The Official Definition of a Date

[thespearkid]

Let's clear this up once and for all. What exactly constitutes a date? Is there a specific amount of time that has to be spent? Where does it stop being "hanging out" and becomes a "date". When you have a significant other, aren't all other hang outs with other people automatically just "hanging out", regardless of the amount of time spent? Discuss. This post will be edited as we in PL hammer out exactly what is a date.

[.invisible ink.]

it's a date when there's sexual tension involved.

editing to say: not just sexual tension, but romantic feelings are expressed/perceived/initiated.

[amysaurus]

According to Elf, a date is where you take a girl out for real food - not candy.

[thespearkid]

it's a date when there's sexual tension involved.

editing to say: not just sexual tension, but romantic feelings are expressed/perceived/initiated.
Suppose romantic feelings are perceived between two friends but not expressed. Can these two friends hang out without it being considered a date?

[anamericangod]

Anal.

[MarsEatWorld]

Anal.
If that is the definition of date I've never been on a date.
And don't want to even THINK of what marriage will be like.

[thespearkid]

Anal.
Somehow, I think that would cause more problems than it would solve.

[anamericangod]

If that is the definition of date I've never been on a date.
And don't want to even THINK of what marriage will be like.

First time for everything, babygurl.

Somehow, I think that would cause more problems than it would solve.

You sound like a man who has never experienced the joy of plundering a girls ass.

[.invisible ink.]

Suppose romantic feelings are perceived between two friends but not expressed. Can these two friends hang out without it being considered a date?

yes, i suppose that could happen, but it seems like at least one of them would prefer for it to be a date.

why all the interest in this anyway? just out of curiosity. I thought you were engaged?

[MarsEatWorld]

First time for everything, babygurl.



You sound like a man who has never experienced the joy of plundering a girls ass.
If anal is a date, marriage is dp.
fucking gross.

[.invisible ink.]

If anal is a date, marriage is dp.
fucking gross.

good god. the fact that you even know what a dp is scares me.

[MarsEatWorld]

good god. the fact that you even know what a dp is scares me.
I know weird people.

[MarsEatWorld]

This chick that went to my school had to get rushed to the ER from a party because 2 guys ripped her asshole.
gross.

[thespearkid]

First time for everything, babygurl.

You sound like a man who has never experienced the joy of plundering a girls ass.
A lady never kisses and tells.

yes, i suppose that could happen, but it seems like at least one of them would prefer for it to be a date.

why all the interest in this anyway? just out of curiosity. I thought you were engaged?
That's the thing. A friend from school is coming from Raleigh to Goldsboro to visit me on Sunday and I'm trying to figure out if it's appropriate for me to hang out with her. I'd never cheat on Shelly but I'm too whipped not to wonder if I'm allowed to do this, or even to bring it up to her.

[.invisible ink.]

This chick that went to my school had to get rushed to the ER from a party because 2 guys ripped her asshole.
gross.

2 in the same hole =/= dp, it just = super whore skank who's going to need a lifetime supply of Depends before she's 20.

A lady never kisses and tells.


That's the thing. A friend from school is coming from Raleigh to Goldsboro to visit me on Sunday and I'm trying to figure out if it's appropriate for me to hang out with her. I'd never cheat on Shelly but I'm too whipped not to wonder if I'm allowed to do this, or even to bring it up to her.

Tell your gf. Keep it all upfront and out in the open. You should be able to be completely honest with her and not have anything to hide if she's the one you love.

[MarsEatWorld]

2 in the same hole =/= dp, it just = super whore skank who's going to need a lifetime supply of Depends before she's 20.



Tell your gf. Keep it all upfront and out in the open. You should be able to be completely honest with her and not have anything to hide if she's the one you love.
I know what dp is....haha.
I just felt like bringing that up.

[thespearkid]

2 in the same hole =/= dp, it just = super whore skank who's going to need a lifetime supply of Depends before she's 20.



