Could you date a girl on the opposite religious spectrum?

[thespearkid]

Atheists: Could you date someone who is a devout Christian, Jew, Muslim, Scientologist, etc.? When I say devout, I mean they go to church every sunday, they talk about God in their facebook status, they study the bible often, and the whole shebang. You get along really well with her and she's extremely easy to talk to and pretty to boot. Could you, being a devout atheist, date her?

Devout religious folks: Could you date an atheist? They don't believe in God at all but they're still a good person and you really like them, aside from their atheism.

Pople in between: Stop being ambiguous and pick a side already.

[wewascontenders]

no. i would inevitably make fun of them.

[andrew4045]

probably not.

[phil19]

i dont think i could. id constantly feel preached too and that would annoy the hell outta me.
that being said, my girlfriend is 'catholic' but she's not really into it. she goes to church every now and then. ive even gone along with her a few times. this has caused no problems at all.
i dont see there being any problem with a bi-religious couple so long as both parties are understanding, accepting and tolerant. ive found alot of devout followers of any religion tend to be very intolerant of others.

[Hyp]

Ef that. Most women are annoying enough as it is. :P :P :P :P :P The last thing I need is for some bird to be yapping in my ear about how some dude with long hair is "inside of her" and how she just wants to be saved. :P :P :P :P

If I hear anybody else say "it's whatever God wants it to be", I swear to God I'm gonna remove their GI tract. :P :P :P

edit: don't give a efffffff :P :P :P

edit2: Also, I just don't think someone that religious would accept my personality and my sense of humor. Today I chuckled...who am I kidding, I was cracking up at this old movie from the 40's we watched in Fizz where some dude was delivering swift body punches to a horse that couldn't carry a load through the snow. :P :P :PI would rationalize my actions but...ef it. :P :P :P

^^^^see right there. A religious girl would require me to rationalize but I just don't give a shoot. What happens happens. :P :P :P :P :P :P :P

[.invisible ink.]

Atheists: Could you date someone who is a devout Christian, Jew, Muslim, Scientologist, etc.? When I say devout, I mean they go to church every sunday, they talk about God in their facebook status, they study the bible often, and the whole shebang. You get along really well with her and she's extremely easy to talk to and pretty to boot. Could you, being a devout atheist, date her?


Ahem, this question should have been posed to both men and women, but I'll let that slide and assume you are asking whether atheist/devout girls would date the opposite in guys as well.

My response is: No. Absolutely not. As an atheist I have a hard time taking anyone seriously that would believe so devoutly in any religious beliefs since I tend to see organized religion as a crutch and a form of mass manipulation. I am fine with people believing what they choose but people that talk about their religion incessantly get on my nerves (no matter which religious beliefs they subscribe to). I can't even be friends with people like that, let alone date them. I prefer to be around people who question religion and take the time to dig deeper, rather than the average soul that attends one type of church on a regular basis. I find people that choose to study many different religious or political beliefs generally to be intelligent people who are far more objective of religion/politics. This is far more attractive than the typical sheep that blindly follow a specific religion/political party just because it's been drilled into their head.

(I added in politics because I think that it's nearly interchangeable with religion in this aspect.)

[Kbm600]

I've done this before. I'm sort of in the middle, I'm neither REALLY religious or athiest. I've dated someone who doesn't believe in God what so ever, and someone who believes him to the point she'll cut off sex out of nowhere because she decided suddenly to be pure. Both situations had their horrible, horrible moments.

no. i would inevitably make fun of them.

That's an incredibly immature statement.

[&IllBeTheReason]

No. Religion is a value that shapes all other values. That is one thing that is necessary for a relationship to work.

[salmarnirecho]

I doubt it. In the descrption, the girl's religion bleeds over into other parts of her life, so it's obviously a big part of her identity. The difference would probably be too magnified. It also depends on her tolerance of my lack of belief.

[dodge_3001]

no, i would not.

