What the PL forum is for, right?

[amysaurus]

Before you get all tl;dr on me, just bear with me.

I just found out (via facebook, no less) that my ex-boyfriend/now-ex-best friend/the guy that I was hooking up with all quarter until I ended things the week before finals is in a relationship. This entire break I have been struggling with my feelings for him because I couldn't decide whether or not I was willing to risk our friendship, something that has been going on since second grade, to be in a relationship with him. We even had a ridiculous texting conversation last week about how he "can't rush into another relationship" and "that we can't date yet, you know that can't happen" (real texts he sent me). So, imagine my surprise when I see that shit on facebook. I just called him and called him out on it and told him our friendship is over and that he should never speak to me again because I am really fucking pissed off. How can he possibly be in a relationship with this girl when he supposedly wasn't ready for another relationship this fast after his last breakup? What bullshit

I hope that's coherent because I'm mostly just really mad and just ranting right now.

[liar23]

tl;dr



but really, thats fucked up. then again, I know nothing about this kind of stuff

[amysaurus]

Haha thanks. I honestly don't even know what to think because he just sent me a really long angry text blaming me for the failure of our relationship when I didn't even do anything. I was the one who was waiting for him to be ready and now he's ready with someone else. That's cool.

[resrchmnkygrl6]

honestly, i don't think you should sweat it. i mean, you lost a friend and that's hard. but what's done is done. eventually you're just gonna have to get over it. just learn from the experience and move on, just like with anything else in life.
that sounds harsh and apathetic (sorry) but that's the reality of it, i think.
cuss him out all you want, but the situation won't change...

[sweetforever]

Guy sounds like a douche, seems like you're better off.

[resrchmnkygrl6]

Guy sounds like a douche, seems like you're better off.
qft

[amysaurus]

Thanks, guys. I really appreciate it. I just feel like such a fucking tool for crying about it especially when all of my friends don't want me to be with him anyway. They all think we're going to end up getting married when we're older but none of them want us to be together right now because they all know that he's just going to hurt me. I don't even know what to think anymore.

[spansen]

lamesauce. sorry. dude's dumb.

[Kassie09]

Amy, I'm going to come out there and beat him down. For real, what a dick.

[thesafeword]

Compared to what I've seen before in PL, that was a mere sentence. And a dick move on his part.

[spansen]

Thanks, guys. I really appreciate it. I just feel like such a fucking tool for crying about it especially when all of my friends don't want me to be with him anyway. They all think we're going to end up getting married when we're older but none of them want us to be together right now because they all know that he's just going to hurt me. I don't even know what to think anymore.
that doesn't even make sense.. they don't want you together now, but yet they think you'll marry him down the line? what?.. say again?

... well, from the looks of it, you're a gorgeous girl, you'll be fine.

[hellogorgeous]

i'm sorry :( that blows. i hate guys.

[spansen]

haha, i just called her gorgeous, and in pops hellogorgeous.

[thespearkid]

Now, since Amy is awesome, I automatically side with her... but, the male in me understands that sometimes things come up suddenly and I don't think he was necessarily trying to deceive you or hurt you. That sentence probably doesn't make any sense. All I'm saying is, if you're not talking to him ever again, you'll never figure out exactly why this happened and if you don't know why it happened, it might happen again in the future.

[Shadow_Walker14]

yes, he is pretty much a douche bag. perhaps he acted out of impulse? i don't know, i'm not defending him, but i will say this. if you totally hate and you're sure you never ever want to talk with him again, than it's better off that you two aren't friends, but you might have acted out of anger when you told him that. i guess it depends on whether you miss him already or not. if you don't, then you probably did the right thing, but if you miss him...well, i'm sure you know what i was about to say. ;]

[UntilItKillsYou]

:hug:

[bung]

the PL forum is for the lolz, nothing more.

[PadraicPrincess]

That's a pretty terrible feeling. I've experienced something close to that, involving facebook and whatnot. Instead of looking at the negatives of the situation why not looking at it from a different angle. Maybe it's for the best, maybe this is just what you needed to move on from it. Why would you want to be with someone who does that to you, anyways? Alright that's my input.

