So Weird

[TheSkyline]

A guy I've known since 5th grade killed himself last night. It's just weird because nothing like this has ever happened to me. I wasn't friends with him, but still, I had several classes with him. No one close to me has ever died, so it's weird handling this. I can't describe how I feel. I'm not really all that sad, I didn't know him very well, I'm just a little freaked out that someone I know actually killed himself. It's a strange feeling.

[raychull]

This is bizarre. I know you're not really sad, or anything, but I'm sorry for the loss. I'm sorry for his family.
Something like this happened a year ago, only the kid graduated before he committed suicide. But I was friends with his brother, and all.

[Mike Smith]

A guy I've known since 5th grade killed himself last night. It's just weird because nothing like this has ever happened to me. I wasn't friends with him, but still, I had several classes with him. No one close to me has ever died, so it's weird handling this. I can't describe how I feel. I'm not really all that sad, I didn't know him very well, I'm just a little freaked out that someone I know actually killed himself. It's a strange feeling.

Well i'm so sorry to hear that happened. I've never had anything like that happen to me, and i hope it stays that way. No one in this world should have reason to kill themselves, no matter how bad their lives are =/

[TheSkyline]

Yeah it is bizarre. He had no reason to kill himself. He was quiet, but no one expected him to jump to that.

[Mike Smith]

Yeah it is bizarre. He had no reason to kill himself. He was quiet, but no one expected him to jump to that.

Wow that baffles me even more if you say nothing seemed wrong and he should have had no reason to do it....

[raychull]

Yeah it is bizarre. He had no reason to kill himself. He was quiet, but no one expected him to jump to that.

Maybe if he was quiet, he was a lot more introverted than a lot of people expected? borderline depressed?
that's basically how the kid I told you about, was. quiet, but not obviously suicidal.

[TheSkyline]

Maybe if he was quiet, he was a lot more introverted than a lot of people expected? borderline depressed?
that's basically how the kid I told you about, was. quiet, but not obviously suicidal.

Yeah thats how we thought he was. Quiet, but not suicidal. Apparently he was hiding a lot.
The worst part, is he's in my wellness class, and all last week we were going over depression and suicide, and how to deal with it. It's very strange/sickly ironic.

[raychull]

Yeah thats how we thought he was. Quiet, but not suicidal. Apparently he was hiding a lot.
The worst part, is he's in my wellness class, and all last week we were going over depression and suicide, and how to deal with it. It's very strange/sickly ironic.

yeah. honestly, I think the really quiet people are the ones to look out for, because they don't really let on a lot about themselves. granted, I'm pretty introverted in real life, but I'm not a hermit.

that is horribly ironic.

[TheSkyline]

yeah. honestly, I think the really quiet people are the ones to look out for, because they don't really let on a lot about themselves. granted, I'm pretty introverted in real life, but I'm not a hermit.

that is horribly ironic.
Yeah same here. I try to let that kind of stuff out through music though, so it doesn't really build up like it must have in him.

And I know, it's very sad, but the irony of the situation is probably going to make the wellness teacher feel like a jerk.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

i kind of understand how your feeling i guess, i have a cousin who killed himself about two years ago. it's slightly bizarre realizing that people actually do resort to ending their lives. i'm really sorry to hear that, man. if you need someone to talk to, i'm here when though we've never really chatted much. haha

[raychull]

Yeah same here. I try to let that kind of stuff out through music though, so it doesn't really build up like it must have in him.

And I know, it's very sad, but the irony of the situation is probably going to make the wellness teacher feel like a jerk.

yeah, I know what you mean.

-shrug- I don't think there was any way for him to know, though.
like the other rachel said, if you need to talk about it, I can listen.

[phil19]

i had a similar feeling when i was in school and i guy i went to school with was murdered. i knew him but i wasnt really friends with him. we'd talk everynow and then but that was about it. it was a really strange feeling, so i think i understand what you might be going through

[fulltiltxb00gie]

yeah, I know what you mean.

-shrug- I don't think there was any way for him to know, though.
like the other rachel said, if you need to talk about it, I can listen.
there's a shrug smiley! :shrug: it's one of my favorites.

[Mike Smith]

Yeah same here. I try to let that kind of stuff out through music though, so it doesn't really build up like it must have in him.

And I know, it's very sad, but the irony of the situation is probably going to make the wellness teacher feel like a jerk.