[Heart-A-Tact]

A girl I'm currently into is like what you described. Religion is a large part of her lifestyle, but it has yet to bother me. Then again, though, we're not dating.

[recomposed]

I could never date a jesus freak. I could also never date a republican.

[fightoffyrdmns]

I could never date a jesus freak. I could also never date a republican.

Agreed!

[wewascontenders]

I've done this before. I'm sort of in the middle, I'm neither REALLY religious or athiest. I've dated someone who doesn't believe in God what so ever, and someone who believes him to the point she'll cut off sex out of nowhere because she decided suddenly to be pure. Both situations had their horrible, horrible moments.



That's an incredibly immature statement.

i'm an incredibly immature person when it comes to religion and belief.

[Kbm600]

i'm an incredibly immature person when it comes to religion and belief.

At least you're honest.

[speakhandsforme]

Tried it once and it didn't work.

There were two problem:
I ate meat on Fridays.
She banged other guys on Saturdays.

I guess I just couldn't give up my life of sin.

[raychull]

i don't know. I think if they were the whole, forcing their beliefs on you type, it wouldn't fly, either way.

[Machu505]

Depends on how religious they are. If they're a Jesus-freak, no; if they're moderately Christian and they only go to church twice a year, why not?

[thespearkid]

No. Religion is a value that shapes all other values. That is one thing that is necessary for a relationship to work.
unless you have sex with god....then it messes your relationship up

[kaycey]

i just need them to be hot, so my answer is yes.

[Hermux-Tantamoq]

No. Religion is a value that shapes all other values. That is one thing that is necessary for a relationship to work.

If both partners want the relationship to work, they put the mechanics in order just fine. And they shape their little machine of love by respecting what their paramour's values are. Be it belief in Jesus or Obama.

[fadedmemories]

Yes I could. As long as she respects my beliefs.

[tasteofchaosgrl]

my ex was jewish..didnt have a problem dating him

[caress me down]

no. i would inevitably make fun of them.
This.

I feel like I'd be able to accept it at first, but then it would get extremely irritating, and then comical.

[caress me down]

Plus, since I'm athiest, I'd get pissed if he or his family wanted me to go to church

[kemichels]

I could date a girl beyond the visible spectrum.

did u c wat i did there?

But really. I actually have a friend whose mom is a priest and her dad is atheist.

[thespearkid]

no. i would inevitably make fun of them.
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. At first, I'm sure it'd be fun to sort of discuss/debate religion with them but soon, it would break down into me making fun of her and her preaching to me.

Plus, since I'm athiest, I'd get pissed if he or his family wanted me to go to church
I actually wouldn't mind attending a religious service if I liked the girl. Not a Sunday morning service or anything like that though.

[thespearkid]

Ahem, this question should have been posed to both men and women, but I'll let that slide and assume you are asking whether atheist/devout girls would date the opposite in guys as well.

My response is: No. Absolutely not. As an atheist I have a hard time taking anyone seriously that would believe so devoutly in any religious beliefs since I tend to see organized religion as a crutch and a form of mass manipulation. I am fine with people believing what they choose but people that talk about their religion incessantly get on my nerves (no matter which religious beliefs they subscribe to). I can't even be friends with people like that, let alone date them. I prefer to be around people who question religion and take the time to dig deeper, rather than the average soul that attends one type of church on a regular basis. I find people that choose to study many different religious or political beliefs generally to be intelligent people who are far more objective of religion/politics. This is far more attractive than the typical sheep that blindly follow a specific religion/political party just because it's been drilled into their head.

(I added in politics because I think that it's nearly interchangeable with religion in this aspect.)
Sorry. I definitely meant to post this question to both sexes but forgot to type it as such.

[manoverboard679]

Tried it once and it didn't work.

There were two problem:
I ate meat on Fridays.
She banged other guys on Saturdays.

I guess I just couldn't give up my life of sin.

ahahaha i love this. And for me, no i couldn't. Religion is a huge part of big decision making and if you do end up marrying the person you'll always be in conflict so whats the point

[songydarko]

I probably couldn't handle a major bible lover. Just too much for me. If he believes it, that's fine. But if he lives everything by it, then no thanks.

