Age gaps

[oldwirehands]

Why do some people like to make a big deal over age? I mean yeah, there is a point where it is sick but I don't see four or three years apart being bad. Even five years isn't bad. Unless you're 18 and dating a 13 year old... that shit is just starting to develop. I just wanted to know what everyone thinks about age. Does it matter to you?

[actionandaction]

I'm 16 and there's a waitress at Applebee's who is 19. I think she wants it. Is that acceptable?

[Susan Sarandon]

Age seriously doesn't mean shit.

When I was 17 I dated a 23 year-old. The age thing didn't bother me, but then again it tends to never bother the younger person because they're not the ones who look KeWLeR for dating someone older.

[cris545]

doesnt matter to me, it does to my parents unfortunately...

[foryouising]

age doesn't matter to me -- although it's never really been a factor because i've only dated guys around my age. my boyfriend is almost 21 and i'm 19 -- biggest gap i've had :)

[Kid Kilowatt]

I like young women. Mostly, because I like to take advantage of their naivete, and rob them of their innocence.

[BrandNew20]

I keep it within two years of me.

[Jra1]

been with a 21 yr old and a 23 yr old when i was 18 and then 19 respectively...
recently been sorta seeing a 17yr old tho, and i'm 19...

[Trainsaw]

Its not that big of a deal when you get older, the lowest i usually date is 3 years younger than me.

[SonEric84]

Why do some people like to make a big deal over age? I mean yeah, there is a point where it is sick but I don't see four or three years apart being bad. Even five years isn't bad. Unless you're 18 and dating a 13 year old... that shit is just starting to develop. I just wanted to know what everyone thinks about age. Does it matter to you?


hahahhahaha That cracked me up.



But yeah I agree with you...it doesn't matter too much...usually the lowest I will go though is 3 years younger.

[IAmCountryMusic]

i prefer older girls because they usually have cars and jobs

[Candy_Warhol]

hmm my boyfriend is 5 years older then i am (well, he will be tomorrow)
but i don't see a big deal with it. i'm over 18, and i am old enough to make a good decision.

it only bothers me when someone older is trying to get with someone else thats younger then 18. thats just wrong, to me.

[ArTkY_]

My parents are 12 years apart.

Commence mocking.

[Mercy Medical]

My friend was kind of dating a guy that was 9 years older than her, I think that's a bit much, but there was a lot of things with that that I thought was wrong.

[Shoes]

Age seriously doesn't mean shit.

When I was 17 I dated a 23 year-old. The age thing didn't bother me, but then again it tends to never bother the younger person because they're not the ones who look KeWLeR for dating someone older.
Very true, it makes them seem a tad lame to their friends.

My parents are 12 years apart.

Commence mocking.
how old were they when they got together?

[Mercy Medical]

My parents are 12 years apart.

Commence mocking.
My grandparents were 10.

[merv the perv]

I'm 16 and there's a waitress at Applebee's who is 19. I think she wants it. Is that acceptable?


Oh, you give it to her, and you give it to her good.......and dip it in some Applebee's barbecue sauce first.

[Vanity__Dearest]

age doesn't matter to me -- although it's never really been a factor because i've only dated guys around my age. my boyfriend is almost 21 and i'm 19 -- biggest gap i've had :)
no the biggest gap you've had is between your legs


OOOO burned.

[are fkng dead]

My girlfriend is like, 2 and a half years younger than me, and I'm fine with it, and so is everyone else. This one friend of mine, however is in 11th grade, dating a 7th grader. Weird, in my opinion.

[oldwirehands]

The biggest age difference I have experienced was four years. That is as far as I'll go. My parents are four years apart and I just kind of grew up thinking that is the guideline even though I know it really isn't. The girl I'm currently with is three years younger. I tried older girls for awhile because I thought they'd be more mature. I was wrong. The girl I dated who was four years younger than me was more mature than a girl four years older than me.

[SonEric84]

The biggest age difference I have experienced was four years. That is as far as I'll go. My parents are four years apart and I just kind of grew up thinking that is the guideline even though I know it really isn't. The girl I'm currently with is three years younger. I tried older girls for awhile because I thought they'd be more mature. I was wrong. The girl I dated who was four years younger than me was more mature than a girl four years older than me.


haha Yeah older definitely doesn't always mean more mature...you just need to find a girl with a good head on her shoulders.

[merv the perv]

haha Yeah older definitely doesn't always mean more mature...you just need to find a girl with a good head on her shoulders.

And one who gives good head.