Yeah thats how i get all my feelings out is music, i dont resort to any bad things like drugs, alcohol or violence towards myself or others. That's just dumb.

But yeah i bet the wellness teacher will be like oh shit did i cause it? or something crazy like that since he or she was the one who brought up the subject last week

But its no ones fault, althought very ironic =/

[TheSkyline]

i kind of understand how your feeling i guess, i have a cousin who killed himself about two years ago. it's slightly bizarre realizing that people actually do resort to ending their lives. i'm really sorry to hear that, man. if you need someone to talk to, i'm here when though we've never really chatted much. haha

Thank you, but I'm ok. It's just so weird, I've never experianced death first hand, so it's a weird feeling. Haha yeah I think the only time we ever chatted was in some thread where Dave was making fun of you. haha

i had a similar feeling when i was in school and i guy i went to school with was murdered. i knew him but i wasnt really friends with him. we'd talk everynow and then but that was about it. it was a really strange feeling, so i think i understand what you might be going through

Yeah, that's how it is with me. I don't feel bad, just a little confused. It's just so crazy.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

Thank you, but I'm ok. It's just so weird, I've never experianced death first hand, so it's a weird feeling. Haha yeah I think the only time we ever chatted was in some thread where Dave was making fun of you. haha



Yeah, that's how it is with me. I don't feel bad, just a little confused. It's just so crazy.
okay. but just make sure you express everything to somebody so you don't explode. i've seen that happen before to some friends..not pretty.
yeah..that happens pretty often. i usually win though. =)

[phil19]

Thank you, but I'm ok. It's just so weird, I've never experianced death first hand, so it's a weird feeling. Haha yeah I think the only time we ever chatted was in some thread where Dave was making fun of you. haha



Yeah, that's how it is with me. I don't feel bad, just a little confused. It's just so crazy.

its hard too if everyone else around you is mourning. i remember at the time my best friend was really upset as he was quite good freinds with this guy.
i think its one of those situations where its just so messed up that you feel you should be upset and devastated and all of it, and you feel kind of bad that you dont. if that makes sense.

[TotalCollapse]

I understand how you feel. That kind of stuff is very upsetting and it makes you wish you could have gotten to know them and tried to help them if you knew what they were going through. A guy from my high school killed himself a few years back, but I was in middle school at the time, so I never knew the person. Still it was a real eye-opener.

[fulltiltxb00gie]

pl is full of kids who have had kids they distantly know suddenly die..this isn't good.

[TotalCollapse]

It's not.

[raychull]

there's a shrug smiley! :shrug: it's one of my favorites.
ahahah, I don't know how I forgot to use it. I usually do.

[TheSkyline]

okay. but just make sure you express everything to somebody so you don't explode. i've seen that happen before to some friends..not pretty.
yeah..that happens pretty often. i usually win though. =)

Oh, don't worry about me. It's all good.
Haha I'm sure, Dave is easy to destroy in an argument. haha

its hard too if everyone else around you is mourning. i remember at the time my best friend was really upset as he was quite good freinds with this guy.
i think its one of those situations where its just so messed up that you feel you should be upset and devastated and all of it, and you feel kind of bad that you dont. if that makes sense.

Yeah, that's kinda how it is. I just have mixed feelings about the situation I guess.

pl is full of kids who have had kids they distantly know suddenly die..this isn't good.

Hahaha I know, eventually it might get narrowed down to just pl.

We'll have to repopulate the earth. :-p haha jk

[fulltiltxb00gie]

Oh, don't worry about me. It's all good.
Haha I'm sure, Dave is easy to destroy in an argument. haha



Yeah, that's kinda how it is. I just have mixed feelings about the situation I guess.



Hahaha I know, eventually it might get narrowed down to just pl.

We'll have to repopulate the earth. :-p haha jk
oh i worry about everyone. i'm pretty sure it's in my dna. haha
he is..all you have to do is bring up the virginity thing and he e-whimpers.

oh man, that'd be horrible. we're all idiots. haha
uh..i already decided my children are being adopted from third world countries..sorry bud.

[fadedmemories]

Wow. That is an eye opener.

[Charles777]

Here's how I think of death...
Life is only a dream, and you only really live once you die.
Thinking about that makes me feel better when that kind of thing happens around me.