[kwsqd]

I'm sorry Amy. That's really fucked up. So many guys are douche bags.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

amy, hire someone to kick his ass, please. if i lived closer to cali, i'd do it myself but no luck.. =(

but really, see what he says to a mutual friend about it or something, then talk to him once you've calmed down and explain your feelings about the situation because that's just fucked up of him. nobody should taunt another person like that, if anything he should've had the decency to tell you himself, not leave it to facebook.

[amysaurus]

Amy, I'm going to come out there and beat him down. For real, what a dick.

I love you.

Compared to what I've seen before in PL, that was a mere sentence. And a dick move on his part.

HAHAH thanks. I tried to keep it short, but I definitely could have written a novel on the situation. Thanks though

that doesn't even make sense.. they don't want you together now, but yet they think you'll marry him down the line? what?.. say again?

... well, from the looks of it, you're a gorgeous girl, you'll be fine.

I know... they think that he's too immature now but they all know what we have is special since we were each others' first loves and blah blah blah... basically they think I'm too good for him now but in the end Derek will grow up and we'll end up together.
Thanks :-)

i'm sorry :( that blows. i hate guys.

Sigh, I know. Me too

Now, since Amy is awesome, I automatically side with her... but, the male in me understands that sometimes things come up suddenly and I don't think he was necessarily trying to deceive you or hurt you. That sentence probably doesn't make any sense. All I'm saying is, if you're not talking to him ever again, you'll never figure out exactly why this happened and if you don't know why it happened, it might happen again in the future.

No, I get it. I'm going to try to get him to talk to me face to face today because I need to. He sent me such a long, angry text message yesterday though that blamed me for everything falling apart which I think is totally unfair.

yes, he is pretty much a douche bag. perhaps he acted out of impulse? i don't know, i'm not defending him, but i will say this. if you totally hate and you're sure you never ever want to talk with him again, than it's better off that you two aren't friends, but you might have acted out of anger when you told him that. i guess it depends on whether you miss him already or not. if you don't, then you probably did the right thing, but if you miss him...well, i'm sure you know what i was about to say. ;]

You're right, I acted out of anger. I definitely don't want to not be friends.

:hug:

ily bby

the PL forum is for the lolz, nothing more.

You suck ass

That's a pretty terrible feeling. I've experienced something close to that, involving facebook and whatnot. Instead of looking at the negatives of the situation why not looking at it from a different angle. Maybe it's for the best, maybe this is just what you needed to move on from it. Why would you want to be with someone who does that to you, anyways? Alright that's my input.

It was just so ridiculous to me because I haven't been on facebook the past few days since I was out of town, and as soon as I get back, he's "in a relationship." What the fuck.

I'm sorry Amy. That's really fucked up. So many guys are douche bags.

Sigh, I know. I just hate that I keep going back to him/he keeps coming back to me and we both allow it to happen when we both know it just doesn't work.

amy, hire someone to kick his ass, please. if i lived closer to cali, i'd do it myself but no luck.. =(

but really, see what he says to a mutual friend about it or something, then talk to him once you've calmed down and explain your feelings about the situation because that's just fucked up of him. nobody should taunt another person like that, if anything he should've had the decency to tell you himself, not leave it to facebook.

I'm going to. Last night one of my best friends came over and was like yeah... I know he has a girlfriend... I met her the other night. And I was like oh, fucking fantastic. I'm literally the last one in town to find out. In fact, one of his best friends told another one of my best friends via AIM, and I quote, "Jennifer, Derek has a new girlfriend. Don't tell Amy." ....right. Great. I can't even begin to comprehend what he was thinking when this all happened.






And thus concludes my longest multi-quote post ever. I have to go to work now but I really appreciate you guys not being assholes about this since you know, it is ap and the PL forum.

[silentstar1134]

Although i dont know you, it seems like it wasn't meant to be if he's gonna pull a move like that and put you on the backburner. Then he's prob gonna run back to you as a safety net if it doesn't work out. All I can say is at least he didn't cheat on you because it seems like he's the type of guy that would.