[&IllBeTheReason]

If both partners want the relationship to work, they put the mechanics in order just fine. And they shape their little machine of love by respecting what their paramour's values are. Be it belief in Jesus or Obama.
I respectfully disagree. It may be because I am very strong in my religious opinion, but I could never date someone who was heavily religious solely because I wouldn't have the same respect for them that I would have for other people with the same views as me.

[SgtSmegma]

I probably couldn't handle a major bible lover. Just too much for me. If he believes it, that's fine. But if he lives everything by it, then no thanks.

These are the types of ambiguous beliefs that infuriate me the most.

[4N6 science]

I could never date someone who is devoutly religious. I'm somewhat religious but I can't stand people who are overbearing with their religion. It's not for everyone so there is no need to force your beliefs upon others. If they want to find it then they will otherwise leave them alone.

[Chris Fallon]

If a super conservative Christian girl and I ever started dating, it would over as quick as it began.

I am definitely not one for conservative values, so that would not work at all. I'm fine with how I am now, which is not religious at all. I gave it a shot, not my thing -- thankfully, my girlfriend and I are on the same page.

[jagermeister]

I would only do this if she has a much respect for the right of other's to believe what they want as I do. If she wasn't preachy about it and let me believe what I want while she believed what she wants I could handle it.

[caress me down]

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. At first, I'm sure it'd be fun to sort of discuss/debate religion with them but soon, it would break down into me making fun of her and her preaching to me.


I actually wouldn't mind attending a religious service if I liked the girl. Not a Sunday morning service or anything like that though.
That's what I was talking about mainly. Also, I feel with very religious parents, I would never be able to fully express my ideals without them shunning me.

[Freeride]

No way, I cant even be friends with someone who thinks that because I have different beliefs to them I am going to burn forever in hell fire

[ZeroGravity107]

How can you truly mesh with someone if you don't share beliefs? That's huge. It would ultimately lead to a break up if attempted.

[Willy McFurgle]

I've been in two relationships where it was on the opposite end of the religious spectrum. The first one was a short relationship in which we did nothing but watch movies, and i'd have listen to her talk about god. But the second one was a wild child, she did the church thing, and was all about staying true to her religion, but lookin back, i think she went to church to wipe her sin slate clean for the next week lol.

[igetmikey]

I've been in two relationships where it was on the opposite end of the religious spectrum. The first one was a short relationship in which we did nothing but watch movies, and i'd have listen to her talk about god. But the second one was a wild child, she did the church thing, and was all about staying true to her religion, but lookin back, i think she went to church to wipe her sin slate clean for the next week lol.



Hhaha, i just went through pretty much the same thing as your first one.
It better pay off if i go for a second.

[Willy McFurgle]

Hhaha, i just went through pretty much the same thing as your first one.
It better pay off if i go for a second.

You gotta look for the ones that pretend to be a so called "daddy's girl."

[igetmikey]

You gotta look for the ones that pretend to be a so called "daddy's girl."


hahah alright i'll keep that in mind.

[Chancetobe]

Absolutely not. People like that tend to annoy me. And its such a major belief, that I doubt you could have a solid relationship without fighting about it all the time. It's one thing to not be that religious and have two different religions (for instance, I'm Jewish, but I'm not that devout, so I wouldn't care if I dated a Christian who's about as religious as I am). It's more the intensity of the religion than the actual religion.

[mofizzle.]

I couldn't. I myself am an athiest, and i couldn't take somebody being up my ass about sinning all the time.
XD

[sdbrown]

No, I'm not really attracted to girls, no matter what their religious/non-religious beliefs are

[Heart-A-Tact]

No, I'm not really attracted to girls, no matter what their religious/non-religious beliefs are

How clever.

[pennie]

If they have lots of hair then who cares?

[trappedintime]

At most, probably kiss.