[TheSkyline]

oh i worry about everyone. i'm pretty sure it's in my dna. haha
he is..all you have to do is bring up the virginity thing and he e-whimpers.

oh man, that'd be horrible. we're all idiots. haha
uh..i already decided my children are being adopted from third world countries..sorry bud.

Haha the virginity thing gets him every time.

Wow. That is an eye opener.

Yeah.

Here's how I think of death...
Life is only a dream, and you only really live once you die.
Thinking about that makes me feel better when that kind of thing happens around me.

I'm pretty sure if everyone thought this suicide rates would go up by like 100%. haha

[fulltiltxb00gie]

Haha the virginity thing gets him every time.



Yeah.



I'm pretty sure if everyone thought this suicide rates would go up by like 100%. haha
it does! i feel bad for taking advantage of it but he's the one who made such a big deal about it to begin with..

[Charles777]

Haha the virginity thing gets him every time.



Yeah.



I'm pretty sure if everyone thought this suicide rates would go up by like 100%. haha
Haha, I guess you're right, but it makes me feel better.

[framebyframe]

I completely understand you when you say you feel strange about it. A family friend hung himself, he had a wife and kids and no one knew what he was going through. He was quiet as well. For about a week I felt really strange thinking about it. I just can't imagine what anyone could possibly be going through in their head that would make them feel the only way out was to die. It really helps you remember that everyone is fighting their own personal battles.

[Heart-A-Tact]

It's odd thinking about what it could be that pushes people to do this.

[wewascontenders]

my aunt killed herself when i was like 10, changed the way i looked at life. not so much at the time cuz i was younger, but thinking about it now.

[Russia08]

A guy I've known since 5th grade killed himself last night. It's just weird because nothing like this has ever happened to me. I wasn't friends with him, but still, I had several classes with him. No one close to me has ever died, so it's weird handling this. I can't describe how I feel. I'm not really all that sad, I didn't know him very well, I'm just a little freaked out that someone I know actually killed himself. It's a strange feeling.
and people like you dont notice people like him until it's too late. why should you care now when you obviously didnt while he was still living? things like that disgust me. dont bother posting something about a person you dont care about. it's pointless and makes you look like the asshole.

[SomedayTheFire]

Wow. Same thing happened to me before Christmas, a guy in my class killed himself, I wasn't friends with him but it's really weird knowing I'll never see him again.

[t_ashley]

My friend's [from church] Dad, shot himself in the face like two weeks ago. Honestly, everyone behind her back whispers ' well he's going to hell'..... Sort of sucks.

[inyoursea]

and people like you dont notice people like him until it's too late. why should you care now when you obviously didnt while he was still living? things like that disgust me. dont bother posting something about a person you dont care about. it's pointless and makes you look like the asshole.

I don't see what's wrong with him posting about what happened? He didn't know the kid well and said he didn't see any signs of the kid wanting to kill himself, so what was he supposed to do? It's obviously affected him to think about it, which is why he posted. Don't attack him because someone he vaguely knew decided to take his own life.


Anyway, I know exactly how you feel man. I've been in your situation before where someone i know offhand takes their own life. It really threw me for a loop and make me think about how fragile life really is. Scary stuff.

My friend's [from church] Dad, shot himself in the face like two weeks ago. Honestly, everyone behind her back whispers ' well he's going to hell'..... Sort of sucks.

That's pretty sad in itself. I just can't imagine how anyone can think like that when someone commits suicide.

[TheSkyline]

and people like you dont notice people like him until it's too late. why should you care now when you obviously didnt while he was still living? things like that disgust me. dont bother posting something about a person you dont care about. it's pointless and makes you look like the asshole.

Your the one being an asshole. Just because I wasn't friends with him doesn't mean I didn't care about him. Not seeing him at any of my classes really hurt. You need to shut the fuck up and start being more sensitive.

Wow. Same thing happened to me before Christmas, a guy in my class killed himself, I wasn't friends with him but it's really weird knowing I'll never see him again.

I'm sorry man. Yeah the feeling is so weird.

My friend's [from church] Dad, shot himself in the face like two weeks ago. Honestly, everyone behind her back whispers ' well he's going to hell'..... Sort of sucks.

I may not be religious, but I go to a catholic school and I'm pretty sure the teaching on that is "God decides". There's no way to know what will happen to him, so those people don't have any idea what they're talking about.