Tell your gf. Keep it all upfront and out in the open. You should be able to be completely honest with her and not have anything to hide if she's the one you love.
I mean, if I decide to hang out with her, I'll definitely tell/ask her. If I decide it's not worth even bringing up, I won't go.

I know what dp is....haha.
I just felt like bringing that up.
There's just something that seems a little homoerotic about rubbing my dick against another guy's, even if we're fucking a chick.

[.invisible ink.]

I mean, if I decide to hang out with her, I'll definitely tell/ask her. If I decide it's not worth even bringing up, I won't go.


There's just something that seems a little homoerotic about rubbing my dick against another guy's, even if we're fucking a chick.

totally. your nuts completely end up hitting each other and there's only a very thin membrane of skin between the pussy and the butthole - i'm pretty sure half the excitement for the dudes involved is the act of rubbing against each other, not that they'd ever admit it.

(not that I know any of this from personal experience, mind you, i'm just observant when i watch porn, i swear.)

[MarsEatWorld]

totally. your nuts completely end up hitting each other and there's only a very thin membrane of skin between the pussy and the butthole - i'm pretty sure half the excitement for the dudes involved is the act of rubbing against each other, not that they'd ever admit it.

(not that I know any of this from personal experience, mind you, i'm just observant when i watch porn, i swear.)
hahaha
nice save erika. invisible ink

[Heart-A-Tact]

I once went to a graveyard and drank absinthe with a girl. I don't think that was a date, but there were feelings.

[MarsEatWorld]

I once went to a graveyard and drank absinthe with a girl. I don't think that was a date, but there were feelings.
hahahhahahaha

[ZoSo1886]

it's a date when there's sexual tension involved.

editing to say: not just sexual tension, but romantic feelings are expressed/perceived/initiated.

awkward sexual tension

[Maxwell]

I once went to a graveyard and drank absinthe with a girl. I don't think that was a date, but there were feelings.

sounds like a weird as hell date.

props on the avatar btw.

[raychull]

I've been on "dates" that have turned into "hanging out". Aka, why I find it a waste of my time so far.

[Heart-A-Tact]

sounds like a weird as hell date.

props on the avatar btw.

Ha, surprisingly enough, it didn't feel too awkward.

Thank you. Kudos to you for recognizing it, sir.

[raychull]

I once went to a graveyard and drank absinthe with a girl. I don't think that was a date, but there were feelings.
that's awesome. haha.

[Maxwell]

Ha, surprisingly enough, it didn't feel too awkward.

Thank you. Kudos to you for recognizing it, sir.

No problem dude, i feel like im the only lover of electronic music on this site sometimes, but then someone pops up with a sweet avatar!

Oh, and more on topic, i guess my definition of a date is where you pre-arrange with a chick/dude (whatever way you sway) to do something which may lead to something more...

[thespearkid]

I've been on "dates" that have turned into "hanging out". Aka, why I find it a waste of my time so far.
How does that happen?

[swt_catastrophe]

I've been on "dates" that have turned into "hanging out". Aka, why I find it a waste of my time so far.
or "hanging out" that turned date-like
No problem dude, i feel like im the only lover of electronic music on this site sometimes, but then someone pops up with a sweet avatar!

Oh, and more on topic, i guess my definition of a date is where you pre-arrange with a chick/dude (whatever way you sway) to do something which may lead to something more...
agreed. where its clear that you're both interested in each other, beyond just being friends.

and on that note... make sure that both parties are clear.
if the girl thinks you're just hanging out as friends [although she's interested]
and the guy thinks it's a date... it gets a little strange.

[chrisstahl]

I think hanging out is just what it is.. hanging out with someone. I have friends that are girls that I "hang out" with. However, I have asked girls out on a "date". That I consider that I am romantically interested in them, and they share the same feeling perhaps, or feel bad saying no, haha. ANYWAY. I guess if the first date is nice and there is chemistry, a second one would follow, then third and so on, and I suppose I would consider that "dating". Then there is the committed relationship which I would not consider "dating" or "hanging out". If it is a serious committed relationship, I just consider that being together. However, I've had a few serious relationships, but those actually (in my opinion) didn't start from going out on dates per say. These girls I connected with nearly instantly, like straight out of a John Cusack Movie or something, and it was kind of inevitable that we were "together". As of recently though, no girl has had that effect on me that quickly so I have gone on "dates" to see if there is more.

