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bobby runs
12/17/08, 11:08 PM
If you go out on a lunch date it puts you in the friend zone.
What about a breakfast date?
(I'm in college so it's not THAT weird).
As a girl, I'd be down with a breakfast date and I wouldn't put the person in the friend zone.
And I may be totally jumping the gun, but I feel like it could kinda foreshadow what it would be like getting breakfast with the person after...you know, spending the night together.
But then again, I can never resist waffles.
bobby runs
12/18/08, 12:01 AM
As a girl, I'd be down with a breakfast date and I wouldn't put the person in the friend zone.
And I may be totally jumping the gun, but I feel like it could kinda foreshadow what it would be like getting breakfast with the person after...you know, spending the night together.
But then again, I can never resist waffles.
Weird, I'm originally from San Diego (college out here in KS) so yeah.
Weird, I'm originally from San Diego (college out here in KS) so yeah.
Oh really? That is weird. What part of San Diego?
I'm actually originally from Nor Cal but going to school down here.
you could go on a dinner date and still be friends with the person (if the person is ugly). to me it depends on what you do, what you say that kinda thing, but with dinner dates you have a lot more to work with so you should maybe try that next time.
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 03:54 AM
the real question is, how the hell do you get out of the friend zone?
http://no.exit.free.fr/Images/no_exit.gif
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 04:05 AM
i figured. stupid friend zone.
lol, why don't carry a mistletoe when you're with her.
;-)
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 04:17 AM
haha if only it were that easy. she is such an awesome person too. she insists on taking classes with me, calls me all the time about papers, and not just about hers, but calls asking if i need help. today was our last exam, and we went out for a few beers after, and it was amazing.
sounds like fun. why don't you just ask her point blank if she'd like to go for dinner and a movie with you.
i hope she isn't going out with anyone else, is she?
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 04:31 AM
she is not, she has been single for a year now, as have i. i've asked her numerous times if she wanted to go see a movie or go to dinner, and she has repeatedly, but very politely, said she couldn't make it or something. we've gone out for a beer or two a few times, and i go over to her place a lot to work on school stuff. she is a year older than me, and teaches at a private school, and since i am jobless and live off of loans, i don't think she sees me as an ideal boyfriend or something. who knows dude. i gave up trying to get out of the friend zone months ago.
wow! that's something. have you tried kissing her?
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 04:40 AM
nope. i don't want to mess up the friendship. but she is incredibly good looking, and such an amazing person, its hard not to want to make a move dude. i don't think i'm her "type" though.
well the way you talk about her i'm not surprised that she is. i think you should make a move on her before someone else does and if she's like wtf just blame it on the booze and go back to being friends. you have to know "what if?".
anything could happen.
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 05:04 AM
haha true dude. i was thinking of doing just that, because she just needs a few beers to start feeling them, but i don't know about making a move. if i do it now, and it backfires, i am in two classes with her next semester, and that would be really awkward then.
don't think about all that, if it doesn't work out just blame it on the booze and things will go back to how they were.
its a win, win(kinda win) situation.
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 05:22 AM
you know what, i think i'm going to ask her to go get a few beers and some food tomorrow night, and see where that goes.
well that's great, i hope things go according to plan.
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 05:40 AM
thank you sir. i hope they do as well. although, i was talking to my roommate about this situation the other day, and since my friend is Persian, according to my roommate it's not cool for them to date or marry non-Persian's? I have no idea if he made that up or not, haha.
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 05:51 AM
No idea man. Never really asked that. I think my roommate was just trying to make me feel better about the situation, haha.
if she's a hindu or a muslim then there may be a problem, but otherwise you're good to go.
RunInTheFront
12/18/08, 05:58 AM
I don't think she is, to be honest. She teaches at a private Christian school.
dude everything is going to be great, just stick to the plan.
i was stuck in the friend zone for about half a year, after a while I finally gave up. It sucks but it's something most guys have to go through.
