View Full Version : Confidence.
redsoxguy676
03/25/09, 05:45 PM
hey guys, i'm just trying to get some opinions on how to build self confidence, beings that i'm having some trouble with that lately.
any ideas would help.
WakeUpBlondie
03/25/09, 05:56 PM
I was kind of in the same boat as you, it's truly mind over body. Just hang out with people that make you happy, no assholes or people that get you down. I know that's really broad, but i'll think about it
redsoxguy676
03/25/09, 06:02 PM
I was kind of in the same boat as you, it's truly mind over body. Just hang out with people that make you happy, no assholes or people that get you down. I know that's really broad, but i'll think about it
its definitely a start though.
its not that i feel the lack of confidence all the time, but it just comes at such inoportune times, if you catch my drift. thanks for the help though, i'll think about that.
Write down 25 reasons why you're awesome.
TheHoldSteady
03/25/09, 06:10 PM
Write down 25 reasons why you're awesome.
Great idea.
Or.. Pay a hooker to tell you compliments.
SonEric84
03/25/09, 06:22 PM
For starters, I wouldn't post in PL, it's generally not a good confidence booster..
speakhandsforme
03/25/09, 06:28 PM
Think of yourself right before you climax during every sexual experience.
argg_xo
03/25/09, 06:50 PM
For starters, I wouldn't post in PL, it's generally not a good confidence booster..
this is the truth, listen to this dude.
fadedmemories
03/25/09, 07:00 PM
Anal builds confidence.
i'm the same way..i figured i would get over it after going through bootcamp and a little bit of time in the marine corps but it hasn't really happened yet. like someone above mentioned its all about who you're around.
billyboatkid
03/25/09, 07:41 PM
I'm in the same boat buddy.
anthonydarko
03/25/09, 10:34 PM
Drink lots of alcohol and proclaim that you kick major ass to everyone that you see in a 5 foot radius.
I have a question that may seem a little weird; but here it goes. Do you masturbate often? I have low self-esteem and I masturbate a lot, I'm just curious to see if this is any pattern of others with low self-esteem.
about3fitty
03/25/09, 10:41 PM
learn to not care about anything
I have a question that may seem a little weird; but here it goes. Do you masturbate often? I have low self-esteem and I masturbate a lot, I'm just curious to see if this is any pattern of others with low self-esteem.
:O
killerswells
03/26/09, 02:42 AM
get active....when you look good, you feel good, when you feel good, you play good, when you play good, you get the goods...I use it for lacrosse
Just now realized it only makes sense for sports.
I agree with the paying a stripper to give you compliments idea...
trappedintime
03/26/09, 06:28 AM
anal jokes are getting so fuckin' lame. shut that shit up.
just live your life without giving two shits about what people think. hang out with great friends, talk to a lot of girls, and just have fun.
jagermeister
03/26/09, 07:18 AM
Mind over matter on this kind of thing. Just tell yourself, "I'm the man" and you will be. Also, stop being a Red Sox fan ;)
Drugs, man. The answer is, really and truly, drugs.
Chancetobe
03/26/09, 09:37 AM
Everyone has something they really love about themselves - start by thinking of that when you are out in public. It'll probably put a little bit of a spring in your step, which gets people's attention. And that attention tends to be a good confidence booster. Or the usually annoying phrase "fake it til' you make it" seems pretty applicable here. Just pretend your awesome, until you really feel awesome.
limepomegranate
03/26/09, 09:38 AM
fake it until you are
AlkalineAshes
03/26/09, 09:43 AM
Drugs, man. The answer is, really and truly, drugs.
haha ya, Ive been able to get girls alot easier since I started smokin, just cause I know I have gotten more confidence. But its just about getting that perspective change you can do it with or without drugs. drugs more fun tho.
Confidence is over-rated.
http://blog.scs.sk.ca/tado/vschools/confidence.jpg
just.Starla.
03/26/09, 11:52 AM
Write down 25 reasons why you're awesome.
That's a good idea.
For starters, I wouldn't post in PL, it's generally not a good confidence booster..
True.
speakhandsforme
03/26/09, 12:13 PM
In honesty, working out is very key for many people. Run, lift, exercise-- you'll feel better, you'll look better, and, in feeling your own improvement, you'll be filled with confidence.
