Either way Sucks

[cuetheflames]

I broke up with my gf of 2 years a couple weeks ago.. Were in college and things are really starting to get so hard.

We hardly spend enough time together as it is and she has all these new friends that I feel like shed much rather be with then hang out with me. I would ask her "please will you come spend time with me, its important" and she would say no.

We fight quite often too.. cus at each other and say some nasty things.

When we dont fight we have fun. I love her so much and shes so beautiful. I think about her all the time and I want to be with her I just dont know that its right. I feel like if we have to battle so hard for it to work then we probably shouldnt be together, especially at a time in our lives where we should be having fun and not worrying about that kind of thing. I am willing to work on things but this would be like the 3rd chance and things have not changed yet.

She doesnt seem that willing to make sacrifices with smaller things in her life for US to progress. I miss her.. so its hard to tell if I did the right thing..

[kaycey]

don't do anything.

[bung]

tl/dr

[morgan_w]

If she's not willing to make it work, don't bother...

[cuetheflames]

tl/dr
whats that mean?

[cuetheflames]

If she's not willing to make it work, don't bother...

its just that shes not willing to like lead a life after this long that is considerate of us. its like she wants to be some single chick (minus the random hookups) with a boyfriend.

[morgan_w]

its just that shes not willing to like lead a life after this long that is considerate of us. its like she wants to be some single chick (minus the random hookups) with a boyfriend.

well if you don't want that, then it's time to move on, right? not compatible anymore...

[bung]

whats that mean?

Your thread was too long, so I didn't read it, but felt the need to make a post confirming the fact that I didn't read it.

too long/didn't read.

[MarsEatWorld]

Your thread was too long, so I didn't read it, but felt the need to make a post confirming the fact that I didn't read it.

too long/didn't read.
Hahahahaha.

[Mxbaby511]

I second that

tl/dr

[jawstheme]

If you broke up you can't expect her to want to spend a bunch of time with you, especially alone. It's college and she was high school so move on.

[MarsEatWorld]

If you broke up you can't expect her to want to spend a bunch of time with you, especially alone. It's college and she was high school so move on.
Your little "I'm not here. This isn't happening" made me have some very weird thoughts.
In fact, I am still having the weird thoughts.

thought provoking. very thought provoking.

[bung]

Ok I did take the time to read it now.

Some real advice: let it be, my friend. just let it be.

[Roboman]

Yeah, it doesn't sound like she gives a shit anymore. Sorry man.

[Kassie09]

It sucks a lot when that happens..but you said you've tried three times and through experience, I know once it doesn't work once, it never really does and it isn't the same.
Sorry though, I know its horrible.

[cuetheflames]

yeah. i think a lot of my sadness about this is the fact that i feel bad for her that i am making her feel bad cuz we broke up.

but theres nothing i can really do about this. i cant get back together with her just because im attracted to her or because i feel bad. i gotta live deliberately for myself. thanks guys.

[chronomic]

yeah. i think a lot of my sadness about this is the fact that i feel bad for her that i am making her feel bad cuz we broke up.

but theres nothing i can really do about this. i cant get back together with her just because im attracted to her or because i feel bad. i gotta live deliberately for myself. thanks guys.

good man. it's always tough. and in order for a relationship to last, both parties have to be sane and in-it-to-win-it. and unfortunately, 99.9% of women are not sane and wouldn't know how to win something if it hit them in the face.

[morgan_w]

and unfortunately, 99.9% of women are not sane and wouldn't know how to win something if it hit them in the face.

lol.

[Angylion Gefell]

It's not worth it.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

do the good times make up for the bad? and even if they do, can you put up with the fighting much longer? it sounds like she's looking for a way out but doesn't want to hurt you.

[Taking_Frags]

Hey man, I really feel you on this one. Hmm

[cuetheflames]

do the good times make up for the bad? and even if they do, can you put up with the fighting much longer? it sounds like she's looking for a way out but doesn't want to hurt you.

i mean the good times are great for sure. but at our age we shouldnt be fighting this much to hold it together.

[DaveZeroZero]

Give her a Columbian necktie.

[Mxbaby511]

Columbian neckties don't fix everything, Dave.

[DaveZeroZero]

Columbian neckties don't fix everything, Dave.
Lies, vicious lies.

[xxCarpeDiem]

If you are truly in love, it is more than worth it. Try telling her all this stuff. Communication is incredibly important, otherwise, you won't make it. But there will always be rough spots in every relationship you ever have with someone. The strength of the relationship and how much you want to make it work depend on whether that rough sport turns into the end or not.

[Heart-A-Tact]

xxCarpeDiem likes threads from '08.

[AP_Punk]

that's what she said!

referring to the thread title

[wroteurname]

lol

[EliteCombine]

Punch her in the chest, HARD.

[AJ F]

You're fucked dude, abandon ship mate.

[stayforawhile]

If she's not willing to make it work, don't bother...
I agree with this.

[Jake Denning]

both parties have to be sane and in-it-to-win-it. and unfortunately, 99.9% of women are not sane and wouldn't know how to win something if it hit them in the face.

Women know how to make me food in the kitchen.

THATS a win to me.

[Chancetobe]

Yeah, she sounds over you. Just move on.

[jagermeister]

Same thing happened to me dude, and in the end its better off to let her go and move on. Its been 8 months for me and I'm not going to lie - its been difficult, but its for the best. This girl obviously doesn't have half a clue if she fully says no to hanging out with you. You deserve better than that.

[AndrewIcex]

Poop.

[Sventhegreat]

i mean the good times are great for sure. but at our age we shouldnt be fighting this much to hold it together.

Yeah you said it right there man. Even though it sucks right now it will be in your best interest to just try and move on, as hard as that is going to be. Just go have fun and you'll stumble upon someone you fall head over heels for, I promise.

[screamoutmyname]

Just let it go. Sorry to be negative, but things just won't be the same. Move on and you'll definitely find someone better. Sorry to hear about it man, I know how you feel. Girls are pretty heartless sometimes.

Same thing happened to me dude, and in the end its better off to let her go and move on. Its been 8 months for me and I'm not going to lie - its been difficult, but its for the best. This girl obviously doesn't have half a clue if she fully says no to hanging out with you. You deserve better than that.

I remember we had a very similar situation right at the same time. Pretty shitty.

[HangsLikeHeaven]

If you're not together, stop trying to be best friends with her. It'll never work.

[jonny4star]

sometimes breaks are good things. maybe just live your life for a couple years and you will find eachother down the road. if not, then you will probably meet someone else that is just as good as her. theres more than one person for everyone in the world. if there wasn't than the odds are very good for everyone who has married someone they go to highschool with.

[Reaver]

lol, I find it funny how this thread is long over and you guys are still giving advice.

[jonny4star]

hah. never even realized

[AndrewIcex]

Still, poop.