Anthony Lutz
12/18/08, 07:05 AM
There was just a thread about this like a week ago...
James_Brand
12/18/08, 07:47 AM
If you go out on a lunch date it puts you in the friend zone.
What about a breakfast date?
(I'm in college so it's not THAT weird).
If she is willing to wake up to have breakfast with you, she is willing to wake up with you then have breakfast.
DaveZeroZero
12/18/08, 08:31 AM
I always end up in the friend zone, no matter what I do, so I can't really help you here :shrug:
I always end up in the friend zone, no matter what I do, so I can't really help you here :shrug:
lol.
MarsEatWorld
12/18/08, 09:04 AM
I always end up in the friend zone, no matter what I do, so I can't really help you here :shrug:
qft.
bladerdude360
12/18/08, 10:22 AM
there's already a thread about this, check it out. jason offered up crazy good advice haha http://www.absolutepunk.net/showthread.php?t=724942
bobby runs
12/18/08, 11:15 AM
i was stuck in the friend zone for about half a year, after a while I finally gave up. It sucks but it's something most guys have to go through.
Where did you go to high school? I've got a lot of friends from the KC area.
chronomic
12/18/08, 11:25 AM
fuckin bail dude. the moment she gets involved with someone else it's going to break your heart.
Where did you go to high school? I've got a lot of friends from the KC area.
I am currently a senior at Blue Valley Northwest HS, but I know people from all over. My CA class recently had a student-teacher who went by the name: Brendan Prauger. He was recently offered a job at Manhattan High to teach journalism. He's also a graduate of K-state. Just curious if you know of him, with you being in the Manhattan area and all.
When I was a kid I'd always end up at the Discovery Zone, but that's somewhere I usually wanted to be.
chasingsafety
12/18/08, 03:26 PM
i agree with others, you have to make a standard in the beginning. another thing that protects you is not to let too much time between dates. if you go on a first good date but no first kiss. you have to follow it up with another date soon. i have had a lot of failed attempts by letting too much time pass between dates and the spark has dwindled a bit
i am a long time member of the friend zone. it is next to impossible to get out of it. i only got out for a few moments haha then i got pulled back down into the friend zone. damn.
.invisible ink.
12/18/08, 03:44 PM
anything but dinner is a friend-zone date, sorry to tell you.
If you want some misogynistic (albeit good) advice on how to get chicks (at least the getting laid part, not getting in a relationship part) you should listen to Tom Leykis. He's a god amongst men for teaching guys how to get pussy. He's a radio talk show host that is nationally syndicated, and i'm sure you can find a stream online if he doesn't play near you.
Good luck and remember, never make/accept any date other than a dinner one if you're trying to actually hook up.
chasingsafety
12/18/08, 03:53 PM
anything but dinner is a friend-zone date, sorry to tell you.
If you want some misogynistic (albeit good) advice on how to get chicks (at least the getting laid part, not getting in a relationship part) you should listen to Tom Leykis. He's a god amongst men for teaching guys how to get pussy. He's a radio talk show host that is nationally syndicated, and i'm sure you can find a stream online if he doesn't play near you.
Good luck and remember, never make/accept any date other than a dinner one if you're trying to actually hook up.
ive heard this guy, he says it how it is, and tell dudes to stop being a pussy. though i wonder what this guy looks like?
thespearkid
12/18/08, 03:53 PM
anything but dinner is a friend-zone date, sorry to tell you.
If you want some misogynistic (albeit good) advice on how to get chicks (at least the getting laid part, not getting in a relationship part) you should listen to Tom Leykis. He's a god amongst men for teaching guys how to get pussy. He's a radio talk show host that is nationally syndicated, and i'm sure you can find a stream online if he doesn't play near you.
Good luck and remember, never make/accept any date other than a dinner one if you're trying to actually hook up.
