View Full Version : how do you
spacebug
03/14/09, 12:13 AM
maintain a relationship with someone if the friends of your other half are constantly doubting everything. I mean we live a good hour away from each other so we really only get to see each other on the weekends but the kid still means the world to me. His friends are always saying shit about how we won't make it work or if i call while he's around friends he'll answer and his "girl friends" will be like "Whose that?" and he'll say "my girlfriend." Then i hear them say something like "Oh that bitch" or something along those lines and it's really getting to me, i don't know if they don't like me because they like him or if he's just talking smack but that wouldn't make sense because we've only fought a few times, it's nothing on going.
OldJersey
03/14/09, 12:21 AM
It's just guys being douchbags with their friends, doubt its anything personal/real.
stayforawhile
03/14/09, 05:44 AM
It's just his friends, don't let it get to you. One of my best friends had this problem, I just told her they were just jealous because her tits were bigger than theirs, and her boyfriend was hotter. This wasn't really the case but it made her feel better haha.
inyoursea
03/14/09, 07:02 AM
probably nothing to worry about. guys joke around a lot when it comes to girlfriends
jagermeister
03/14/09, 08:50 AM
Date me instead.
spansen
03/14/09, 09:05 AM
yeah, dump him and move to indiana.
jagermeister
03/14/09, 09:40 AM
yeah, dump him and move to indiana.
You mean Ontario, right? haha
spansen
03/14/09, 09:41 AM
no, i had it right.
denissuxx
03/14/09, 02:50 PM
lanA.
Answer to life.
Trioxide
03/15/09, 02:12 AM
the 'girl friends' are just jealous probably.
and as long as you two think it will work, then who cares what the rest think... unless he's the kind of guy who listens to everything his friends say and cant think for himself. then youre fucked.
fadedmemories
03/15/09, 03:10 AM
Most dudes are like that. No big deal.
probably nothing to worry about. guys joke around a lot when it comes to girlfriends
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Most dudes are like that. No big deal.
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fadedmemories
03/15/09, 03:28 AM
and this
Indeed
Gumbyjag
03/16/09, 01:55 AM
as long as you trust each other, everything will be fine. as far as dealing with his friends, don't let yourself take that shit, tell him he needs to say something.
dropdead_julia
03/16/09, 08:09 AM
If your bf doesn't say anything back to them, like telling them to quit with the rude remarks or whatever then break up with him.
If his friends can't respect you, and if he can't stick up for his lady then he is NOT worth it.
xxCarpeDiem
05/15/09, 07:34 AM
If he means so much to you, why do his friends matter?? xD A strong relationship consists of you and your partner. Period. Not everyone is going to support you. Ever. If you have a half-way decent relationship, you would have faith in it regardless of who did not.
BryterJonah
05/20/09, 09:14 PM
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Jake Denning
05/20/09, 09:20 PM
Unless Snoop Dogg comes out and helps ya, your screwed.
AndrewIcex
05/20/09, 09:27 PM
Do you ever approach him about this? Like say... "Why don't you defend me?" or "What are those girls saying, cause I can clearly hear them." put him in a corner and get your answers, and if he still goes the douche route, I would suggest he isn't worth the worry, and to get rid of him.
takemyhand
05/20/09, 09:34 PM
Ew. I could never be in a relationship like that !
Living that far, and only seeing him on the weekends ?
Well, I guess it's not THAT big of a deal, it would just get to me.. like, him hanging out with other girls instead of me on the week days. You know ? I see my boyfriend pretty much everyday.
But, my best friend lives about an hour away from her boyfriend and only sees him when he spends the night at her house every weekend and they've been together for almost three years. But about that, they've been through a ton of issues because of their situation. So you should be ready to go through a lot, don't expect an easy relationship until you guys maybe live together or closer.
About the girls, try not to let them get to you. I'm a really jealous person so I'd be really annoyed by it.
I'd just tell your boy straight up, that it bothers you and he should stop hanging out with people that talk shit about you, you're his girl. I'd be more pissed off at him, rather than the girls.
screamoutmyname
05/20/09, 09:38 PM
No reason to worry. Guys make dumb comments like these alot.
I'd just tell your boy straight up, that it bothers you and he should stop hanging out with people that talk shit about you, you're his girl.That's definitely a decision you'll want to leave up to him.
If you outright tell him "your friends or me," one of two things will happen:
(1) You'll get into a huge fight, with the possibility of ending things
or
(2) He'll comply, which means you're dating a completely spineless pussy.
Neither of those is a good thing.
takemyhand
05/20/09, 10:13 PM
That's definitely a decision you'll want to leave up to him.
If you outright tell him "your friends or me," one of two things will happen:
(1) You'll get into a huge fight, with the possibility of ending things
or
(2) He'll comply, which means you're dating a completely spineless pussy.
Neither of those is a good thing.
I think you're wrong.
I tell my boyfriend straight up when things bother me, and everything gets worked out.
