Edo_Speedo
12/27/08, 10:04 PM
I thought that during this time of year, when things can get bad for some, there most be a place they all can reach. I have suffered many a troubles, like most people, and will just go to the surface with those to go into more help that I might be able to give. My first being a little over 4 years ago, with my 18 year old cousin dying in a car crash. Stupid controversy with drug use rumors even toxicology ruled out any drugs fueled many fires in my family. A year after that my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer, and a year later she died. My grandfather died that December, and now two years later my uncle, in his mid 30s was hit by a car speeding a little more than 24 hours ago and died. We say he's happy with our grandmother and my cousin, it's just tragic that it happened.
The holidays have been rough for many, and I have had many difficulties with the losses, as I can imagine most have or might imagine. My mother's side of the family was never fully together, with barely any talking. Each time though they come together for the rest of us, then slowly fade away again. My first message for all of you is simple: keep family close. Nothing has to be of fault and you may lose someone. Just remember to call you're family every once in a while, even if things are iffy, and just say hello, it could save you some pain later.
Also I've seen many I know go down a bad path with loss. I can simply say this: don't ignore what's going on, carry it with you. Everyone have their own weights and burdens in life. If you start to bring them with you and talk, or at least vent them out, they will help you become stronger later. If you avoid them they will be a ball and chain. Organize thoughts and get your mind straight first. That is probably the most vital. I simply think that some would benefit from actually doing some things about it. Once you get yourself organized, relax, get all the affairs in order, and take things one at a time. Don't stop living or loving due to a loss. If you put things on pause, it's that much harder to keep going.
The holiday season, with everything going on, can be hard. Take care of yourself and everyone around you, it's a little past the season I know, I just wish for all to take care of themselves. Any hate coming can go fuck itself for all I care. I am in no way well yet, but I'm sticking to a few strong loved ones, both involved and not involved, and I'm continuing my life knowing that even when things change, the people around you can always help you. Just vent in a healthy manner, carry it with you, and stay strong.
EDIT: Realize it's long, sorry been a rough night and ranted. I tried to trim fat but not very well.
The holidays have been rough for many, and I have had many difficulties with the losses, as I can imagine most have or might imagine. My mother's side of the family was never fully together, with barely any talking. Each time though they come together for the rest of us, then slowly fade away again. My first message for all of you is simple: keep family close. Nothing has to be of fault and you may lose someone. Just remember to call you're family every once in a while, even if things are iffy, and just say hello, it could save you some pain later.
Also I've seen many I know go down a bad path with loss. I can simply say this: don't ignore what's going on, carry it with you. Everyone have their own weights and burdens in life. If you start to bring them with you and talk, or at least vent them out, they will help you become stronger later. If you avoid them they will be a ball and chain. Organize thoughts and get your mind straight first. That is probably the most vital. I simply think that some would benefit from actually doing some things about it. Once you get yourself organized, relax, get all the affairs in order, and take things one at a time. Don't stop living or loving due to a loss. If you put things on pause, it's that much harder to keep going.
The holiday season, with everything going on, can be hard. Take care of yourself and everyone around you, it's a little past the season I know, I just wish for all to take care of themselves. Any hate coming can go fuck itself for all I care. I am in no way well yet, but I'm sticking to a few strong loved ones, both involved and not involved, and I'm continuing my life knowing that even when things change, the people around you can always help you. Just vent in a healthy manner, carry it with you, and stay strong.
EDIT: Realize it's long, sorry been a rough night and ranted. I tried to trim fat but not very well.