Dumpweed
03/26/09, 12:43 PM
Just try to focus on positive things. For instance, instead of saying "I hope I don't feel crappy today" change that to "I am going to feel great today" and so on. You have to be yourself and let it come naturally. It's hard not to think about something when it's bothersome, like if I say don't think about purple turkeys, you're probably going to think about purple turkeys. Surround yourself with things and you'll forget about it soon enough and confidence will come naturally. Maybe.
redsoxguy676
03/26/09, 01:01 PM
I have a question that may seem a little weird; but here it goes. Do you masturbate often? I have low self-esteem and I masturbate a lot, I'm just curious to see if this is any pattern of others with low self-esteem.
interesting theory, but no i do not have an addiction to masturbating. have you been having self esteem issues for a long period of time?
redsoxguy676
03/26/09, 01:05 PM
Just try to focus on positive things. For instance, instead of saying "I hope I don't feel crappy today" change that to "I am going to feel great today" and so on. You have to be yourself and let it come naturally. It's hard not to think about something when it's bothersome, like if I say don't think about purple turkeys, you're probably going to think about purple turkeys. Surround yourself with things and you'll forget about it soon enough and confidence will come naturally. Maybe.
Everyone has something they really love about themselves - start by thinking of that when you are out in public. It'll probably put a little bit of a spring in your step, which gets people's attention. And that attention tends to be a good confidence booster. Or the usually annoying phrase "fake it til' you make it" seems pretty applicable here. Just pretend your awesome, until you really feel awesome.
get active....when you look good, you feel good, when you feel good, you play good, when you play good, you get the goods...I use it for lacrosse
Just now realized it only makes sense for sports.
I agree with the paying a stripper to give you compliments idea...
these are some pretty damn good ideas guys. like i said, its not everyday that feel that i have low self esteem, but for those days that i feel like i don't care i try to get in a better mind-set as to how i can be an all around happier person. i have great friends, a great family and i couldn't ask for more, thats why the days that i feel crappy, i hate being that towards other people. it pretty much makes everyone around me feel like they are walking on eggshells because they don't want to piss me off, if you understand what i am saying.
MentalHealth1st
03/26/09, 01:22 PM
fake it until you are
That's actually pretty sound advice.
Also, don't compare yourself to anyone else.
PezMullet
03/26/09, 03:12 PM
have sex with every guy you know... that's a self-confidence boost
interesting theory, but no i do not have an addiction to masturbating. have you been having self esteem issues for a long period of time?
I guess you could say that, Also I've had a pretty hard time with social anxiety. It's hard, but I get by.
about3fitty
03/26/09, 03:53 PM
all you need is a little song by Pfunkt called "confidance"
VfWtD7YJx4g
ps. that guy is my hero
bertpwns
03/26/09, 04:13 PM
I have a question that may seem a little weird; but here it goes. Do you masturbate often? I have low self-esteem and I masturbate a lot, I'm just curious to see if this is any pattern of others with low self-esteem.
O_o....
haha.
don't all males maturbate a lot?
mattmatumbo
03/26/09, 04:23 PM
Write down 25 reasons why you're awesome.
made me laugh too hard, well played.
Also, i scored a goal in preseason junior year in varsity, also i showed up to the game 30 minutes late. 5+ confidence points that day.
Charles777
03/26/09, 04:29 PM
I have really intense low self esteem, and none of this helps. I'm not going to magically become a better person overnight just because I say I am.
pilot_light_out
03/26/09, 05:29 PM
I have really intense low self esteem, and none of this helps. I'm not going to magically become a better person overnight just because I say I am.
well have fun staying that way.
Charles777
03/26/09, 05:38 PM
well have fun staying that way.
I will try.
LamarVannoy
03/26/09, 05:47 PM
I have really intense low self esteem, and none of this helps. I'm not going to magically become a better person overnight just because I say I am.
your also 16. nobody is confident when their 16. well...maybe some people but most normal teenagers lack confidence. it gets better as you get older though, trust me.
redsoxguy676
03/26/09, 06:00 PM
your also 16. nobody is confident when their 16. well...maybe some people but most normal teenagers lack confidence. it gets better as you get older though, trust me.
when i was 16 i had all the confidence in the world, mainly because i was in high school and it just seemed easier that way because i was always around my close friends who would not seem to judge me. but now that i am in college and getting out into the real world, getting somewhere is going to take confidence, which when i think about it sometimes, i don't have much. which leads me to my original problem. but thinking about being a batter person is the first step to achieving high self esteem. if you were to sit there and say nothing is going to help, then of course nothing is going to help you at all. but just having the positive mind-set is the first step, which i am going to try to overcome on those certain days.