[swt_catastrophe]

he's just not that into you, simple as that.
yeah, he's an ass, and the situation sucks. i feel for you, because i've been having similar-ish drama happen until lately. but that's the gist of it... because if he really was, then he'd be with you, as opposed to this other girl.

also, if you haven't read the book, do it. it's amazing.
Haha thanks. I honestly don't even know what to think because he just sent me a really long angry text blaming me for the failure of our relationship when I didn't even do anything. I was the one who was waiting for him to be ready and now he's ready with someone else. That's cool.
SO annoying. i love when they're being the problem and acting like jerks, and yet somehow it's YOUR fault.
amy, you shouldn't have to put up with a guy who treats you like this.. you can do better!
Now, since Amy is awesome, I automatically side with her... but, the male in me understands that sometimes things come up suddenly and I don't think he was necessarily trying to deceive you or hurt you. That sentence probably doesn't make any sense. All I'm saying is, if you're not talking to him ever again, you'll never figure out exactly why this happened and if you don't know why it happened, it might happen again in the future.
i'm don't know if i agree with you on that first part.
if he says he's not ready to be in a relationship, and then he is, then what he really is saying is that he's not ready to be in a relationship with HER.

personally, i'd cut him off. he was a dick to you, and i wouldn't see any reason to let him "explain himself"...
he made his choice, so he can lie in that bed.

[spansen]

I love you.



HAHAH thanks. I tried to keep it short, but I definitely could have written a novel on the situation. Thanks though



I know... they think that he's too immature now but they all know what we have is special since we were each others' first loves and blah blah blah... basically they think I'm too good for him now but in the end Derek will grow up and we'll end up together.
Thanks :-)



Sigh, I know. Me too



No, I get it. I'm going to try to get him to talk to me face to face today because I need to. He sent me such a long, angry text message yesterday though that blamed me for everything falling apart which I think is totally unfair.



You're right, I acted out of anger. I definitely don't want to not be friends.



ily bby



You suck ass



It was just so ridiculous to me because I haven't been on facebook the past few days since I was out of town, and as soon as I get back, he's "in a relationship." What the fuck.



Sigh, I know. I just hate that I keep going back to him/he keeps coming back to me and we both allow it to happen when we both know it just doesn't work.



I'm going to. Last night one of my best friends came over and was like yeah... I know he has a girlfriend... I met her the other night. And I was like oh, fucking fantastic. I'm literally the last one in town to find out. In fact, one of his best friends told another one of my best friends via AIM, and I quote, "Jennifer, Derek has a new girlfriend. Don't tell Amy." ....right. Great. I can't even begin to comprehend what he was thinking when this all happened.






And thus concludes my longest multi-quote post ever. I have to go to work now but I really appreciate you guys not being assholes about this since you know, it is ap and the PL forum.
biggest multi-quote ever. nice.

[HelpMeSleep]

he's just not that into you, simple as that.
yeah, he's an ass, and the situation sucks. i feel for you, because i've been having similar-ish drama happen until lately. but that's the gist of it... because if he really was, then he'd be with you, as opposed to this other girl.

also, if you haven't read the book, do it. it's amazing.
this is the third time I've quoted you and agreed with you today, but completely seconded. that book has been my bible since like sophomore year of high school. although I'm not really following it right now, but whatever, it'll come back to bite me in the ass, I've accepted it.

but anyway, definitely read that book. and I'm really sorry, that situation honestly sucks. that was a dick move on your friend's part and I think you're totally justified in not speaking to him, although I imagine that must be hard. :-(

[spansen]

what book is everyone talking about?