[Indie Bracelet]

It didn't matter to me; it matters to my parents. Parents don't want to see their baby out with some older "pervert." I was 17 [a month away from 18] and dating a 22 year old. Sadly, we had to terminate our relationship or I'd get kicked out of my house.. But most of the time, age won't matter to the couple, it will matter to outside parties.

[SonEric84]

And one who gives good head.


:amen:

[zombies_revolt]

doesn't bother me that much.

except in the case of my 16 year old male friend asking out a 11-12 year old boy. thank god that little kid was mature/smart enough to say no.

[afk999]

as long as its not like a ten year difference it doesnt matter

[SonEric84]

doesn't bother me that much.

except in the case of my 16 year old male friend asking out a 11-12 year old boy. thank god that little kid was mature/smart enough to say no.



What a ***.

[ArTkY_]

how old were they when they got together?
It was an Indian/Paki marriage those are weird to explain. My dad was 29. Math it up, yo.

[extatic reality]

as long as it's reasonable i don't think it should really matter.. i mean nothing like 13 and 23 but..

[foryouising]

no the biggest gap you've had is between your legs


OOOO burned.

yay -- you figured me out!

[handrawn]

the way i look at is is it legal now and will it ever be illegal. age isn't really a big deal but im not a big fan of a criminal record

[SingleDoubt]

right now im 17 and my girlfriend's 15.. but the thing is, im gonna be 18 before she's 16, and i think there's some kind of law against that. not that she'd ever turn me in or anything, but it still makes me sorta self-conscious

[oldwirehands]

It suprises me how strict some people follow the law. A lot of things are illegal but really stupid. If you're over 18 and are dating a girl underage, just don't get her pregnant. Even then, you can't really get in trouble unless the parents press charges. Just don't be stupid with it.

[AShannon04]

Oh, you give it to her, and you give it to her good.......and dip it in some Applebee's barbecue sauce first.

amazingness

[BrandNew20]

I'm going out with a chick who's a year older than me tomorrow night.

here's to older women.

[PunkDrums182]

Why do some people like to make a big deal over age? I mean yeah, there is a point where it is sick but I don't see four or three years apart being bad. Even five years isn't bad. Unless you're 18 and dating a 13 year old... that shit is just starting to develop. I just wanted to know what everyone thinks about age. Does it matter to you?
I think it doesnt matter if its like 16 - 14 and like after college 4 or 5 aint bad.

[your_martyr]

How fucking surreal is this?

my friend is 16 year olds...and recently got connected with this 22 year old girl and they are dating.

His parents have him under house arrest, and when he does leave...his parents follow him and hope he doesnt see them.

They also discuss 401 Ks and how to have a successful future with him...and think that he is ruining his life because of this girl...whos first kiss was with this friend of mine.

I hate when people dont accept the age gaps...i dont think anything is wrong with them at all.

[Vincewithouthee]

One of my good friends lost his virginity when he was 14 to a 18 year old. They fucked pretty much all summer.

For myself, 3 years is the most I'll go for now. (I'm 16)

[xnoturstar1111x]

I wouldn't want someone ungodly older to me... b/c if you are unexperianced you could make yourself look bad... or get taken advantage of... we don't want any diseases now do we?

[SingleDoubt]

One of my good friends lost his virginity when he was 14 to a 18 year old. They fucked pretty much all summer.

For myself, 3 years is the most I'll go for now. (I'm 16)wow, there's no way id go for a 14 year old, there may be nothing wrong with it, but i dont think i could go through with it.

[Hilikus]

i think the 2 year rule is a good guide line. It all depends on your age though. 25 dating a 30 year old is no big deal. But a 17 year old dating a 13 year old is kinda weird.

[Rebs]

hmm i tend to go for the older guys. but it really isnt a big deal to me

[Sin Built]

my parents are 12 years apart...

[your_martyr]

My parents are 12 years apart.

Commence mocking.

My parents are too

My mom was 23 and my dad was 35 when they got married.

[takingback98]

my friends 14 year old sister was dating a 19 year old, i thought that was kinda freaky.

[ArTkY_]

My parents are too

My mom was 23 and my dad was 35 when they got married.
My dad was 29 and my mom was 17.

[oldwirehands]

my friends 14 year old sister was dating a 19 year old, i thought that was kinda freaky.

14 is reallllllly pushing it haha. That's like 8th grade/9th grade. Someone in college dating someone in middle school is just a weird though. I'm not going to say anything though because I dated a 14 year old when I was 18. We were almost exactly 4 years apart.

[LoveLei16]

In high school, I don't think it matters, but i think that if a high school student dates someone from middle school that that's a little bit too much, but then again, it all depends on the situation...and "age is but a number", right?