This is how I view the situation.

[Maxwell]

agreed. where its clear that you're both interested in each other, beyond just being friends.

and on that note... make sure that both parties are clear.
if the girl thinks you're just hanging out as friends [although she's interested]
and the guy thinks it's a date... it gets a little strange.

it could be kind of hard to get the message across that it could be more than friends. but thankfully i havent been in that awkward situation yet!

anyway, its been a while, how are you?!

[Anthony Lutz]

This chick that went to my school had to get rushed to the ER from a party because 2 guys ripped her asshole.
gross.

That probably felt really good.

[PezMullet]

A date without anal is like giving birth without breaking the waters

[npmshah]

a date, in my opinion, is when two individuals who have feelings for each other
go out for the night and bond emotionally, and possibly physically
even if they go out as friends
if they "like" like each other and they talk at all, its a date

[MarsEatWorld]

That probably felt really good.
in 7th grade for class trips, this chick stripped and let guys video tape it.
she got expelled.

[MarsEatWorld]

I think hanging out is just what it is.. hanging out with someone. I have friends that are girls that I "hang out" with. However, I have asked girls out on a "date". That I consider that I am romantically interested in them, and they share the same feeling perhaps, or feel bad saying no, haha. ANYWAY. I guess if the first date is nice and there is chemistry, a second one would follow, then third and so on, and I suppose I would consider that "dating". Then there is the committed relationship which I would not consider "dating" or "hanging out". If it is a serious committed relationship, I just consider that being together. However, I've had a few serious relationships, but those actually (in my opinion) didn't start from going out on dates per say. These girls I connected with nearly instantly, like straight out of a John Cusack Movie or something, and it was kind of inevitable that we were "together". As of recently though, no girl has had that effect on me that quickly so I have gone on "dates" to see if there is more.

This is how I view the situation.
I want a John Cusack in my life lol.

[npmshah]

in 7th grade for class trips, this chick stripped and let guys video tape it.
she got expelled.
haha thats pretty funny
she deserved it though
what 12 year old lets guys videotape her without clothes?

[MarsEatWorld]

haha thats pretty funny
she deserved it though
what 12 year old lets guys videotape her without clothes?
yeahhhhh.....

[swt_catastrophe]

I think hanging out is just what it is.. hanging out with someone. I have friends that are girls that I "hang out" with. However, I have asked girls out on a "date". That I consider that I am romantically interested in them, and they share the same feeling perhaps, or feel bad saying no, haha. ANYWAY. I guess if the first date is nice and there is chemistry, a second one would follow, then third and so on, and I suppose I would consider that "dating". Then there is the committed relationship which I would not consider "dating" or "hanging out". If it is a serious committed relationship, I just consider that being together. However, I've had a few serious relationships, but those actually (in my opinion) didn't start from going out on dates per say. These girls I connected with nearly instantly, like straight out of a John Cusack Movie or something, and it was kind of inevitable that we were "together". As of recently though, no girl has had that effect on me that quickly so I have gone on "dates" to see if there is more.

This is how I view the situation.
i adore that.
it could be kind of hard to get the message across that it could be more than friends. but thankfully i havent been in that awkward situation yet!

anyway, its been a while, how are you?!
maybe i'm just oblivious. hah.

i've been pretty good. finally hope for winter break, which is really nice.
what have you been up to?
a date, in my opinion, is when two individuals who have feelings for each other
go out for the night and bond emotionally, and possibly physically
even if they go out as friends
if they "like" like each other and they talk at all, its a date
no. i definitely don't agree. so they both like each other and they hang out.. that doesn't make it a date.
and guys.. don't be thinking it is. that's a cop out. ask her out.