[fulltiltxb00gie]

I'm going to. Last night one of my best friends came over and was like yeah... I know he has a girlfriend... I met her the other night. And I was like oh, fucking fantastic. I'm literally the last one in town to find out. In fact, one of his best friends told another one of my best friends via AIM, and I quote, "Jennifer, Derek has a new girlfriend. Don't tell Amy." ....right. Great. I can't even begin to comprehend what he was thinking when this all happened.
wow. that's crazy that he thought you wouldn't find out. find a new boytoy tonight to kiss at midnight and rub it in his face, please. and then all of pl will go beat him up tomorrow.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

what book is everyone talking about?
he's just not that into you. the greatest book in the history of...ever

[thesafeword]

I just saw them talking about it on I Love the New Millenium.

[HelpMeSleep]

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51duFIkPFmL._SS500_.jpg (http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/B001HC8516/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1230760443&sr=1-5)
great book. and apparently they're making a movie of it now, I haven't seen the previews yet though.

[spansen]

oh joy. a book of generalizations of my kind.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51duFIkPFmL._SS500_.jpg (http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/B001HC8516/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1230760443&sr=1-5)
great book. and apparently they're making a movie of it now, I haven't seen the previews yet though.
THERE'S GONNA BE A MOVIE? how?

[HelpMeSleep]

THERE'S GONNA BE A MOVIE? how?
haha, that's what I said! apparently it's like an actual story and it has hell of people in it, ben affleck and jennifer aniston being two of them. I definitely wanna know a more about it.

[spansen]

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1001508/

you're welcome.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

haha, that's what I said! apparently it's like an actual story and it has hell of people in it, ben affleck and jennifer aniston being two of them. I definitely wanna know a more about it.
i just watched the trailers. this is going to be amazing.

[HelpMeSleep]

oh joy. a book of generalizations of my kind.
basically it says if a guy was really into you, he wouldn't treat you like shit. makes sense to me. and it's written by a straight married man.

[swt_catastrophe]

he's just not that into you. the greatest book in the history of...ever
seriously. i need to flip through it again.
i mean, he says he misses me, but he's not getting back to me on time, but he's busy...right?
he's not that into me.

also. he's a jerk :/
and i can't WAIT for the movie; it actually looks pretty good.
oh joy. a book of generalizations of my kind.
you should check it out, and then tell us what you disagree with... if anything.
honestly, it just cuts out the bullshit and the excuses that we make for guys.

[bung]

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51duFIkPFmL._SS500_.jpg (http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/B001HC8516/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1230760443&sr=1-5)
great book. and apparently they're making a movie of it now, I haven't seen the previews yet though.

that book looks ghey. They're making a revolutionary road movie which comes out on Jan. 15th.. better book and probably will be a better movie, too.

http://media.npr.org/books/ymrt/2007/revroad200.jpg

read that shit.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

seriously. i need to flip through it again.
i mean, he says he misses me, but he's not getting back to me on time, but he's busy...right?
he's not that into me.

also. he's a jerk :/
and i can't WAIT for the movie; it actually looks pretty good.

you should check it out, and then tell us what you disagree with... if anything.
honestly, it just cuts out the bullshit and the excuses that we make for guys.
i read it last year and fell in love. i should probably reread it too though. maybe buy it myself, highlight some stuff..haha

[spansen]

seriously. i need to flip through it again.
i mean, he says he misses me, but he's not getting back to me on time, but he's busy...right?
he's not that into me.

also. he's a jerk :/
and i can't WAIT for the movie; it actually looks pretty good.

you should check it out, and then tell us what you disagree with... if anything.
honestly, it just cuts out the bullshit and the excuses that we make for guys.
i'd feel so weird checking that out at a library or buying it and carrying it around.. haha.

but, point blank: if i'm actually interested in a girl enough for a relationship, i'm not going to be a tool.. in fact, the only time i'm being a tool is when i'm being sarcastic.

[swt_catastrophe]

i love how all the guys are hating on this book.
i think they just want to keep their bs.... don't you think, mandi?

and yes, revolutionary road is going to be [dare i say] phenomenal

[spansen]

i don't have any b.s.. i'm nice. and when i'm in a relationship i'm still nice... almost too nice, in fact.