[BrandNew20]

and "age is but a number", right?

thats Micheal Jackson's motto.

[kidinthecorner]

It really goes with how old you are in general, I'd think.

Like, when you're in middle school, and kids pretend to have "girlfriends" or "boyfriends", rarely does anyone date more than a grade ahead or below, if that. In highschool, it tends to open up a bit, but usually stays 2ish years apart. But think of some old old couples. No one thinks anything of a 10-15 year gap when their average age is 82.

[mondeoman]

Why do some people like to make a big deal over age? I mean yeah, there is a point where it is sick but I don't see four or three years apart being bad. Even five years isn't bad. Unless you're 18 and dating a 13 year old... that shit is just starting to develop. I just wanted to know what everyone thinks about age. Does it matter to you?
Let me guess, someone's dating/crushing on a 16 year old. I figured you'd be the type that would. That's ok I have a crush on a 16 year old girl too. She's almost 17 tho. So I'm not creepy.

[BrandNew20]

I like girls to be like a year younger than me, usually.

[mattie]

im dating and in love with a 14 yr and im 18

[oldwirehands]

Let me guess, someone's dating/crushing on a 16 year old. I figured you'd be the type that would. That's ok I have a crush on a 16 year old girl too. She's almost 17 tho. So I'm not creepy.

Are you calling me creepy?

[mondeoman]

Are you calling me creepy?
Nah. I was just joshing.

im dating and in love with a 14 yr and im 18
Now this, my friend, is creepy.

[coma™]

I'm 17 and my girlfriend is 22. werd.

[oldwirehands]

Nah. I was just joshing.


Now this, my friend, is creepy.

hahahahahahahaha I dated a 14 year old when I was 18. Our birthdays were about two weeks apart. I don't regret it at all but I grew up since then and if I was the person I am now, back then, I wouldn't have done it.

[WasteMyTime]

I'll date anything with legs...possibly even one leg.

[Alex Djaferis]

im dating and in love with a 14 yr and im 18

eh.

[oldwirehands]

Okay, so my girlfriend's friend has a crush on one of my friends. He said he likes her to but is too young. She will be turning 16 in August and he turned 19 in March. I turned 19 in March and my girlfriend just turned 16 a week ago.

This guy is unbelievable horrible when it comes to girls. He's never had a girlfriend. Whenever he find a girl he likes he sits on it for about 3-6 months and treats the situation like he's in 5th grade. He doesn't think with logic and never takes my advise, which he is always asking for. Right now he has been going after this girl his age for almost two months now. The furthest he's gotten is "grabbing her arms" and has never told the girl how he's felt.

I'm trying to convince him to take this chance he has with my girlfriend's friend but he's being really immature about it. He's not giving me a logical answer why the age gap is such a big deal. These girls are way more mature than any 16 year old I've encountered so he can't use that in his argument. He even mentioned how he had feelings for her but he's being stupid and fighting them because a 3 year difference.

Sorry, I had to rant about this. He's pissing me off because he finally has a chance with a girl and he's being a little fucking bitch about it. A part of me wants to say "Fuck him. I'll let him be alone his whole life." then another part of me really wants to help him because he is pretty much my best friend. I'm leaning more and more to the "Fuck him..." part of me.

[SonEric84]

Okay, so my girlfriend's friend has a crush on one of my friends. He said he likes her to but is too young. She will be turning 16 in August and he turned 19 in March. I turned 19 in March and my girlfriend just turned 16 a week ago.

This guy is unbelievable horrible when it comes to girls. He's never had a girlfriend. Whenever he find a girl he likes he sits on it for about 3-6 months and treats the situation like he's in 5th grade. He doesn't think with logic and never takes my advise, which he is always asking for. Right now he has been going after this girl his age for almost two months now. The furthest he's gotten is "grabbing her arms" and has never told the girl how he's felt.

I'm trying to convince him to take this chance he has with my girlfriend's friend but he's being really immature about it. He's not giving me a logical answer why the age gap is such a big deal. These girls are way more mature than any 16 year old I've encountered so he can't use that in his argument. He even mentioned how he had feelings for her but he's being stupid and fighting them because a 3 year difference.

Sorry, I had to rant about this. He's pissing me off because he finally has a chance with a girl and he's being a little fucking bitch about it. A part of me wants to say "Fuck him. I'll let him be alone his whole life." then another part of me really wants to help him because he is pretty much my best friend. I'm leaning more and more to the "Fuck him..." part of me.



haha Well that's lame...3 years isn't that bad..he should just go for it.