[fadedmemories]

This chick that went to my school had to get rushed to the ER from a party because 2 guys ripped her asshole.
gross.
Now that's a date!

[MarsEatWorld]

Now that's a date!
Haha. gross

[kaycey]

any bonds without a date, they say, are void.

[raychull]

How does that happen?
Goes on date with somebody I think I like, but then it turns out super lame and the guy is just kind of whatever.

[npmshah]

i adore that.

maybe i'm just oblivious. hah.

i've been pretty good. finally hope for winter break, which is really nice.
what have you been up to?

no. i definitely don't agree. so they both like each other and they hang out.. that doesn't make it a date.
and guys.. don't be thinking it is. that's a cop out. ask her out.
fine
edit to my definition:
it includes them both acknowledging that it is a date

[bluecrunchy]

If you call it a date, then it's a date. Although I do agree that if there is a huge amount of awkward sexual tension, that should also count as a date.

[4N6 science]

I just asked a girl to dinner at a nice Tai restaurant, that's a date.

[The Database]

Are you 12?

[4N6 science]

yes

[The Database]

Not you, dumbass.

[thespearkid]

If you call it a date, then it's a date. Although I do agree that if there is a huge amount of awkward sexual tension, that should also count as a date.
There can be awkward sexual tension without it being a date. There's a ton of awkward sexual tension between a friend and myself (we almost hooked up before I decided to stick with Ra'Chel for good) and we hang out all the time without it being a date.

[Chancetobe]

It's only a date if the person asking specifies that it's a date. If not, than it's just hanging out, even if there is a mutual attraction, and stuff happens, or whatever.

[Anthony Lutz]

in 7th grade for class trips, this chick stripped and let guys video tape it.
she got expelled.

Since she got expelled would that be considered a date then?

[jdark6]

According to Elf, a date is where you take a girl out for real food - not candy.

Love this response :)

[swt_catastrophe]

It's only a date if the person asking specifies that it's a date. If not, than it's just hanging out, even if there is a mutual attraction, and stuff happens, or whatever.
i couldn't have said it any better.

[MarsEatWorld]

Since she got expelled would that be considered a date then?
You have to get expelled to go on a date.

[BJW7191]

According to Elf, a date is where you take a girl out for real food - not candy.


that was one hell of a post... thats funny as fuck

[amysaurus]

Love this response :)

that was one hell of a post... thats funny as fuck

Haha thanks. I had just watched Elf cause it was on tv that night and found it appropriate :-)

[BJW7191]

Haha thanks. I had just watched Elf cause it was on tv that night and found it appropriate :-)


that was top notch... well played

[bung]

It's only a date if the person asking specifies that it's a date. If not, than it's just hanging out, even if there is a mutual attraction, and stuff happens, or whatever.

So when I ask a girl out to dinner or something.. I should just chime in, "Hey, this is going to be a date. I just want to make sure you know that."

[LastPlaceRocks]

Apparently so, even though it would completely ruin the mood.

[BJW7191]

So when I ask a girl out to dinner or something.. I should just chime in, "Hey, this is going to be a date. I just want to make sure you know that."


or just say "so this is a date?"

[fadedmemories]

I thought it officially becomes a date once you leave before she wakes up?

[swt_catastrophe]

I thought it officially becomes a date once you leave before she wakes up?
no, it's only a date when you wake up AFTER she wakes up, and give her a goodbye kiss

[BJW7191]

no, it's only a date when you wake up AFTER she wakes up, and give her a goodbye kiss


wheres the fun in that?

[fadedmemories]

wheres the fun in that?
Exactly

[BJW7191]

Exactly


me and you are on the same page today

[fadedmemories]

me and you are on the same page today
:thumbup:

[Chancetobe]

So when I ask a girl out to dinner or something.. I should just chime in, "Hey, this is going to be a date. I just want to make sure you know that."

Absolutely. Maybe phrase it a bit more suavely than that though. I have faith, you can do it.

[4N6 science]

Not you, dumbass.

oh well fuck you then.