[swt_catastrophe]

i read it last year and fell in love. i should probably reread it too though. maybe buy it myself, highlight some stuff..haha
do ittttt.
i'd feel so weird checking that out at a library or buying it and carrying it around.. haha.

but, point blank: if i'm actually interested in a girl enough for a relationship, i'm not going to be a tool.. in fact, the only time i'm being a tool is when i'm being sarcastic.
yeah, exactly.

hence the title :]

[HelpMeSleep]

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1001508/

you're welcome.
thank you. you've helped me overcome my laziness which was preventing me from googling it.

i just watched the trailers. this is going to be amazing.
it really does! it looks like it'll be in the style of love actually which is such a great movie.

that book looks ghey. They're making a revolutionary road movie which comes out on Jan. 15th.. better book and probably will be a better movie, too.

http://media.npr.org/books/ymrt/2007/revroad200.jpg

read that shit.
well, what's it about?

i love how all the guys are hating on this book.
i think they just want to keep their bs.... don't you think, mandi?
oh, I definitely do. they can get away with more shit that way.

i don't have any b.s.. i'm nice. and when i'm in a relationship i'm still nice... almost too nice, in fact.
and that's what the book says.

[spansen]

thank you. you've helped me overcome my laziness which was preventing me from googling it.

and that's what the book says.
what?
do ittttt.

yeah, exactly.

hence the title :]
what?

you girls...

[swt_catastrophe]

i love that this thread became a discussion on that book/movie. hah.
i don't have any b.s.. i'm nice. and when i'm in a relationship i'm still nice... almost too nice, in fact.
you are nice :]
and i haven't talked to you in AGES.

[spansen]

hahaha.. well, it's both good and a flaw.

it's good when i'm actually in a relationship, though.

[bobby runs]

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51duFIkPFmL._SS500_.jpg (http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/B001HC8516/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1230760443&sr=1-5)
great book. and apparently they're making a movie of it now, I haven't seen the previews yet though.
movie seems legit.

i would see it

[spansen]

oh, and, right.. because neither of us are really regulars unless school's out. ha

[andrew4045]

facebook is legit

[swt_catastrophe]

facebook is legit
the things you find out on fb...

status: "_________ thinks someone is a slut and better watch her back tonight"
errrrr....

[spansen]

i think you quoting me was irrelevant this time.

[HelpMeSleep]

what?

what?

you girls...
hahah. read the book and you'll understand.

movie seems legit.

i would see it
yeah, it actually looks really good. reminds me of love actually, though I'm wondering if any of the plot lines will really have happy endings.

[HelpMeSleep]

the things you find out on fb...

status: "_________ thinks someone is a slut and better watch her back tonight"
errrrr....
wait, is that status a true story??

[swt_catastrophe]

wait, is that status a true story??
no joke.
best part? pretty sure she was talking about me.
bitch.

[HelpMeSleep]

no joke.
best part? pretty sure she was talking about me.
bitch.
and that was the friend you were talking about before? wow, what a bitch.

[swt_catastrophe]

and that was the friend you were talking about before? wow, what a bitch.
the one and only.
i apologized, in the whole "i didn't know you were into him, i never meant to hurt you" sort-of-way.
she couldn't accept that, even though she said that she understood "that you were drunk"
sidenote: i'd had two drinks... one of them being smirnoff ice (not exactly a high alcohol content), and was tipsy, at most.
the entire thing sucked. like, we were pretty good friends [or so i thought], and then after that, she decided that she couldn't forgive me [bs], and i decided that i wasn't going to beg for forgiveness, when i didn't do anything wrong.

[bobby runs]

yeah, it actually looks really good. reminds me of love actually, though I'm wondering if any of the plot lines will really have happy endings.
Seems like a good date movie.

[spansen]

no joke.
best part? pretty sure she was talking about me.
bitch.
she's just jealous.

[swt_catastrophe]

she's just jealous.
exactly what i thought too :]

[bung]

well, what's it about?