And, I didn't say "your friends or me".
Basically, who cares if he loses those friends?
One, they're jealous girls.
Two, what kind of friends make fun of your significant other... ?
None of my friends make fun of my boyfriend, and I don't make fun of theirs.
If they were friends that were worth it, they'd accept you and the person you like.
That's obvious.
Just tell your boyfriend the truth.
AndrewIcex
05/20/09, 10:15 PM
Sometimes I feel like AP.net posters are the best advice givers haha, most of the posters have been right on it with advice.
And every thread like this seems to be just the same.
Selkies
05/20/09, 10:15 PM
I'd give it to you...that's really all that matters.
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I think you're wrong.
I tell my boyfriend straight up when things bother me, and everything gets worked out.
And, I didn't say "your friends or me".
Basically, who cares if he loses those friends?
One, they're jealous girls.
Two, what kind of friends make fun of your significant other... ?
None of my friends make fun of my boyfriend, and I don't make fun of theirs.
If they were friends that were worth it, they'd accept you and the person you like.
That's obvious.
Just tell your boyfriend the truth.There's a pretty significant difference between talking about it and "telling him he should stop hanging out with those people."
Also, I'm not sure what idyllic circle of friends you've got, but in every circle I've ever been in, if a significant other is coming between someone and the friends, the friends win out. It's not so much "lol ur doin wut ur friends say" as it is a "your friends are generally objective and will tell you shit like it is."
Sometimes when your friends are telling you a girl's no good for you, it's because she isn't.
(Note that I just verified this theory with four of my female friends, so it's not just me being jaded!)
But anyway this is all conjecture. From what I've read, OP hasn't even actually hung out with the people talking shit about her? IMO, make it a point to do something with his group of friends and show them that you're worthwhile. If they don't like you still you might have a problem, but that's definitely the first thing you should do.
takemyhand
05/20/09, 10:32 PM
There's a pretty significant difference between talking about it and "telling him he should stop hanging out with those people."
Also, I'm not sure what idyllic circle of friends you've got, but in every circle I've ever been in, if a significant other is coming between someone and the friends, the friends win out. It's not so much "lol ur doin wut ur friends say" as it is a "your friends are generally objective and will tell you shit like it is."
Sometimes when your friends are telling you a girl's no good for you, it's because she isn't.
(Note that I just verified this theory with four of my female friends, so it's not just me being jaded!)
But anyway this is all conjecture. From what I've read, OP hasn't even actually hung out with the people talking shit about her? IMO, make it a point to do something with his group of friends and show them that you're worthwhile. If they don't like you still you might have a problem, but that's definitely the first thing you should do.
Whatever suits you.
I don't/wouldn't let my boyfriend be around girls, especially girls, that talk shit about me.
Really, I just go by the whole; reverse like.. would he be happy if you were hanging out with a group of guys that talk shit about him?
I just reverse everything like that before I get into arguments with my boyfriend.
BryterJonah
05/20/09, 10:32 PM
Just pop open a Snapple and chillax on your couch with some old seasons of LOST.
takemyhand
05/20/09, 10:33 PM
*Actually, my boyfriend doesn't want to hang out with girls that talk about me.
Sometimes when your friends are telling you a girl's no good for you, it's because she isn't.
this doesn't really fit here. those "friends" we are talking about are talking shit about her without even knowing her.
One hour or distance isn't that much, why don't you see each other more often?
SonEric84
05/21/09, 07:25 AM
I think you're wrong.
I tell my boyfriend straight up when things bother me, and everything gets worked out.
And, I didn't say "your friends or me".
Basically, who cares if he loses those friends?
One, they're jealous girls.
Two, what kind of friends make fun of your significant other... ?
None of my friends make fun of my boyfriend, and I don't make fun of theirs.
If they were friends that were worth it, they'd accept you and the person you like.
That's obvious.
Just tell your boyfriend the truth.
There should really be more girls like you. I agree 100%.
takemyhand
05/21/09, 08:12 AM
There should really be more girls like you. I agree 100%.
:irule: haha
AndrewIcex
05/21/09, 08:55 AM
One hour or distance isn't that much, why don't you see each other more often?
Exactly, me and my girlfriend of over a year and a half now. We lived 2 hours from each other and I saw her friday evening all the way through sunday night every weekend for over 7 months, and it worked out for both of us, we got split up cause of school. And it still worked, so I am sure you can handle whatever comes your way. But now she lives with me, so all is awesome now haha.
Exactly, me and my girlfriend of over a year and a half now. We lived 2 hours from each other and I saw her friday evening all the way through sunday night every weekend for over 7 months, and it worked out for both of us, we got split up cause of school. And it still worked, so I am sure you can handle whatever comes your way. But now she lives with me, so all is awesome now haha.
I drove to high school for an hour each day for 4 years. Really not that big a deal.
SonEric84
05/21/09, 01:28 PM
:irule: haha
haha That you do.
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