[thespearkid]

I'm pretty sure a date can be a date without saying it's a date...

[4N6 science]

I'm pretty sure a date can be a date without saying it's a date...

This is true.

[bung]

or just say "so this is a date?"

Haha, you would have to say, "so this is a date date?" because you'd have to imply it was a romantic date and not just two people getting together!

[BJW7191]

Haha, you would have to say, "so this is a date date?" because you'd have to imply it was a romantic date and not just two people getting together!


touche'

[MarsEatWorld]

Haha, you would have to say, "so this is a date date?" because you'd have to imply it was a romantic date and not just two people getting together!
only if they like like you

[bung]

only if they like like you

haha lolz.

[fadedmemories]

I thought I already posted the official definition of a date?

[billyboatkid]

Man I haven't had a date in a year plus..

Blows.

[swt_catastrophe]

Man I haven't had a date in a year plus..

Blows.
step 1. find girl
step 2. ask said girl out
step 3. go out

see.. not that hard :]

[MarsEatWorld]

Man I haven't had a date in a year plus..

Blows.
you aren't bad looking.
justtttttttttttt ask a girl out!

[billyboatkid]

step 1. find girl
step 2. ask said girl out
step 3. go out

see.. not that hard :]

haha. For me it's a lot harder than that...

I wish it wasn't.

you aren't bad looking.
justtttttttttttt ask a girl out!

Well thanks.

I'll get on that when I have some liquid courage. jk

[MarsEatWorld]

haha. For me it's a lot harder than that...

I wish it wasn't.



Well thanks.

I'll get on that when I have some liquid courage. jk
You need a self-confidence booster

[billyboatkid]

You need a self-confidence booster

haha don't even know me and you can already tell..

Super weak on my part. hahaha

[MarsEatWorld]

haha don't even know me and you can already tell..

Super weak on my part. hahaha
Hahaha
It's pretty obvious :shrug:
even if you pretend to be more confident you'll have better luck.

[BJW7191]

step 1. find girl
step 2. ask said girl out
step 3. go out

see.. not that hard :]



thats the easiest three step plan ever

[billyboatkid]

Hahaha
It's pretty obvious :shrug:
even if you pretend to be more confident you'll have better luck.

I'm that obvious/!> I've barely said like three things haha.

Yeah..

[MarsEatWorld]

I'm that obvious/!> I've barely said like three things haha.

Yeah..
Well, IDK if other people could tell right away but I could.

[BJW7191]

I'm that obvious/!> I've barely said like three things haha.

Yeah..


aye bro... just fake it

to be honest, thats how i got a couple of my exes. id say hi, get them to bite into conversation, let them talk, then when i found something in common (situations, hobbies, etc) id chyme in. id let them do most talking bc thats what they love to do. just bite your lip and just fake being confident. a woman is really attracted to (not love attraction, but more interested attracted) to someone who is/fakes being confident. its a huge plus in their book.

[billyboatkid]

Well, IDK if other people could tell right away but I could.

haha well thanks. I'll work on it.

aye bro... just fake it

to be honest, thats how i got a couple of my exes. id say hi, get them to bite into conversation, let them talk, then when i found something in common (situations, hobbies, etc) id chyme in. id let them do most talking bc thats what they love to do. just bite your lip and just fake being confident. a woman is really attracted to (not love attraction, but more interested attracted) to someone who is/fakes being confident. its a huge plus in their book.

Nice, it's just hard especially only having one girl friend ever. (2 year relationship)

Gotta get back in the game..

I didn't use to be such a wanker.

[BJW7191]

haha well thanks. I'll work on it.



Nice, it's just hard especially only having one girl friend ever. (2 year relationship)

Gotta get back in the game..

I didn't use to be such a wanker.


dude, fake it... im telling you, act confident for 7 mins, enough to get them hooked, then just let them talk and such. butter em up with questions to keep them talking... seriously... it worked for me and iwas with so far out my league

[brandnew=love]

According to Elf, a date is where you take a girl out for real food - not candy.
ahaha! win! I just saw that movie like two weeks ago... it's amazing.