"April and Frank Wheeler are a young, thriving couple living with their two children in a Connecticut suburb in the mid-1950s. Their self-assured exterior masks a creeping frustration at their inability to feel fulfilled in their relationships or careers. Frank is mired in a well-paying but boring office job, and April is a housewife still mourning the demise of her hoped-for acting career. Determined to identify themselves as superior to the mediocre sprawl of suburbanites who surround them, they decide to move to France where they will be better able to develop their true artistic sensibilities, free of the consumerist demands of capitalist America. As their relationship deteriorates into an endless cycle of squabbling, jealousy and recriminations, their trip and their dreams of self-fulfillment are thrown into jeopardy."

That's the synopsis from imdb. It's one of the best books I've ever read, too.

[spansen]

exactly what i thought too :]
with good reason.

and, that book/movie sounds good, i need to pick that up.

[amysaurus]

Although i dont know you, it seems like it wasn't meant to be if he's gonna pull a move like that and put you on the backburner. Then he's prob gonna run back to you as a safety net if it doesn't work out. All I can say is at least he didn't cheat on you because it seems like he's the type of guy that would.

Yeah... I know. I really do think that he always just falls back on me and I always put up with it. He WOULD cheat on me, too. He was my best friend for awhile and he cheated on pretty much every single one of his girlfriends. He told me that he would never cheat on me though because supposedly I was the girl he cheated with half the time. Whatever.

he's just not that into you, simple as that.
yeah, he's an ass, and the situation sucks. i feel for you, because i've been having similar-ish drama happen until lately. but that's the gist of it... because if he really was, then he'd be with you, as opposed to this other girl.

also, if you haven't read the book, do it. it's amazing.

SO annoying. i love when they're being the problem and acting like jerks, and yet somehow it's YOUR fault.
amy, you shouldn't have to put up with a guy who treats you like this.. you can do better!

i'm don't know if i agree with you on that first part.
if he says he's not ready to be in a relationship, and then he is, then what he really is saying is that he's not ready to be in a relationship with HER.

personally, i'd cut him off. he was a dick to you, and i wouldn't see any reason to let him "explain himself"...
he made his choice, so he can lie in that bed.

I haven't read the book, but I saw previews for the movie. It's just such a shitty situation cause it's definitely not ALL my fault. Yes, I will take blame for parts of our relationship falling apart, but there is no way he can blame this all on me. That's so unfair. But yes... he's not ready to be in a relationship with me, which makes no sense to me because everything he used to say to me during the quarter when we were still hooking up indicates otherwise.

wow. that's crazy that he thought you wouldn't find out. find a new boytoy tonight to kiss at midnight and rub it in his face, please. and then all of pl will go beat him up tomorrow.

lol I know. If it's on facebook obviously I'm going to see it. I told him today that we have to talk in person like rational human beings but I don't think I have time so whatever.

[HelpMeSleep]

the one and only.
i apologized, in the whole "i didn't know you were into him, i never meant to hurt you" sort-of-way.
she couldn't accept that, even though she said that she understood "that you were drunk"
sidenote: i'd had two drinks... one of them being smirnoff ice (not exactly a high alcohol content), and was tipsy, at most.
the entire thing sucked. like, we were pretty good friends [or so i thought], and then after that, she decided that she couldn't forgive me [bs], and i decided that i wasn't going to beg for forgiveness, when i didn't do anything wrong.
blah. what a bitch. I'm definitely with you on this. that's just lame. =/

Seems like a good date movie.
good call.

"April and Frank Wheeler are a young, thriving couple living with their two children in a Connecticut suburb in the mid-1950s. Their self-assured exterior masks a creeping frustration at their inability to feel fulfilled in their relationships or careers. Frank is mired in a well-paying but boring office job, and April is a housewife still mourning the demise of her hoped-for acting career. Determined to identify themselves as superior to the mediocre sprawl of suburbanites who surround them, they decide to move to France where they will be better able to develop their true artistic sensibilities, free of the consumerist demands of capitalist America. As their relationship deteriorates into an endless cycle of squabbling, jealousy and recriminations, their trip and their dreams of self-fulfillment are thrown into jeopardy."

That's the synopsis from imdb. It's one of the best books I've ever read, too.
that actually sounds really interesting. I'll have to check the book out.

