Broken Soul Needs Advice

[PunkBabie86]

Recently I've bee thinking a lot about break ups and how much bull shit I've gone through with all of my ex's. I've spent the majority of my day (at work) playing online and reading break up stories. Everyone has their terrible break up stories, I'm sure but I can't seem to find anyone who's been through what I have. I dated a man for 2 years... a year of that I had a best friend named... well we'll call her 'hoe bag'. Hoe bag was one of my most trust confidants. I told her EVERYTHING. If I thought a man was sexy, she knew it. We moved into a new aparmtent where we put everything in his name due to my credit issues (from working three jobs to support the two of us for two years while he did nothing). After a year of arguing non-stop with my boyfriend and confiding in Hoe Bag, I was informed that she was told to pretend to be my friend so she could find out the gossip about me. She would take what she heard back to my boyfriend and they'd talk shit about me and then sleep together. Groovy, right? He kicked me out of my own apartment that was now in his name. He took all of the money I had in our joint account. The man completely left me in a black hole of yuck.

I'm now dating a new guy, after being single for roughly a year. Occassionally I have days like today where all I can think about his much I hurt and how much I don't want to even think about the possibility of marriage or kids. My new boyfriend is the best I've ever had. He opens doors for me, cooks, cleans, massages me every night before bed, tells me I'm beautiful and wants to be with me forever. Even despite his perfections, I still catch myself thinking about my x and how bad he hurt me. I wonder if I'll ever be able to just buck the fuck up and get over it. Will the new boyfriend have to deal with this for the rest of his life? I know he can see when I have days where I'm just sad, or even worse, mad. I know he can tell when something is on my mind, but I don't even know how to talk to him about all of this. I just don't think he'll understand.

Help!

[Mxbaby511]

ibtl??

[robat19]

tldr, but stop being so emo.

[the1]

How are we meant to help? You have my sympathies, but we can't exactly help you.

[stellar815]

Wish I could help...keep ya head up!

[raychull]

go watch requiem for a dream.

[dirtysneakers]

Tell him. If I can sympathise with you then he surely can.

You can only hope that time will help.

[.invisible ink.]

life sucks, then you die. just be happy you have an amazing boyfriend now... and hopefully better friends.

[thespearkid]

Condense this post into a question no longer than three lines and try again.

[leftapart]

I cannot say that I have personally experienced this type of situation you had, but I know the level of pain, damage, and psychological hurt and mistrust you have experienced. You will eventually get over it, you just need to spend time alone. Being with someone, no matter how great they are, is not going to magically vanish and clear the harmful scars and memories you have. Time to yourself where are able to reflect and deal with these feelings is all you can. Then when you have had enough time, and feel comfortable and know that this was not your fault, you can restart. It took me a year and a half to get over my pain, and still, I am not comfortable to be in a relationship. I just finally realize that yes, I am hurt, and I am pissed about what my ex significant other did, but I no long dwell on these feelings of hopelessness, and let them sabotage my day and life. Reading about similar situation to yours online at work will not help either. You need to rid yourself of all of these bad habits that only prolong your feelings of despair. I'm not sure where I was going with this, or what good it will do, but I hope you somehow received some form of relief/help.

[robat19]

stop typing such long posts. nobody wants to read all that.

[Chris Fallon]

You're 22. Grow up and stop crying. Locked.