[swt_catastrophe]

haha. For me it's a lot harder than that...

I wish it wasn't.



Well thanks.

I'll get on that when I have some liquid courage. jk
yes, well rejection sucks for everyone.
and it's hard to meet people, blah blah.
but.. you have to.
unless of course you like being alone.
in that case, more power to you.
aye bro... just fake it

to be honest, thats how i got a couple of my exes. id say hi, get them to bite into conversation, let them talk, then when i found something in common (situations, hobbies, etc) id chyme in. id let them do most talking bc thats what they love to do. just bite your lip and just fake being confident. a woman is really attracted to (not love attraction, but more interested attracted) to someone who is/fakes being confident. its a huge plus in their book.
okay, where to begin with this...
fake confidence is see-through most of the time, because it's not legit.
and of course we're attracted to confidence.
no one wants to be with someone who isn't confident in themselves... bec
haha well thanks. I'll work on it.



Nice, it's just hard especially only having one girl friend ever. (2 year relationship)

Gotta get back in the game..

I didn't use to be such a wanker.
i have a friend who's NEVER had a boyfriend.
so imagine how tough that would be...
dude, fake it... im telling you, act confident for 7 mins, enough to get them hooked, then just let them talk and such. butter em up with questions to keep them talking... seriously... it worked for me and iwas with so far out my league
horrible. this is horrible.

[BJW7191]

yes, well rejection sucks for everyone.
and it's hard to meet people, blah blah.
but.. you have to.
unless of course you like being alone.
in that case, more power to you.

okay, where to begin with this...
fake confidence is see-through most of the time, because it's not legit.
and of course we're attracted to confidence.
no one wants to be with someone who isn't confident in themselves... bec

i have a friend who's NEVER had a boyfriend.
so imagine how tough that would be...

horrible. this is horrible.

im not trying to teach him to be a player or whatever... what is the easiest way to give someone confidence... help them in the easiest way. if a girl is talking alot to a shy guy, then he has to do as little work as possible. i felt confident when i was able to just get her talking and then chyme in. i know it sound shallow, but when you dont have that confidence, thinking you have to do al the work is torture. its just to help out

[bung]

step 1. find girl
step 2. ask said girl out
step 3. go out

see.. not that hard :]

You forgot step 1.5: Brood for days and days over whether she'll reject you or not and shatter your fragile ego, and if taking that risk is ultimately worth asking her out.

[Chancetobe]

Haha, you would have to say, "so this is a date date?" because you'd have to imply it was a romantic date and not just two people getting together!

Stop making fun of me! All you'd have to say is "So (insert girl) would you maybe like to go out with me Saturday night?" instead of "So (insert girl) wanna chill saturday night?" or "Do you want to do something Saturday night? Maybe go out to dinner?" The second two are easily something you would ask a friend. It doesn't ruin the mood, and it doesn't sound stupid, just clears things up for the girl who's wondering if it's a date or not.

[.invisible ink.]

Stop making fun of me! All you'd have to say is "So (insert girl) would you maybe like to go out with me Saturday night?" instead of "So (insert girl) wanna chill saturday night?" or "Do you want to do something Saturday night? Maybe go out to dinner?" The second two are easily something you would ask a friend. It doesn't ruin the mood, and it doesn't sound stupid, just clears things up for the girl who's wondering if it's a date or not.

Are you really that clueless that you need someone to spell it out to that degree? I just don't get why all the formality is needed, just be happy you're getting to go out with this person, as a friend or more. Sometimes mystery and intrigue are a good thing.

[jagermeister]

You forgot step 1.5: Brood for days and days over whether she'll reject you or not and shatter your fragile ego, and if taking that risk is ultimately worth asking her out.

Hahaha this is the most crucial part.

[Chancetobe]

Are you really that clueless that you need someone to spell it out to that degree? I just don't get why all the formality is needed, just be happy you're getting to go out with this person, as a friend or more. Sometimes mystery and intrigue are a good thing.