[lovely864md]

Amy... I feel your pain. He's a shitty person, simple as that :shrug:

I haven't read the thread but did you know anything about this other girl before?

[Chancetobe]

facebook creates so much drama. but, dude seems like a douche. he was just making up excuses not to be with you.

[The Database]

If I had a dollar for every time a girl told me she "wasn't ready for a relationship" and then got into one like a week later... well I would be making money in a very strange way.

[spansen]

facebook creates so much drama. but, dude seems like a douche. he was just making up excuses not to be with you.
it's not juuuust facebook. (the people involved play a larger role than the website does-- and, there are also other social networking sites that cause the same 'dramas' too.)
If I had a dollar for every time a girl told me she "wasn't ready for a relationship" and then got into one like a week later... well I would be making money in a very strange way.
that'd be the saddest way a man could make money. don't say that! ha

[wrmerman]

facebook lurking FTW!

[llwilliamsll]

Facebook lulz. Seems like the dude lost interest in you. Oh bummer.

[amysaurus]

Amy... I feel your pain. He's a shitty person, simple as that :shrug:

I haven't read the thread but did you know anything about this other girl before?

Haha yeah I know. It's retarded. I had heard of her because she goes to Santa Barbara City College and had come to his house before but I didn't care because I figured she was just another dumb ho... and I was right!

Okay, that's mean. I don't know her at all. I shouldn't talk shit.

facebook creates so much drama. but, dude seems like a douche. he was just making up excuses not to be with you.

I know. The funniest part is that he didn't think I'd see it on facebook because he told me if he knew I'd see it there he wouldn't have put it up. Greeaaaaat.

If I had a dollar for every time a girl told me she "wasn't ready for a relationship" and then got into one like a week later... well I would be making money in a very strange way.

Not gonna lie, this is the first time this has happened to me. I would have one dollar.

Facebook lulz. Seems like the dude lost interest in you. Oh bummer.

I know it sounds really trivial and unimportant (which it totally would be if it was any other guy) but I've known this guy since second grade and we have a very extensive history together. I was mostly just really pissed off when I made the thread but now I'm pretty okay about it.

[spansen]

I know. The funniest part is that he didn't think I'd see it on facebook because he told me if he knew I'd see it there he wouldn't have put it up. Greeaaaaat.


dude is a TERRIBLE liar.

[amysaurus]

dude is a TERRIBLE liar.

HAHAHA I know! When he told me that I was like uhh... what.. are you serious? Obviously I am going to see it if it's on facebook and we are facebook friends. Dumbass.

[spansen]

hahaha. dumb pos.

[BJW7191]

im sorry amy, that does suck. its a dick move on his part. i must say though, sometimes we say things that we really mean, but then we meet someone who can change our mind like *snap* that. im not standing up for him at all. im just saying you cant predict how you will feel tomorrow. but im sure you're a catch and hell realize how much of turd biscuit he is for fucking you over.


best of luck

[spansen]

not only that.. but seriously, from the looks of it: amy is gorgeous!.. ha

[BJW7191]

not only that.. but seriously, from the looks of it: amy is gorgeous!.. ha


idk what she looks like bc its private

[spansen]

click picture under her username where she posts.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

not only that.. but seriously, from the looks of it: amy is gorgeous!.. ha
amy is indeed a cutiepie.

[BJW7191]

she is cute... mad props

... but i feel ...semicreepy?... trying to find out what she looks like

[spansen]

so, amy, it sounds like you could have your pick on the board. ha

[bobby runs]

If I had a dollar for every time a girl told me she "wasn't ready for a relationship" and then got into one like a week later... well I would be making money in a very strange way.
It's a common excuse from girls so they "don't hurt us"

[amysaurus]

...stop creepin' pls :-)

[4N6 science]

I've seen this firsthand but in completely the opposite way where I was in amy's shoes. It sucks and there's just no explaining it. I guess the guy wanted his cake and to eat it too.