[paper halo]

No. Been there, it's not fun. I most probably wouldn't even date someone at the opposite end of the political spectrum to me if they were as opinionated as I am.

[Duexy]

not sure if i can date a religious girl period. i don't want my post to be the catalyst to a religion debate so i'll just leave it at that.

[chronomic]

I'd do one, but never date. I'm super picky as it is.

[fadedmemories]

I couldn't. I myself am an athiest, and i couldn't take somebody being up my ass about sinning all the time.
XD
This may surprise you, but not all Christians are like that.

[perceptrons]

Hell no. Especially since I see no point in dating someone unless I wouldn't mind getting more serious with that person. There's no way I could stand being with a devout for more than a few hours without getting into a debate about why they believe what they do.

[scmaley]

I would not date someone who didn't share my religious beliefs and convictions. I don't want someone who just agrees with everything I say, but having common ground makes sense.

[BrennanHickson]

I could never date a jesus freak. I could also never date a republican.
Good thing those go hand-in-hand.

[thespearkid]

A big part of this for me is sex. For me, sex is a part of a relationship, just as important as communication, spending time together, etc. If they're against pre-marital sex, I'd have a real problem with that. Problem is, there's no one who I've ever been able to get along with as well as I get along with this Christian girl down the hall from me. From the first day we met, we've just been extremely comfortable around each other, able to have four hour long conversations within the first three days we'd met.

[Aurvine]

I understand that in some religions that when you marry into the family then you have to assimilate into their culture and adopt their religious beliefs. I couldn't imagine living a lie in that sense, no matter how much I love her. That would be for the best, right?

[imahoodlum]

I don't think we would meet eye to eye on several different things which would obviously cause a lot of turmoil. I have devout friends and as long as we stay away from serious subjects, we are fine. Which is really just a matter of me keeping my mouth shut a lot of the time. But that's not something I would like in a relationship at all.

[m_rue]

Hmm, I'm not an extremely religious person and everyone I've ever been interested has been the same. I'd say it just depends. If he was the type of person to look down on me for not believing what he does/tries to force it on me, definitely not. But if he's respectful why not.

[WhitestKidUKnow]

no. i would inevitably make fun of them.

PREMIER AVATAR?!? I'M EXTREMELY OK WITH THIS.

[mofizzle.]

This may surprise you, but not all Christians are like that.


opposite religious spectrum would mean VERY VERY religious. If they were very religious, i'm sure they'd be up my ass about sinning.

nobody said all christians were that way.

[more heart]

I don't really have any religious preference to be honest. I mean, I'm Catholic but I'm not an Athiest or really religious so I guess it may work out for me.

[HelpMeSleep]

I probably couldn't date some guy who was really religious. I'd imagine they'd be way too preachy and fucking annoying trying to force their opinions on me when I have no intention of budging on mine. I mean, honestly, I doubt I'd ever be particularly drawn to someone like that anyway.

No. Been there, it's not fun. I most probably wouldn't even date someone at the opposite end of the political spectrum to me if they were as opinionated as I am.
good point. the same probably goes for me. I actually made a point not to discuss the election with some of my friends because I just knew it wouldn't end well.

[HelpMeSleep]

I could never date a jesus freak. I could also never date a republican.
that sums it up nicely. and I love your avatar.

[fadedmemories]

nobody said all christians were that way.
But your post made it seem that way.

[BJW7191]

I could never date a jesus freak. I could also never date a republican.


this is why america is fucked in recent days... its all about the party and not the candidate. in the last election (bush kerry) i woulda voted bush bc i thought he was the better candidate... but in the most recent, i voted obama. its not about what party was i a part of. its who i think is best to lead the country

[TK]

No. I could not get over the fact that she places her beliefs, life style, and morals on nothing but a book and what they parents taught them.

[HelpMeSleep]

But your post made it seem that way.
I don't know about the person you're quoting, but the way I looked at it was when Dion said the opposite of the religious spectrum, it's more like extreme differences. like it's not that I couldn't date someone of another religion, it depends how religious and how strong their beliefs are and how forceful they are with their beliefs.