Forgive me for wanting to know what I'm doing with my night. Yeah maybe you are going out with someone, and maybe there's something between the two of you, but maybe your going as friends and nothing will ever come of it, or maybe not. I don't see how mystery in regards to relationships is a good thing. You should be clear about what's going on. But that's just what I prefer. It's not formality though. I can't believe that you guys see it as dressing up in a suit, saying the word date a million times in elevated language and getting on one knee. It's still casual, and if it's not, then your doing it wrong.

[.invisible ink.]

Forgive me for wanting to know what I'm doing with my night. Yeah maybe you are going out with someone, and maybe there's something between the two of you, but maybe your going as friends and nothing will ever come of it, or maybe not. I don't see how mystery in regards to relationships is a good thing. You should be clear about what's going on. But that's just what I prefer. It's not formality though. I can't believe that you guys see it as dressing up in a suit, saying the word date a million times in elevated language and getting on one knee. It's still casual, and if it's not, then your doing it wrong.

the only time when i guess i'd really want someone to spell it out for me would be if it's a guy i have absolutely zero interest in romantically who's making a play to spend some time together with me - just so i could set him straight before it gets too late. Otherwise, i think it's usually pretty obvious that it's a date if someone wants to spend time with me - just the two of us, in the evening for dinner or whatever.

BTW, i didn't mean formality as in dressing up in a suit. I meant the whole "I would like to ask you out on a date tonight. Would that be pleasing to you?" type of conversation. That's nearly as bad as a guy asking if he can kiss me. Boy does that come off awkward!

[4N6 science]

the only time when i guess i'd really want someone to spell it out for me would be if it's a guy i have absolutely zero interest in romantically who's making a play to spend some time together with me - just so i could set him straight before it gets too late. Otherwise, i think it's usually pretty obvious that it's a date if someone wants to spend time with me - just the two of us, in the evening for dinner or whatever.

BTW, i didn't mean formality as in dressing up in a suit. I meant the whole "I would like to ask you out on a date tonight. Would that be pleasing to you?" type of conversation. That's nearly as bad as a guy asking if he can kiss me. Boy does that come off awkward!

Dear invisible ink,

Would you like to join me for a lovely evening at the Ritz Carlton on December 27th at 8:30 p.m.?

[.invisible ink.]

Dear invisible ink,

Would you like to join me for a lovely evening at the Ritz Carlton on December 27th at 8:30 p.m.?

ooh, the Ritz Carlton, eh? Sounds like a plan, I'll be sure to pack my overnight bag since I'm sure you were thoughtful enough to get us a suite along with the reservations for dinner.

edit: oh wait, i think i was supposed to set you straight that i wasn't interested in you in that way, but that was before you mentioned taking me to the Ritz Carlton. See? You do know how to work it!

[4N6 science]

ooh, the Ritz Carlton, eh? Sounds like a plan, I'll be sure to pack my overnight bag since I'm sure you were thoughtful enough to get us a suite along with the reservations for dinner.

edit: oh wait, i think i was supposed to set you straight that i wasn't interested in you in that way, but that was before you mentioned taking me to the Ritz Carlton. See? You do know how to work it!

Yes I was testing you!

I do know what I'm doing and yes there's a suite for us.

[Chancetobe]

the only time when i guess i'd really want someone to spell it out for me would be if it's a guy i have absolutely zero interest in romantically who's making a play to spend some time together with me - just so i could set him straight before it gets too late. Otherwise, i think it's usually pretty obvious that it's a date if someone wants to spend time with me - just the two of us, in the evening for dinner or whatever.

BTW, i didn't mean formality as in dressing up in a suit. I meant the whole "I would like to ask you out on a date tonight. Would that be pleasing to you?" type of conversation. That's nearly as bad as a guy asking if he can kiss me. Boy does that come off awkward!

I don't know. I've had guys take me out at night, do date like things, and it wasn't a date. So, maybe you are just luckier than I.