[alltimehoe93]

A guy I've known since 5th grade killed himself last night. It's just weird because nothing like this has ever happened to me. I wasn't friends with him, but still, I had several classes with him. No one close to me has ever died, so it's weird handling this. I can't describe how I feel. I'm not really all that sad, I didn't know him very well, I'm just a little freaked out that someone I know actually killed himself. It's a strange feeling.
I'm so sorry. I hope his family and friends are coping alright and that he rests in peace. It is such a scary feeling. Someone two classes higher than me passed away last year. I didn't know him, I wasn't even aware of who he was at all until I heard he wasn't doing well. He didn't kill himself, he had a clot in his brain and was on life support. Apparently everyone knew his family though. It was a really scary day when we found out because literally no one spoke a word in the halls, all you could hear were footsteps and crying. He was supposed to have been a really good kid too. What's sad is, they took him off life support either the day before or on Mother's Day. I didn't even know him but I remember the day he died. Wow, I got carried away, my point with this post was that I know how you feel. It's like, you don't really know how to feel but it's really uncomfortable nonetheless.

[SomedayTheFire]

Your the one being an asshole. Just because I wasn't friends with him doesn't mean I didn't care about him. Not seeing him at any of my classes really hurt. You need to shut the fuck up and start being more sensitive.



I'm sorry man. Yeah the feeling is so weird.



I may not be religious, but I go to a catholic school and I'm pretty sure the teaching on that is "God decides". There's no way to know what will happen to him, so those people don't have any idea what they're talking about.
You said it, it's so surreal knowing you will never see that person again.

[TheSkyline]

You said it, it's so surreal knowing you will never see that person again.

Exactly. I just can't comprehend it.

[Michifoxx]

and people like you dont notice people like him until it's too late. why should you care now when you obviously didnt while he was still living? things like that disgust me. dont bother posting something about a person you dont care about. it's pointless and makes you look like the asshole.

ahhh very, very true..

[phil19]

My friend's [from church] Dad, shot himself in the face like two weeks ago. Honestly, everyone behind her back whispers ' well he's going to hell'..... Sort of sucks.

thats really sad that people would say that about someone they knew after he killed himself.
one of my best freinds dad hung himself on new years eve a couple years ago now and i saw the torment of what something like that causes the family of the person. i cant imagine what comments like that would do to them if they heard. what the family needs is the support and love of the congregation. not its damnation

[TotalCollapse]

I just heard on the radio today that one in ten teens attempt to kill themselves. That's really scary.

[TheSkyline]

ahhh very, very true..

You don't know what your talking about. Cool, next time someone in your grade who your not friends with dies, I'll call you an asshole for not caring. Because that's totally fair and "very, very true."

[Michifoxx]

You don't know what your talking about. Cool, next time someone in your grade who your not friends with dies, I'll call you an asshole for not caring. Because that's totally fair and "very, very true."

well its just true...i mean if u didnt much care for him back then why care now..i mean its sad he killed himself. (thats never good) but really.

[lovely864md]

That's awful. And the wellness thing...I always wonder how much those classes actually ever do help kids.

I cam contribute a detachment story. Five girls from my town died when I was a freshman, it made national news and everything. I didn't know any of them, but one was my friend's older sister, another was one of my dad's students. It's really weird being on the outside while people are grieving.

[TheSkyline]

well its just true...i mean if u didnt much care for him back then why care now..i mean its sad he killed himself. (thats never good) but really.

You must not be able to read. I've said several times just because I wasn't friends with him doesn't mean I didn't care about him. If some random guy came up to you and asked you if he should kill himself, what would you say? No, of course (I'm hoping). It doesn't matter if he's your friend, that's just a horrible thing to happen to someone regardless. Saying your upset someone committed suicide, no matter if you were good friends or not, does not all make you an asshole.

[TheSkyline]

That's awful. And the wellness thing...I always wonder how much those classes actually ever do help kids.

I cam contribute a detachment story. Five girls from my town died when I was a freshman, it made national news and everything. I didn't know any of them, but one was my friend's older sister, another was one of my dad's students. It's really weird being on the outside while people are grieving.

Yeah, and our wellness teacher was an idiot, so if anything he just added insult to injury.

That's horrible, yeah I hate having close friends crying and stuff, and me not being able to comfort them/cry with them. I mean, the whole situation is very upsetting, and I admit I about started crying due to friends being so upset, but I guess I was just on the outside of the circle while he was live and was never very attached.

