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Lets say hypothetically you were really shy went it came to hitting on girls. How did you overcome this?
Ya know, other then alcohol.
spansen
12/08/08, 03:09 PM
there's no real answer to that, you just have to be comfortable in your own skin.
just throw out some compliments in a nice manner, don't be too invasive.
I can do compliments, I can be laid back, I just can't first move to save my sex life.
Hypothetically of course.
spansen
12/08/08, 03:12 PM
haha.. well, given that i would venture a guess that you're pretty inexperienced in general?
spansen
12/08/08, 03:12 PM
... hypothetically speaking. haha
Extremely inexperienced.
Realistically, I'm boning as I type this. Which makes me a very talented individual.
spansen
12/08/08, 03:17 PM
well, i was the same. and then i had a relationship for a year, came out broken-hearted for a while.. but now i'm more comfortable in my own skin than i ever have been..
it just takes time, and a little experience, to do what you're actually thinking---rather than just wishing you could or did do something.
Your saying I need to be in a relationship to get in to... a relationship
(But, your right, I should act and not just consider acting. That's the problem though, it's not easy.)
How did you end up in your first relationship?
spansen
12/08/08, 03:25 PM
it wasn't my first relationship, but it was the first one where anything happened really..
she told me she had always had a crush on me-- and i never thought much of her past she was cute.. and that was where we started.. then we dated for over a year, and now i refuse to talk to her. haha
Similar situation, ironically. I had a very close friendship with a girl who was interested in me for a couple years, but I didn't feel the same way. Now I don't want to talk to her...
Im curious, why do you refuse to speak with her?
spansen
12/08/08, 03:31 PM
hahaha..
because it was a very ugly breakup, and when we finally made peace and all that-- she still didn't want to hear from me regularly or very much for a while, and with that i had the time to think it over and i realized i couldn't be her friend-- knowing what her friendships with her other exes were i realized what i had been fighting for wasn't actually worth it.
Heh.
Thanks for sharing man. ;)
Getup and Dance
12/08/08, 03:35 PM
If you are hung like a horse just walk into a group of girls over 18 and pull out your dick.
They will either get scared or will want you.
Has that ever worked?
Seriously. Though. Cause Im not against the idea, i just want reassurance.
Getup and Dance
12/08/08, 03:43 PM
I haven't done it.
But really, if you are looking to get laid at a party or something, just ask the girl "Do you want to fuck". They can either say Yes or No.
vanityxisxkey
12/08/08, 03:46 PM
Haha all the parties I go to, there's nothing but sluts.
One minute you see them talking all close to someone, the next they're fucking them upstairs, about an hour later they're on to the next guy.
Yuck.
spansen
12/08/08, 03:46 PM
don't listen to that. haha
Yeah, but its not 50/50 lol. That line will get you more no's then yes's. Hypothetically.
Getup and Dance
12/08/08, 03:52 PM
Not if you hump the slutty girls.
spansen
12/08/08, 03:52 PM
probably not just hypothetically.
probably not just hypothetically.
Lol.
I don't really attend parties, on a side note.
vanityxisxkey
12/08/08, 03:56 PM
Lol.
I don't really attend parties, on a side note.
Well start going to them. You'll meet someone. You'll have a good time. Bam. Date.
Getup and Dance
12/08/08, 04:02 PM
Lol.
I don't really attend parties, on a side note.
Parties are a good social place to meet people.
That way they wont be scared as much and you can start with a small conversation.
I feel like meeting people isnt a big problem (work, school), after I meet them I tend to choke.
Getup and Dance
12/08/08, 04:10 PM
Well also, meeting people like that can be Intimidating, where as a party where she has friends around would make it easier to talk and make her feel a little bit better.
Wells theirs already a girl, right now im working on not fucking it up.
You just have to put yourself out there and do it... don't think about it beforehand or you will overthink it and not end up doing it.
