Is there a real way to get over someone?

[oldwirehands]

Me and my ex broke up at the begining of April and I kind of shrugged it off when it happened. We knew each other for three months and were "official" for hardly a month. Last week, I realized that I am not over her at all and it sucks because I want to be so bad. She wants to be friends to because we did get really close for the three months we hung out. I totally opened up for her. I want to be friends but I don't know if I can. Sometimes I can talk to her no problems at all but sometimes I remember why she's so fucking incredible. I asked her a week or so after we broke up if she had feelings for me still. She told me "Not in that way." I know there is no chance in hell we are getting back together because she's already moving on. I don't talk to her that much anymore. Even though I want to. Not for the fact that I'm not over her but just because we got that close. Its like not being able to talk to your best friend. I know that it takes time to get over someone but does anyone have any tips for me? Keep in mind, I can't just go and date another girl. I had my chances but I couldn't stop thinking about my ex.

[IAmCountryMusic]

seriously i was just in the same situation until i found someone new that i really like and i have completely forgotten about my ex.

just try to forget her and find someone new.

coming from someone who was in the same situation, finding someone new really does work as hard as it is.

[apoemtothedead]

kill him

[oldwirehands]

Its very hard for me to meet girls I like though... more like girls that like me. I don't know, I always feel like I will not find anyone like her though. I'm going to keep trying to find someone though. Its a really good thing I have my music to occupy my time or I'd be 100% depressed right now.

[IAmCountryMusic]

Its very hard for me to meet girls I like though... more like girls that like me. I don't know, I always feel like I will not find anyone like her though. I'm going to keep trying to find someone though. Its a really good thing I have my music to occupy my time or I'd be 100% depressed right now.
just keep looking whether that means you need help from friends that might know of a girl


i actually started a band with all of the songs that ive written while going through the same situation, so i know exactly what you mean.

[urowndisaster52]

Me and my ex broke up
i would hope so. or else she would not be your ex then, would she?



(and not to be a dickhead, but it should be "my ex and I")

but scene points for your loss!

[IAmCountryMusic]

but scene points for your loss!
i gave some too

[Jra1]

my cat died...hook me up?

[IAmCountryMusic]

my cat died...hook me up?
wrong thread

[Jra1]

:(

[IAmCountryMusic]

alright fine :headshake

[oldwirehands]

If the whole world was about to be destroyed... scene points could make it all better :)

[Mitch]

Give more advice to oldwirehands that I can steal.

Thanks :-)

[Reaver]

two things that popped in my head when I read this.

1. you sound like a nice guy who can't really refuse her anything. but you can't stay friends with her if you still have those feelings. in fact, best you can do is not to see her at all for a long time.

2. don't look out for a girl, who is like her. but for a girl you simply like. don't compare your dates with your ex.

[Manicapathy]

I'd try world of warcrack.....that completely dissolved all relationships I had. THANKS BLIZZARD!......./wrists

[4N6 science]

I know the answer and it starts with and A and ends with nal.

[Manicapathy]

alcohol doesn't have an "N" in it

Edit: OH! I GET IT!

[Charles777]

Staying involved will only make it worse.

Edit: Oh, this is old

[wayward_girl07]

dont be her friend, she doesn't deserve it. time for you to be selfish and start fresh. she may be great, but not great for you. love is a bitch unfortunately, sometimes it doesn't work....

[phil19]

id advise steering clear of her. at least in the short term. if talking with her reminds you of how awesome she is and that you still have feelings for her, its best not to put yourself in that situation, as its just gonna keep hurting as she doesnt want to be with you.

[zion the lion]

Holy shit this one's old. I assume he's moved on at least twice by now.

[quarterhorse101]

Me and my ex broke up at the beginning of April and I kind of shrugged it off when it happened. We knew each other for three months and were "official" for hardly a month. Last week, I realized that I am not over her at all and it sucks because I want to be so bad. She wants to be friends to because we did get really close for the three months we hung out. I totally opened up for her. I want to be friends but I don't know if I can. Sometimes I can talk to her no problems at all but sometimes I remember why she's so fucking incredible. I asked her a week or so after we broke up if she had feelings for me still. She told me "Not in that way." I know there is no chance in hell we are getting back together because she's already moving on. I don't talk to her that much anymore. Even though I want to. Not for the fact that I'm not over her but just because we got that close. Its like not being able to talk to your best friend. I know that it takes time to get over someone but does anyone have any tips for me? Keep in mind, I can't just go and date another girl. I had my chances but I couldn't stop thinking about my ex.

I've had this before with a guy I was kind of seeing, and it went from seeing every day to... not at all in months and he had moved on with like five girls which to say the least- hurt. My best advice is to, since she doesn't want to be friends (? yes?) is to just absorb yourself with your friends and things that interest you not concerning her and just to do stuff that keeps you occupied so your mind doesn't wander. Pretty soon you'll find that you've moved on and didn't realize it. Hope that helps!

** ha i didn't look at the date.

[oldwirehands]

I've had this before with a guy I was kind of seeing, and it went from seeing every day to... not at all in months and he had moved on with like five girls which to say the least- hurt. My best advice is to, since she doesn't want to be friends (? yes?) is to just absorb yourself with your friends and things that interest you not concerning her and just to do stuff that keeps you occupied so your mind doesn't wander. Pretty soon you'll find that you've moved on and didn't realize it. Hope that helps!

** ha i didn't look at the date.

I'm glad you bumped this because I forgot I even talked about it on this site. So weird. I'm actually still good friends with her haha. So it really did work out.

[oldwirehands]

Give more advice to oldwirehands that I can steal.

Thanks :-)

Great bump lol.

[zion the lion]

Great bump lol.

So...did you move on?

[jesse_hitz]

sorry to say man that this is the end of the line. It's really hard to be friends after a break up but sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. With my ex we managed to be good friends for almost 4 years now which is pretty unreal but in most cases it will not work. The way you make it sound is that she has already moved on and not really interested in even being friends but i will leave that up to your discretion. However in your case maybe it is also best to just move on as hard as it is it's the best thing to do. Just know that if you can be friends then great, if not then just understand that you need to move on. Hope it works out for the best :)

[MidCal]

Bone her friend

[TMartin442]

rebound

[oldwirehands]

I love how everyone ignored the post about me being friends with her and that this post is over four years old hahaha.