The reason I listen to Brand New.

[Andy]

And for the record, this is the story about a girl and a failed relationship.

First of all, Ive known this girl for about 6-7 years, but it was only 3 years ago we really got to know eachother. Intellectually, we're a great match, she's really smart and loves music. I also think she's got fantastic looks. When I started at my previous school (3 years ago), we ended up in the same class. This is when we got to know eachother and after several classes where we were just sitting in the back and talking, we became really good friends. Now, we're still friends, but after we'd been friends for about a year, I'd gotten romantic feelings for her. Now, I might not have been overly clear on this towards her, but we would still have hour long conversations and I always tried dropping little hints. Just when I thought we could really get into a relationship, she decides to go abroad to study. I don't know if I was really insecure at the time or what it was, but I got somewhat pissed at that, and we didn't really stay in touch when she left.

Fast forward one year, and we get back in touch. Apparently she had tried to reach me, but unsucessfully. When she returns to the country, we go out a few times and all my old feelings spring back to life. The problem is, she went back abroad after a few weeks, and I went into the army. And since, we've had no contact. Now, I really regret not telling her how I really feel, and I really have to try something when Im done in the army. However, Ive had this ghost hanging over me that this is a typical example of a friendship being ruined by one part thinking it's more than it is. But fuck it, I have to do something now (after this army bullshit) or it'll be a lost cause.

Needed to get that off my chest.

Erm, any thoughts?

And another thing, what's the dial code (+##) to England? Yes, I plan to give her a call.

[sunpoison]

I say go for it. The area code for England is 44. All the best!

[Andy]

The area code for England is 44. All the best!
Cheers :)

[SonEric84]

Reminds me of one of those cheesy quotes I saw in a friend's AIM info: "You never lose by loving, you only lose by holding back." That should tell you what my opinion is.

[Brianfarg]

I think you should go for it. You have nothing to lose by doing so. Best of luck!

[allelish]

I think you should hold back and never tell her....bottle your feelings up for maximum success.















i joke of course...listen to the others

[cris545]

if she's been friends with you for a long time, you wouldn't be risking the friendship, friends should understand and move on if one of them likes the other but the other doesnt, dunno if that makes sense to u... but I think you should tell her, good luck ;)

[kimosabe]

yeah, be careful you don't ruin a good friendship, but now that you're more apart maybe you're not that close anymore? And i'm gonna advice you to be careful, guys have a tendency to think a friendship is more than it is. I think you should drop some hints and get abit of knowledge about what she really thinks about you. (like asking how her love life is. It would be really awkward if you told her how you felt, and she replied that she was seeing someone, knawhatImean?)

[IAmCountryMusic]

yeah you should go for it, and be careful about how its said because your presentation can effect how it turns out.

[Andy]

yeah, be careful you don't ruin a good friendship, but now that you're more apart maybe you're not that close anymore? And i'm gonna advice you to be careful, guys have a tendency to think a friendship is more than it is. I think you should drop some hints and get abit of knowledge about what she really thinks about you. (like asking how her love life is. It would be really awkward if you told her how you felt, and she replied that she was seeing someone, knawhatImean?)
Hahaha, dude, were you actually serious in a reply <3

And btw, Ive been to the Kremlin Fried Chicken aswell.

[foryouising]

sounds like a good movie plot to me hehe :)

i agree with everyone who says to go for it!!! who knows, maybe she's your special someone -- might as well find out!

good luck!!

[NetNerdsRevenge]

But eve if you did tell her, how often would you see her? She'll be in the army for four years and you might get to see her every once in a while (if she isnt stationed near you). In 4 years feelings can change. Go for it anyway

[merv the perv]

Not only does she want you, she NEEDS you.

[Andy]

But eve if you did tell her, how often would you see her? She'll be in the army for four years and you might get to see her every once in a while (if she isnt stationed near you). In 4 years feelings can change. Go for it anyway
Haha, what? Im the one in the army, done in 2 months. She's studying abroad, I don't know for how long.

[ATragedySoSweet]

of course u should tell her...it would be a waste of feelings not to

[kimosabe]

Hahaha, dude, were you actually serious in a reply <3
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haha, yeah, that's like my second time in this forum, it's becoming a nasty habit. Anyway, just wanted to be a counter weight to all these people that just want a happy ending with out thinking thigs over, saying 'go for it'. I'm just thinking you should be careful, and think about wether it can actually become something or not. Who knows, maybe a few weeks from now you'll meet 'the prettyest girl in oslo" (shameless Big Bang referance) and forget all about her? Have you had any relathionships after her, or just been burned or something? old memories are not good rebound material....

[Andy]

Im digging this new Kimo. And I dig that song. Anyways, I have had one releationship after she left, but it didn't work out (even if that girl still wants me. Bah, she was fat). But I think you're right, first of all I need to know if she's still alive and if she's gotten engaged or whatever her situation is. But Ive been thinking about her ever since she left, so Im pretty sure this isn't just some crush.

[sunpoison]

haha, yeah, that's like my second time in this forum, it's becoming a nasty habit. Anyway, just wanted to be a counter weight to all these people that just want a happy ending with out thinking thigs over, saying 'go for it'. I'm just thinking you should be careful, and think about wether it can actually become something or not. Who knows, maybe a few weeks from now you'll meet 'the prettyest girl in oslo" (shameless Big Bang referance) and forget all about her? Have you had any relathionships after her, or just been burned or something? old memories are not good rebound material....

It seems like he's already given it thought. I mean, like he's known/thought about her for ages. I don't really think this is a spontaneous kind of thing. (I didn't interpret your reply as disagreeing with what I said, so it's not like I'm writing a "rebuttal" or anything here, just responding.)

Anyway, as for the real reason I came back to this thread - how did it go, Andy?

[Andy]

No luck in reaching her so far, but Im far from giving up.

[paperw1ngs]

brand new <3

[steveo1022]

my biggest regret is not telling a girl how i felt about her till it was too late.you still have a chance. i wish you more luck than i had. you miss your shot you will regret it forever. no matter how much you fall in love, her shadow will always be cast over your relationships.

best of luck. let me know how it goes

[sunpoison]

brand new <3
..What?

[steveo1022]

..What?
well any luck!?