Getup and Dance
12/08/08, 04:46 PM
Just tell her how you feel, or you might end up in the friend zone, and once you are in the friend zone its very hard to get out.
I have to over think it, man. I analyze everything.
habit.
Just tell her how you feel, or you might end up in the friend zone, and once you are in the friend zone its very hard to get out.
Lmao. I was just in that thread in general.
No friend zone. This time I sink or sail on bad game.
spansen
12/08/08, 05:52 PM
Just tell her how you feel, or you might end up in the friend zone, and once you are in the friend zone its very hard to get out.
... what was that one ryan reynolds movie? ha
Heart-A-Tact
12/08/08, 05:54 PM
... what was that one ryan reynolds movie? ha
Just Friends.
spansen
12/08/08, 05:55 PM
ahhh yes, i watched that on comedy central a month or two ago.
ReadyForAction
12/08/08, 06:12 PM
The trick is to fake confidence, if you spend enough time pretending that you do, eventually it comes to you
quarterhorse101
12/08/08, 06:39 PM
mm confidence is everything.
overanalyzing is gross, but if you communicate well it shouldn't really be a problem
stop worrying on how you'll fuck up and just enjoy what you've got
swt_catastrophe
12/08/08, 06:45 PM
whore yourself out. you'll gain some confidence pretty quickly.
more heart
12/08/08, 06:46 PM
yeah just try talking to them
spansen
12/08/08, 07:05 PM
whore yourself out. you'll gain some confidence pretty quickly.
hey.
pisspants
12/08/08, 08:01 PM
hmmm, "just friends" story of my life......
You need a good opening line. Not a fucking pick up line, but an ice breaker that's minimal in threat and somewhat interesting. Like this for example, which has worked for me on numerous occasions 'Excuse me.. I can't figure this out, it's been driving me crazy. Do you know how much polar bears weigh?" I've had one girl say something other than no, so when they say no follow it with "Is it enough to break the ice?" Yeah, it's borderline gay, but it works. If they don't get it, walk away, you don't want to be with them.
There is a million things you can say essentially, but you want to get them to say something back to you that you can play off. Also, a line that works every single time, for me anyway, is "Hey, nice shoes." That's how I got one of my exs.
Russia08
12/09/08, 07:38 AM
Lets say hypothetically you were really shy went it came to hitting on girls. How did you overcome this?
Ya know, other then alcohol.
well just get her number or something and txt her and let her know that ur interested..it helps a bit cuz it's not so awkward..and then just ask her to hang out and maybe she will be the one hitting on u.
Heart-A-Tact
12/09/08, 07:41 AM
You need a good opening line. Not a fucking pick up line, but an ice breaker that's minimal in threat and somewhat interesting. Like this for example, which has worked for me on numerous occasions 'Excuse me.. I can't figure this out, it's been driving me crazy. Do you know how much polar bears weigh?" I've had one girl say something other than no, so when they say no follow it with "Is it enough to break the ice?" Yeah, it's borderline gay, but it works. If they don't get it, walk away, you don't want to be with them.
There is a million things you can say essentially, but you want to get them to say something back to you that you can play off. Also, a line that works every single time, for me anyway, is "Hey, nice shoes." That's how I got one of my exs.
Haha. That's good.
Haha. That's good.
Give it a shot sometime and let me know how it worked.
spansen
12/09/08, 09:14 AM
You need a good opening line. Not a fucking pick up line, but an ice breaker that's minimal in threat and somewhat interesting. Like this for example, which has worked for me on numerous occasions 'Excuse me.. I can't figure this out, it's been driving me crazy. Do you know how much polar bears weigh?" I've had one girl say something other than no, so when they say no follow it with "Is it enough to break the ice?" Yeah, it's borderline gay, but it works. If they don't get it, walk away, you don't want to be with them.
There is a million things you can say essentially, but you want to get them to say something back to you that you can play off. Also, a line that works every single time, for me anyway, is "Hey, nice shoes." That's how I got one of my exs.
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