
12/01/08, 01:31 PM
i hope it ends up working out adorably well so i can live vicariously through you.
hero_dujour
12/01/08, 01:39 PM
There's no reason to feel childish, you're still allowed to crush on your friend when you're 19 ;]
It sounds like she really likes you, I especially get that vibe when you mention how she told you that her mom said that you should get married. If she wasn't interested, I doubt she'd tell you that piece of information. Tell her how you feel. What's the worst that can happen? Good luck! Tell us how it goes.
anamericangod
12/01/08, 01:56 PM
You should stop being childish.
DaveZeroZero
12/01/08, 02:13 PM
Input, eh? I think you should input your p33n to her while she sleeps.
awakeohsleeper
12/01/08, 02:16 PM
Pass her a note in class one day with boxes labeled "yes" and "no." Depending on which one she checks, you will know how to continue the relationship.
That reminds me of the Showbread song title 'If you like me check yes, if you don't I'll die'
alltimehoe93
12/01/08, 02:25 PM
Awww you're soooo cute. Tell her how you feel because chances are she feels the same way
haha these were my thoughts exactly.
First, awwwwww. Then, he should tell her.
fulltiltxb00gie
12/01/08, 02:49 PM
go for it! seems like this could only turn out well right now. =)
brentkid
12/01/08, 09:00 PM
I talked to my friend about it who also happens to be friends with this girl. She seemed happy about it. We couldn't talk for long but that was encouraging. We're going to talk tomorrow about it more so I can wrap my head around this whole situation.
morgan_w
12/02/08, 04:06 AM
I talked to my friend about it who also happens to be friends with this girl. She seemed happy about it. We couldn't talk for long but that was encouraging. We're going to talk tomorrow about it more so I can wrap my head around this whole situation.
Definitely let us know how it plays out :D
caress me down
12/02/08, 05:39 AM
So this is pretty immature for someone my age I guess but I've fallen for one of my good friends over the past week and don't really have a clue what to do. I always liked her a little but I figured it was nothing but a little crush. This past weekend we hung out a lot and last night we had a pretty lengthy conversation.
I guess to just fill people in, she had been hooking up with this other guy from home up until recently. She got upset and pulled me aside and started to cry about why it never works out with guys for her. It then somehow developed to her telling me about her roommate's problems with her family and how upset it makes her because she doesn't know how to help. I did my best to give her advice and just comfort her and once she calmed down she told me these little comments like how she had a crush on me in high school and that her mom jokingly said we should get married. We both left for school today and she was texting me all day.
I guess it seems childish but I really like her. I haven't felt like this about a girl in a very long time. I honestly would like for things to get more serious but I'm really clueless what to do. My family loves her and she really likes them as well. I just feel like we click on a level beyond just friends, and I'm pretty confident I've avoided being pinned as just a friend with her.
I guess I'm just looking for any kind of input.
i just read your post in the postsecret thread, and then this. this is adorable. i really hope this works out for you!
Chancetobe
12/02/08, 05:09 PM
Good luck! Let us know how it goes.
spansen
12/03/08, 12:39 PM
i'll say it again. don't date a friend, you'd be at risk of losing everything if you try and it doesn't work out.
robat19
12/05/08, 11:32 AM
If she turns you down, things may be a little awkward seeing how you guys are friends.
i hope it ends up working out adorably well so i can live vicariously through you.
I don't know why this made me smile.
i'll say it again. don't date a friend, you'd be at risk of losing everything if you try and it doesn't work out.
Actually, statistics show that dating someone who was a friend first has better results than dating some random..
caityconundrum
12/06/08, 04:05 PM
I don't know why this made me smile.
i have that effect on people. ;-)
hahah nah, but i tend to tell people that a lot. if someone has a cute situation, i must know all the details.
wroteurname
12/06/08, 04:21 PM
Don't worry about losing her as friend, because if you guys are as close as you claim telling you want to be more than friends won't having anything but positive reactions, I'm being serious. Things could be wierd for like maybe a week but you guys'll be straight.
brentkid
12/06/08, 05:22 PM
Yeah, I'm not too worried about actually telling her. We've spoken every day since we both left for school again. The night she cried and we talked she did say I was her best guy friend. I don't think it's that "friend zone" trap though. I'm pretty good at reading relationships with other girls and what potential there is and I'm almost 100% sure I'm still fine. My best friend says I have a good shot so I'm staying optimistic.
My last relationship lasted about three years and we became really good friends before we started going out. I think that's why I'm so happy about this current situation - because it feels so familiar in the sense that I feel like it could really go somewhere.