[cauterize_this]

I feel really sorry for you. I know how it is when something like this happens. I live in a smallish town(100,000) and we have a really high suicide rate. In the past 2 years alone there's been 7 teen suicides, and it's really weird to deal with. I always feel really sad that no one did anything, yet if you don't know somethings wrong and you aren't friends with the person, there isn't much you can do. I hope you and your friends feel better, and my sympathies go out to everyone.

[Gwytherspoon]

Hmm I've never had anyone close to me die in my whole life, let alone commit suicide. I guess that makes me lucky... thats as long as loads of deaths don't come at once!

[trappedintime]

Oh man. That sucks. Some chick I knew overdosed herself around October last year. I had only talked to her one time. It was pretty sad.

[BJW7191]

I think i might be the king of untimely fiend deaths (not a title im proud of) In 3 years I had 6 friends die. Its not a good feeling to have

[Bingham88]

the same thing happend to me twice when i was in high school. a kid who sat next to me in chemistry class hung him self, and my best friends cousin blew his head of with a double barrel shotgun while he was on the phone with his girlfriend and his mom was out side the door.

the second one really rocked me cause they were a clsoe family so everytime i was over at my buddies house so was the cousin, he was a happy kid and it jsut came out of no where our entire graduateing class of 1500 and a bunch of kids from the other classes came to the wake and the funeral.

[phil19]

the same thing happend to me twice when i was in high school. a kid who sat next to me in chemistry class hung him self, and my best friends cousin blew his head of with a double barrel shotgun while he was on the phone with his girlfriend and his mom was out side the door.

the second one really rocked me cause they were a clsoe family so everytime i was over at my buddies house so was the cousin, he was a happy kid and it jsut came out of no where our entire graduateing class of 1500 and a bunch of kids from the other classes came to the wake and the funeral.

that is brutal and so tragic. his gf and mum must have been absolutely devastated

[Bingham88]

alot of people blamed the gf for it which i thought was stupid cause its not like she pulled the trigger, but yeah the whole family was jacked up, like i said they were all really clsoe three family all three lived next door to each other. but it was kind of nice after the funeral we went to the house and jsut spent all day and night telling stories about him and talking about what an awesome kid he was.

[phil19]

thats nice that it was more of a celebration of his life. i think that really helps in a situation like that

[BJW7191]

thats nice that it was more of a celebration of his life. i think that really helps in a situation like that
Its usually always the celebration of life after the funeral. But unfortunately, before the funeral its almost always the "hes dead/gone" stage. Its really upsetting to witness the parents and significant other during that phase. It should always be a celebration in my opinion

[phil19]

Its usually always the celebration of life after the funeral. But unfortunately, before the funeral its almost always the "hes dead/gone" stage. Its really upsetting to witness the parents and significant other during that phase. It should always be a celebration in my opinion

agreed. ive only ever really been to one funeral that i can actually remeber which was my mates dad who killed himself. and the wake there was more of a celebration. it was really nice. and by nice i mean as nice as it can be. my mates band played a song my mate wrote about his dad and all his freinds were there. i think it was a beautiful send off under some very difficult circumstances.

[BJW7191]

Yeah, when my cousin had his second funeral (he had a normal funeral in FLA where he was living at the time. He was then creamated and brought to Louisiana where he lived for almost all his life) it was all a celebration of his life. Mainly because my aunt and uncle already had one so this one was kind of different. But it was a nice, for lack of a good word, funeral to go to.

[XEmoBoyShandorX]

Only kid I've known to die was in 6th grade in a car crash. Yeah it was sad, but I didn't really know the person all that well.

Sucks though that the kid killed himself.

[Russia08]

ahhh very, very true..
at least someone agrees with me. im not the one here being an asshole like everyone thinks. i simply speak the truth, and apparently that's hard to deal with.

[mynameisX]

It's not the same thing, but recently a guy I used to be friends with in elementary school died in a fire. He and his girlfriend and their kids, all of them died. Freaked me out, people my age aren't supposed to die. I mean, I know they do, but it just seems wrong.

[Michifoxx]

at least someone agrees with me. im not the one here being an asshole like everyone thinks. i simply speak the truth, and apparently that's hard to deal with.

yeaa..i feel ya...they been tellin me too because i agree with you..