[oldwirehands]

haha Well that's lame...3 years isn't that bad..he should just go for it.

If he doesn't me and my other friends are going to kick his ass. Either that or just call him gay. I mean if he has a clear shot at having his first girlfriend and he doesn't take it, what are we supposed to think?

[ohsoradbaby]

I tend to like older guys. I don't think I'd date an 18 year old, though. I mean, being 14, a freshman, with someone that's going into college is just a little much to me. But to each his own.

[SonEric84]

If he doesn't me and my other friends are going to kick his ass. Either that or just call him gay. I mean if he has a clear shot at having his first girlfriend and he doesn't take it, what are we supposed to think?


Well I could see him turning her down if he honestly wasn't into her..but you said he has feelings for her so yeah that's messed up.

[oldwirehands]

Well I could see him turning her down if he honestly wasn't into her..but you said he has feelings for her so yeah that's messed up.

Yeah, he keeps going on about "Oh, only if she was a year older". One fucking year. He seriously needs an ass kicking haha.

[SonEric84]

Yeah, he keeps going on about "Oh, only if she was a year older". One fucking year. He seriously needs an ass kicking haha.


haha One year's not going to make much difference.

[BigD]

My parents are 12 years apart.

Commence mocking.
Mine are 8yrs apart, started dating when my dad was 28 or so...

[brandnew r mine]

if it was really sad like 23 year old and 12 year old then yes..u r like wtf..well a girl in my class is goin out we a 23 year old...its sad...well i think it is....um biggest age gap i go 4 is 4 years i think

[Raven]

*shrugs* sometimes age matters though.. not always. i mean I'm almost 21 and my boyfriend just turned 26. it doesn bother him or me too much. the only problem i have is that he can drink and i cant. which sucks, but we love each other. our, mostly my family might have a problem with teh age gap but there are people in my fmaily that have the same age gap and theyve been married for i think its like 17 years. *shrugs* it just depends on if you let it bother you. unless it the over 18 with under 18 thing. then you just have to be careful with it is all.

you can't help who you fall in love with regardless of age etc. youre not supposed to. you'll know in your heart what to do.

[afk999]

small age gaps are find but there is a limit real big age gaps like ten years+ are disturbing

[kcgb3]

small age gaps are find but there is a limit real big age gaps like ten years+ are disturbing
it really depends on where they are in their lives when they are together, if two people are at entirely different places then yeah they definately shouldnt be together, it just so happens that age is the most common reason that people are in different places with their lives

[afk999]

it really depends on where they are in their lives when they are together, if two people are at entirely different places then yeah they definately shouldnt be together, it just so happens that age is the most common reason that people are in different places with their lives
good point

[Wheez]

Yeah, there's a big difference between physical age and personal/mental/spiritual age (however you wish to phrase it).

And the naysayers who say age makes a difference are the ones who can't grasp that concept.

[inkyishtar]

It only seems wierd when one of them is younger than18, cos at that point they're still kinda kids, (don't eat me, I'm only 16 too). But age shouldn't matter if the two people are comfortable and willing to be in the relationship.

[xXdEADsILENCExX]

It only seems wierd when one of them is younger than18, cos at that point they're still kinda kids, (don't eat me, I'm only 16 too). But age shouldn't matter if the two people are comfortable and willing to be in the relationship.

I agree with you. I mean I am 16 and I could not imagine dating a guy who is 21. I know they are not that much older than me, but um....they are 21. I think that a 4 years age gap is as far as I would allow, but I mainly like guys my own age.

[CTR987]

Well...this is a good question...I honestly don't see any problem with dating someone 2 or 3 years younger than you...or older...I know I seem to be attracted to guys who are like 16 and 17...and I am 18...kinda weird but it is true...and whatever happens happens...

[timmeh1989]

When i was 14 i did go out with an 18 yr old, but im male, most males aren't bothered aslong as the girl your with is fit, and she wasn't, she was fine!!! :-P

But anyway is that bad or is that ok?

[im_random]

I always go for older guys. Always. It's kind of bad really. I think I've only ever dated 2 guys legally (I'm 16 so anything over 18 is off limits really), but that's easy for me to say cause I've always been on the side that doesn't go to jail haha.

[drummerchik]

i kno someone who is about 42 and she's dating a 25 year old, im not joking. in this case, i think age would actually matter becuz thats insane! could u imagine, girls, marrying a guy that was born when you graduated high school? or vice versa for guys. but 3-5 years difference isnt all that big a deal, when you're older though. when you're still in high school, looking for guys that are a lot older than you could get you in trouble. i've seen it happen. but im only 14. what do i know.