Knowing Nothing Is Better?

[punklet2101]

This may take some explaining so please bare with me.

I know for a fact that my dad (business man, travels overseas on a regular basis) is cheating on my mum with someone in Thailand. My mum knows this, and that hit the fan when she found out but I haven't heard them fight about it for a few days so I don't know what's happening.

Okay so now another problem concerning this... my dad left yesterday for a business trip to India for 2 weeks. Or at least that's what he told my mum. But the other morning, I overheard him on the phone to a colleague when he didn't know I was in the room and he said he was going to India for a week and then to Thailand for the second week. Hmm, I wonder.

Just to make sure, I said to my mum last night - "So where has dad gone?" and she said "India". So I guess he's lying to her to make her think he's not going to Thailand.

So now I don't know what to do... tell my mum and upset her while he's overseas and probably make things terrible...?

[Heartcore]

Yeah, I'd tell her, no offense but it sounds like your dad is being a real ass.

[punklet2101]

Yeah, I'd tell her, no offense but it sounds like your dad is being a real ass.
Yep, I know.

[Signals Corrupted]

im sorry, thats a terrible position to be in. if it was my parents, i'd tell her, but i dont like my dad

[Love As Arson]

Tell her. I realize that she is your mother, and you may not want to hurt her, but it is because you love her that you should tell her now, so she can make the proper decision, rather than allowing her to find out later and have the devestation exponentially larger.

[allelish]

Yeah, sorry Helen, you're dad sounds like a total bitch. I say tell your mum, and cut up his suits.

Worst position ever.

[brandnizzle32]

this is a sad position for a kid to be in, if it were me i would get a hold of my dad and tell him i know everything and that he should come clean to mom...... that way ur not in the middle then maybe ur dad will act like a real man and own up to his bull shit.

[hXc_pwnage]

Tell her. I realize that she is your mother, and you may not want to hurt her, but it is because you love her that you should tell her now, so she can make the proper decision, rather than allowing her to find out later and have the devestation exponentially larger.
If Dom is being serious and nice, then you should really listen.

And he's right.

[somesortofidiot]

call your dad, tell him that either he tells her, or you do.
hopefully he'll come to his senses, and if not, do what you must.
you can't let your mother continue living in a lie, i mean christ, yesterday was mothers day.

[richter915]

If Dom is being serious and nice, then you should really listen.

And he's right.
ya, take the advice already given...tell ur madre, she deserves to know.

[ArTkY_]

Yes, tell your mom.. although it is a terrible position, but if you love your mom then you would tell her

[richter915]

I would like to add that although telling ur mom is best, just make sure ur facts are right cause you don't want to potentially ruin a marriage (even more than it already is) cause you misheard something.

[allelish]

Yes, tell your mom.. although it is a terrible position, but if you love your mom then you would tell her
Of course she loves her mum! But eventhough she probably should tell her mum, i doubt its as easy as that. It must be the hardest thing in the world. About 100000000000 times harder than posting a message saying "you should tell her"

[Juliet R Delta]

Yeah, sorry Helen, you're dad sounds like a total bitch. I say tell your mum, and cut up his suits.

Worst position ever.
yes, you have to tell her, imagine how it will be otherwise if she finds out and then works out you knew all along... *shrugs* but cut the crotches out of his suits... now thats INTELLIGENT revenge. call me if you wanna talk ok?? *hugs*

[yeknom]

i would talk to your dad first, depending on how that reltaionship is, and tell him what you know, if he doesn't do anything about it, then you bring it up to your mom.

[jaimej]

i would talk to your dad first, depending on how that reltaionship is, and tell him what you know, if he doesn't do anything about it, then you bring it up to your mom.Thats what I would do. Have a talk with your Dad, threated to tell your Mom if he doesn't.

[PunkDrums182]

Tell her. I realize that she is your mother, and you may not want to hurt her, but it is because you love her that you should tell her now, so she can make the proper decision, rather than allowing her to find out later and have the devestation exponentially larger.
totally agree.

[IAmCountryMusic]

totally agree.
me too

[punklet2101]

Yeah... thank you for the advice everybody.

[jaimej]

Yeah... thank you for the advice everybody.
Sorry Helen, I hope everything works out for you. :(

[ArTkY_]

Of course she loves her mum! But eventhough she probably should tell her mum, i doubt its as easy as that. It must be the hardest thing in the world. About 100000000000 times harder than posting a message saying "you should tell her"
i know it is, as i said "although its a terrible position to be in". you just have to bring yourself to doing the right thing even though it seems hard

[punklet2101]

Sorry Helen, I hope everything works out for you. :(
No worries... it always will

[Jra1]

wait til he gets back, tell him you know and how bad it's making you feel (exxagerate if you have to...) and that you'll tell your mum and point out that if it carries on he will be destroying the family

[Brianfarg]

This may take some explaining so please bare with me.

I know for a fact that my dad (business man, travels overseas on a regular basis) is cheating on my mum with someone in Thailand. My mum knows this, and that hit the fan when she found out but I haven't heard them fight about it for a few days so I don't know what's happening.

Okay so now another problem concerning this... my dad left yesterday for a business trip to India for 2 weeks. Or at least that's what he told my mum. But the other morning, I overheard him on the phone to a colleague when he didn't know I was in the room and he said he was going to India for a week and then to Thailand for the second week. Hmm, I wonder.

Just to make sure, I said to my mum last night - "So where has dad gone?" and she said "India". So I guess he's lying to her to make her think he's not going to Thailand.

So now I don't know what to do... tell my mum and upset her while he's overseas and probably make things terrible...?

It's a terrible thing to hear, but I think you should probably say something to your mother. Or maybe wait until he gets back and tell him you heard him talking to his colleague.

[Deception]

The longer you wait to tell your mom the more its going to hurt when she finds out for herself, especially if she knows that you've known. She has every right to know, would you want to if your husband or whatever was cheating on you?


On the other hand Ignorance is bliss. But she will find out some how eventually.

[LoveLei16]

Aw, I'm so sorry. If it were me, I'd tell her. I think that she has a right to know and even though it's hard, I think it should be done.

I'm in a weird situation too. My parents are divorced and I heard my mom on the phone with her sister saying stuff about how could anyone cheat on someone, how could he be so cold, how could he do this, etc. So, I don't know if it was about him or not but it was akward and odd.

I'm really sorry and I'm sure that it will all work out somehow. Whenever something goes wrong in my life, I just think that everything happens for a reason. If you think about it, it's true. So, there's a reason for all of this, even though it doesn't seem like it now. I am really sorry and just know that all your friends are here for you. Even people you just met on a message board *smile*. I hope it works out in the end for you.

[brandnizzle32]

w/e who cares

[punklet2101]

w/e who cares
Um well I do for a start