I know you're a woman and smarter than anyone else here but I have to disagree. I figure in the college setting, the breakfast date can warrant something more than friendship since it requires getting up early, something you do not do unless you absolutely have to. I don't know, breakfast date may not necessarily be in the friend zone.
chasingsafety
12/18/08, 03:56 PM
nevermind. wow:
http://www.exposay.com/celebrity-photos/tom-leykis-2007-bench-warmer-gold-edition-trading-card-release-party-0CcAfQ.jpg
chasingsafety
12/18/08, 03:56 PM
i dont know if i should let that guy tell me how to get women
.invisible ink.
12/18/08, 03:58 PM
sure, he's super gross looking - but he gets TONS of pussy. Shit, so does that Mystery guy aka "The Pick-up Artist". Trust me, it's not all about looks for girls, we like a guy who knows how to play the game and has something to offer (not just a pretty face).
I know you're a woman and smarter than anyone else here but I have to disagree. I figure in the college setting, the breakfast date can warrant something more than friendship since it requires getting up early, something you do not do unless you absolutely have to. I don't know, breakfast date may not necessarily be in the friend zone.
thanks. you could be right, but we don't know the specifics of it - maybe it went down that they both have a 9am class so it's completely out of convenience that they're doing this? I don't think it's a good sign, no matter what the circumstances surrounding it are, to be honest.
AMickInFlames
12/18/08, 10:44 PM
anything but dinner is a friend-zone date, sorry to tell you.
If you want some misogynistic (albeit good) advice on how to get chicks (at least the getting laid part, not getting in a relationship part) you should listen to Tom Leykis. He's a god amongst men for teaching guys how to get pussy. He's a radio talk show host that is nationally syndicated, and i'm sure you can find a stream online if he doesn't play near you.
Good luck and remember, never make/accept any date other than a dinner one if you're trying to actually hook up.
If you're set on a breakfast date... make it on your own time. There's advantages to a breakfast date, because you have an endless possibility of excuses to get out of it. Meet for breakfast, have yourself a cup of coffee and your breakfast of choice and then get the hell out with an excuse of something important to do or even "Well, I've got things to take care of/people to meet".
At least then, even if you're in the friend zone, she'll know that you're not just waiting around for her and only available to her.
chasingsafety
12/19/08, 06:49 AM
wait so what happened with this breakfast date? any updates. tell me you went back and did her.
Swayback
12/19/08, 07:04 AM
For me, it doesn't matter what the date is (drinks, breakfast/lunch/dinner, etc.) - I always end up in the f'ing friend zone. Either that, or the "getting laid" part lasts about a month before the girl thinks things are getting too serious.
ShortyNC
12/30/08, 03:12 PM
So what happened with this? Did you ask her out? =)
bobby runs
12/31/08, 03:08 PM
wait so what happened with this breakfast date? any updates. tell me you went back and did her.
So what happened with this? Did you ask her out? =)
Well these breakfast "dates" have been going on for the second half of the semester. At first she had a boyfriend and it was just two friends going to eat breakfast. Eventually we started hanging out more and more and then after Thanksgiving she broke up with her boyfriend. Since we live on the same floor she came to me to comfort her but I was like thrown off by what to do.
Semester ended and I confronted her about us. I asked if she ever saw us being more than friends. She said we should just stay friends for now. I told her before she gave me a response that I would be happy going either way.
Last Tuesday I get a text from her saying "im not making out with matt (her ex)." I ask if that's a good thing. She says yes and I jokingly sent "who would you rather then??" After about 15 minutes I get a text from her saying you. I then proceed to ask her if she felt like this then why did she put me in the friend zone. We were supposed to talk about it later (since she was not in the right state to have that type of conversation). Its been over a week and we haven't talked at all.
I don't think she is, to be honest. She teaches at a private Christian school.
I was in the friend zone with my current girlfriend for over a yea. I watched her go through different boyfriends that treated her like shit, I've always had a crush on her and worshipped her. In the end i just came out and told her how i felt, funny thing is she felt the same way. We've been together for a year now.
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