I've had a small amount of good experiences with religion and a lot that have left a really bad taste in my mouth and because of those experiences, I don't really bother with it. that said, if I were dating a guy who did go to church or whatever depending on the religion and he invited me to go, I'd probably be willing to try it out. it's really just really religious people I couldn't handle.

[fadedmemories]

I've had a small amount of good experiences with religion and a lot that have left a really bad taste in my mouth and because of those experiences, I don't really bother with it. that said, if I were dating a guy who did go to church or whatever depending on the religion and he invited me to go, I'd probably be willing to try it out. it's really just really religious people I couldn't handle.
Same with me.

[stupid__kid]

i'm atheist and i could not date anyone religious.
besides i like to have fun, none of this chastity business.

[Jake Denning]

No, I wouldnt date an atheist; not bad people in the slightest (look at Dan from PRP and Kyle from MCMB (when he was in)), just you know, not on the same boat belief wise.

everything works better I guess; Nothing wrong with being a good friend to someone on the opposite spectrum though.

[Roboman]

Probably not. I'm accepting of other peoples' beliefs when it comes to religion...unless every single Facebook status of theirs is relating to the Bible or God, then I simply can't take them seriously. Sure, I'll be nice to them in person and whatnot, but I wouldn't want anything to do with them otherwise. If they don't take it quite that far, then it's possible, but problems would probably crop up down the line.

If two people really are literally on opposite sides of the religious spectrum, I fail to see how they could have enough in common to make a relationship work.

[mofizzle.]

But your post made it seem that way.

maybe you shouldn't assume things.

[wewascontenders]

PREMIER AVATAR?!? I'M EXTREMELY OK WITH THIS.

very cool, i want a premier reunion show.

[WhitestKidUKnow]

very cool, i want a premier reunion show.

I would be so down with that, but my friend is in a band with Dave and apparently those guys don't get along anymore so it's kinda out of the question.

[wewascontenders]

I would be so down with that, but my friend is in a band with Dave and apparently those guys don't get along anymore so it's kinda out of the question.


yeah i know, but it'd still be sweet.

[WhitestKidUKnow]

yeah i know, but it'd still be sweet.

Agreed. Their last show was so unreal. Everybody left after they were done leaving like 4 or 5 people to watch Person L hahahah.

[fadedmemories]

maybe you shouldn't assume things.
Fair enough

[mofizzle.]

Fair enough

i don't have anything against christians or anything, i just couldn't date a person like that.
my good friend is VERY catholic, and i don't hate her for it. it just something i couldn't put up with.

[owiseone35]

its really hard. I'm Methodist she was Mormon. Technically Mormons are Christians but wow was their church an experience.

[ReturnedSnowDay]

damn wasn't what I thought it would be. I would say no, eventually the religious person would try to convert the atheist and screw everything up.

I was wondering similarly about two people of different faiths. Can a Christian person marry a Jewish person? Can a Muslim person marry a Buddhist? Things would prob get complicated.

[anthonydarko]

I dated a girl last summer who was a complete Jesus freak and for the most part, there really wasn't any problems with the whole thing. Religion really isn't that much of an issue for me, aside when it comes to certain morals of course.

[anthonydarko]

its really hard. I'm Methodist she was Mormon. Technically Mormons are Christians but wow was their church an experience.
How so?

[gillygtv]

dating is one thing...but marriage and kids can really complicate things

[spansen]

yes.

because i don't give a shit about religion, so as long as it's not a huge problem then it's not a problem at all.

[mijakai]

I did and then we broke up because something about the bible said that we weren't allowed to be together. Eh, whatever.

[Dicebox]

missionary dating = bad idea

[alltimehoe93]

I don't think I could date someone who was wicked religious. Well...maybe, as long as they didn't try to force me to do something that I didn't want to do, I guess it could work.

[atticus1492]

No no no. I don't need some stuck up girl who isn't going to put out because she has already been "filled" by the holy spirit.