ActionActionFan
12/06/08, 05:34 PM
Just go for it like everyone else said. Make ap proud.
spansen
12/06/08, 11:07 PM
Actually, statistics show that dating someone who was a friend first has better results than dating some random..
who studies that?
i'm speaking from personal experience. i dated a friend for over a year, and when we broke up it was ugly. to say the least, we're no longer friends, and i haven't spoken to her in over two, maybe three months.. i forget how long we're going on now.
who studies that?
i'm speaking from personal experience. i dated a friend for over a year, and when we broke up it was ugly. to say the least, we're no longer friends, and i haven't spoken to her in over two, maybe three months.. i forget how long we're going on now.
Haha, relationship psychologists!
i have that effect on people. ;-)
hahah nah, but i tend to tell people that a lot. if someone has a cute situation, i must know all the details.
That's why it's bets to have interesting friends! lol
Anne.Frank
12/07/08, 06:00 AM
Just tell her. The worst thing that can happen is that everything gets weird and she doesn't feel comfortable around you anymore. But honesly, if that were to happen it'd be back to normal within a couple of months. That happened to me and now we're best friends again and I see her only as a friend. Go for it, you'll feel better. And it's not immature to feel strongly about a girl. What would be immature is if you did not think about her feelings and just take advantage of her vulnerability.
Anne.Frank
12/07/08, 06:02 AM
who studies that?
i'm speaking from personal experience. i dated a friend for over a year, and when we broke up it was ugly. to say the least, we're no longer friends, and i haven't spoken to her in over two, maybe three months.. i forget how long we're going on now.
I think he means that the relationships are stronger and better if you were friends at first but if/when you break up it'll feel worse than if it were a random person.
spansen
12/07/08, 09:00 AM
I think he means that the relationships are stronger and better if you were friends at first but if/when you break up it'll feel worse than if it were a random person.
truth!
Haha, relationship psychologists!
shitty job.
caityconundrum
12/07/08, 01:03 PM
That's why it's bets to have interesting friends! lol
well of course. uninteresting ones wouldn't be any fun.
nice avatar by the way. i haven't watched that movie in far too long.
well of course. uninteresting ones wouldn't be any fun.
nice avatar by the way. i haven't watched that movie in far too long.
but at least making uninteresting friends makes you seem more interesting lol
It's such a class film! But No Country For Old Man is contendign with it for my fav film lol
caityconundrum
12/07/08, 01:51 PM
but at least making uninteresting friends makes you seem more interesting lol
It's such a class film! But No Country For Old Man is contendign with it for my fav film lol
hahaha sad, but true. i've yet to see no country. i'm so behind on movies.
DaveZeroZero
12/07/08, 02:04 PM
but at least making uninteresting friends makes you seem more interesting lol
It's such a class film! But No Country For Old Man is contendign with it for my fav film lol
If it's contending to be your favorite film, why don't you know its proper title?
caityconundrum
12/07/08, 02:15 PM
dave is the grammar hitler.
Giant Broccoli
12/07/08, 02:44 PM
Show her this thread
mattmatumbo
12/07/08, 02:54 PM
So this is pretty immature for someone my age I guess but I've fallen for one of my good friends over the past week and don't really have a clue what to do. I always liked her a little but I figured it was nothing but a little crush. This past weekend we hung out a lot and last night we had a pretty lengthy conversation.
I guess to just fill people in, she had been hooking up with this other guy from home up until recently. She got upset and pulled me aside and started to cry about why it never works out with guys for her. It then somehow developed to her telling me about her roommate's problems with her family and how upset it makes her because she doesn't know how to help. I did my best to give her advice and just comfort her and once she calmed down she told me these little comments like how she had a crush on me in high school and that her mom jokingly said we should get married. We both left for school today and she was texting me all day.
I guess it seems childish but I really like her. I haven't felt like this about a girl in a very long time. I honestly would like for things to get more serious but I'm really clueless what to do. My family loves her and she really likes them as well. I just feel like we click on a level beyond just friends, and I'm pretty confident I've avoided being pinned as just a friend with her.
I guess I'm just looking for any kind of input.
from my experience this means she likes you now
wait are you guys living in different cities?
Alextisonfire
12/07/08, 03:11 PM
Good luck sir.
brentkid
12/07/08, 03:42 PM
from my experience this means she likes you now
wait are you guys living in different cities?
We are from the same town but we go to different colleges.
Good luck sir.
Thanks.
TheSkyline
12/07/08, 04:52 PM
I have the same situation, but I guess I am young so it's not as weird. haha
Good luck man, hopefully I'll man up and ask out my girl soon too.
mattmatumbo
12/07/08, 05:46 PM
We are from the same town but we go to different colleges.
Thanks.
well winter break is just around the corner, that's at least 3 weeks of free time with her. good luck.
DaveZeroZero
12/08/08, 12:08 AM
dave is the grammar hitler.
Heil!
Charles777
12/08/08, 09:22 AM
Man up, dude. If you let her slip away, you'll regret it forever.
I agree with this dude
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