And yes, I just threw in suit for some dramatic effect. I also guess we just really don' t agree, because I think a guy asking to kiss you is fine.:shrug:

[wroteurname]

Two people, one person paying for everything.

[Greg]

this stuff is always so complicated. like recently i learned that there is a huge difference between lunch and dinner in like how romantic it is. i mean i understand that i guess... but like the depth of detail in discerning whether it was a date or not is insane.

[ShortyNC]

Absolutely. Maybe phrase it a bit more suavely than that though. I have faith, you can do it.

Seriously. You will save yourself a lot of confusion if you just state it ahead of time, why beat around the bush. If you want it to be a date then just say so, if they say no at least you didn't waste $50 on dinner on hanging out with a friend.

[stayforawhile]

Date: Out to dinner or movie where it's slightly awkward (unless you are already seeing each other) and man pays for woman. I guess, I mean when you're young it's kind of like you're always just "hanging out" unless you go out with someone you really don't knowm then I guess it's a date.

[4N6 science]

Date: Out to dinner or movie where it's slightly awkward (unless you are already seeing each other) and man pays for woman. I guess, I mean when you're young it's kind of like you're always just "hanging out" unless you go out with someone you really don't knowm then I guess it's a date.

The bold is the best part.

[stayforawhile]

The bold is the best part.
Why is tha the best part! It's true!

[4N6 science]

Why is tha the best part! It's true!

that was pretty sarcastic.

[lovely864md]

it's a date when there's sexual tension involved.

editing to say: not just sexual tension, but romantic feelings are expressed/perceived/initiated.

This.

[stayforawhile]

that was pretty sarcastic.

Are you telling' me you don't pay to to new girllll!!

[stayforawhile]

This.

Disagree

[4N6 science]

Are you telling' me you don't pay to to new girllll!!

No I bought her dinner, took her ice skating and paid for a lot of other stuff. Just saying its nice when the girl pays sometimes.

[stayforawhile]

No I bought her dinner, took her ice skating and paid for a lot of other stuff. Just saying its nice when the girl pays sometimes.

That's real nice of you once you're going out I think you should takes turns payingggg

[4N6 science]

That's real nice of you once you're going out I think you should takes turns payingggg

Yeah I agree and she's told me that.

[bjm1702]

a date is when two people go out in an attempt to try and improve relations/feelings for each other

[BJW7191]

if a blowjob comes at the end of it... its officially a date

[4N6 science]

if a blowjob comes at the end of it... its officially a date

That sounds good to me.

[BJW7191]

That sounds good to me.


no really its in websters dictionary under definition 3... if its not there, then you have an outdated version

[stayforawhile]

Yeah I agree and she's told me that.
That's real nice, when do you go back to esculea?

[4N6 science]

no really its in websters dictionary under definition 3... if its not there, then you have an outdated version

Oh wow I didn't know that.

That's real nice, when do you go back to esculea?

I go back to school on friday. I can't wait.

[BJW7191]

Oh wow I didn't know that.



I go back to school on friday. I can't wait.


most people dont... see im just trying to spread the awareness of the subject

[stayforawhile]

Oh wow I didn't know that.



I go back to school on friday. I can't wait.
Ohh reall exciting I bet!

[4N6 science]

Ohh reall exciting I bet!

yeah have no idea. I cannot express it through the computer.

[piglet]

If you need to define a date, then you should really get the fuck off the internet and get laid, immediately.

[stayforawhile]

yeah have no idea. I cannot express it through the computer.
hhah well i;m really glad for you. I don't think I ever told you but Nikki and I saw Anberlin a few months ago!

[4N6 science]

hhah well i;m really glad for you. I don't think I ever told you but Nikki and I saw Anberlin a few months ago!

thanks...

I think I do remember you saying that. I'm seeing them friday!

[stayforawhile]

thanks...

I think I do remember you saying that. I'm seeing them friday!
Ohh that exciting!!

[4N6 science]

Ohh that exciting!!

Yeah this weekend will probably go down as one of THE best in my whole 22 years of living.