[amysaurus]

I've seen this firsthand but in completely the opposite way where I was in amy's shoes. It sucks and there's just no explaining it. I guess the guy wanted his cake and to eat it too.

Doesn't it suck? There are plenty of cute pics on facebook now of the two of them kissing/etc. I'm just like uhh... okay. I told him that basically the ball's in his court because I have no desire to deal with this while still at home on break but if it means that much to him we can deal with it in Santa Barbara. I guess we'll see what happens.

[4N6 science]

Doesn't it suck? There are plenty of cute pics on facebook now of the two of them kissing/etc. I'm just like uhh... okay. I told him that basically the ball's in his court because I have no desire to deal with this while still at home on break but if it means that much to him we can deal with it in Santa Barbara. I guess we'll see what happens.


Yeah...I'm not sure why you want to deal with this guy anymore, but good luck with whatever you choose to do.

[spansen]

http://media.npr.org/books/ymrt/2007/revroad200.jpg

read that shit.
i just finished what i was reading, and probably tomorrow i'll go buy a few books. this is on my list.

[amysaurus]

Yeah...I'm not sure why you want to deal with this guy anymore, but good luck with whatever you choose to do.

The only reason why I'm even willing to deal with him at all anymore is because we've been through so much together and there was a point where we were best friends and well... he was my first (and only as of yet) love. I don't know. I'm just holding on to the past, I know. I don't want to let it go just yet.

[4N6 science]

The only reason why I'm even willing to deal with him at all anymore is because we've been through so much together and there was a point where we were best friends and well... he was my first (and only as of yet) love. I don't know. I'm just holding on to the past, I know. I don't want to let it go just yet.

Yeah I guess I can understand that. But from my experience holding on to the past like that usually doesn't help and things usually don't go back to being the way they were. I had an ex who did this because she wanted to be with me so bad. After we had broken up and many things happened, I knew things would just never be the same and she went through a lot until she finally learned that lesson.

[amysaurus]

Yeah I guess I can understand that. But from my experience holding on to the past like that usually doesn't help and things usually don't go back to being the way they were. I had an ex who did this because she wanted to be with me so bad. After we had broken up and many things happened, I knew things would just never be the same and she went through a lot until she finally learned that lesson.

Sigh I know you're right... but I still don't want to let it go yet. There's still that tiny part of me that's hoping for things to go back to the way they were.

[4N6 science]

Sigh I know you're right... but I still don't want to let it go yet. There's still that tiny part of me that's hoping for things to go back to the way they were.

I mean everyone does, but its hard to disregard what's happened between now and then. But I wish you the best with that situation.

[Miss Heartcore]

Pretty much sums up most of 2008 for me. I understand your frustrations.

[spansen]

relationships suck. i think we all have figured that out.

they're great, but they also suck really really hard & long.

[amysaurus]

Fucking bump because Derek and I just talked about our fight and our friendship or whatever the hell it is. I called him out on everything and all he did was agree and apologize. Now I don't know what to do. Am I supposed to be friends with him again or should I really just give up?

[spansen]

push pause for a while and then get friendly

[XEmoBoyShandorX]

Sigh I know you're right... but I still don't want to let it go yet. There's still that tiny part of me that's hoping for things to go back to the way they were.

I pretty sure I know how you feel. I've had a crush on my exish friend since like the beginning of freshman year. I almost went out with, but she was like "I'm not ready for a relationship." and "I don't see the difference between being really good friends and going out". Well then she got a boyfriend and I flipped out and was like, "what the fuck?!" and now we haven't talked since. That was at least a month or two ago.

So now I feel like kind of an ass for flipping out, and want to apologize because I'm still have that slight hope things will go back to normal, even though I know they will never be normal.

Oh yeah, and my advice would be to try to let it go. If you stay angry at someone it isn't good. I really don't like being angry at someone for a long period of time because it just starts to make me feel bad.

[spansen]

you're 15. i don't know if i'd take your advice. heh.

BUT. in the relationship world: my ex & i met and talked today for the first time in more than 6 months, we're finally on the right page.

all it took was face-to-face.