Charles777
03/26/09, 06:00 PM
your also 16. nobody is confident when their 16. well...maybe some people but most normal teenagers lack confidence. it gets better as you get older though, trust me.
Hopefully.
:-p
Dumpweed
03/26/09, 06:51 PM
I have really intense low self esteem, and none of this helps. I'm not going to magically become a better person overnight just because I say I am.
Like I stated earlier, a big step is not saying shit like that. A negative mindset won't change a damn thing.
AlkalineAshes
03/26/09, 06:54 PM
Like I stated earlier, a big step is not saying shit like that. A negative mindset won't change a damn thing.
true, depressed people dont understand this
Charles777
03/26/09, 07:36 PM
Like I stated earlier, a big step is not saying shit like that. A negative mindset won't change a damn thing.
I know, but I can't help it.
redsoxguy676
03/26/09, 09:39 PM
peppermint dick cheese
:dunce:
LamarVannoy
03/26/09, 10:58 PM
have sex with every guy you know... that's a self-confidence boost
i think now would be a good time to point out that the OP is a dude...
PezMullet
03/26/09, 11:34 PM
i think now would be a good time to point out that the OP is a dude...
I know.
O_o....
haha.
don't all males maturbate a lot?
I guess so, I mean I do it at least once a day. everyday. I'm starting to think this may not be the healthiest of ways to spend my free time.
killerswells
03/27/09, 03:54 AM
I guess so, I mean I do it at least once a day. everyday. I'm starting to think this may not be the healthiest of ways to spend my free time.
Dude, once a day is not alot. Welcome to the world of manhood, pretty soon you will get hair in funny places and start thinking about girls buttholes.
Now this guy has a real problem (http://www.steadyhealth.com/a_serious_secret_problem_t110853.ht ml)
Dude, once a day is not alot. Welcome to the world of manhood, pretty soon you will get hair in funny places and start thinking about girls buttholes.
Now this guy has a real problem (http://www.steadyhealth.com/a_serious_secret_problem_t110853.ht ml)
Haha, I've got to admit 5-10 ten times a day is too ridiculous. I guess, I use masturbation as a coping mechanism. Then again, so does every other male. Eh, time to masturbate.
killerswells
03/27/09, 05:14 AM
Haha, I've got to admit 5-10 ten times a day is too ridiculous. I guess, I use masturbation as a coping mechanism. Then again, so does every other male. Eh, time to masturbate.
That reminds me.....
...fapfapfapfapfapfapfap...
Fallinto_rhythm
03/27/09, 06:19 AM
Drink
Over-confidence will make you look like a douche bag and although lots of girls dig that, they only dig that because they're fucking retarded. Truthfully, you're probably undervaluing yourself--stop doing that. Appreciate yourself and be confident within reason and if you can't think of reasons to be confident... stop complaining about it and go do something that you can be proud of/that will build confidence.
takemyhand
03/27/09, 06:55 AM
I've always been super low in the confidence area.
I get really nervous talking to people, and I still can't look people in the eye.
I don't know, I guess I'm better than I was, I think I just fake whatever confidence I may come off as having, but I'd say
just do what everyone on here is saying & be positive about who you are, you're awesome :D
redsoxguy676
03/27/09, 08:18 PM
update...
went on a date tonight, had a good time, seemed like she did too. kinda happy that i went, and acted as my normal self, without any issues. its a lot easier dealing with confidence when i just act like myself. today was a happy day because i was looking forward to that date, and it just seemed as if everyone i talked too all day or interacted with saw that i was in a good mood so they were as well. i know my logic might not make sense, but hey at least a good day came of it.
AlkalineAshes
03/27/09, 10:23 PM
update...
went on a date tonight, had a good time, seemed like she did too. kinda happy that i went, and acted as my normal self, without any issues. its a lot easier dealing with confidence when i just act like myself. today was a happy day because i was looking forward to that date, and it just seemed as if everyone i talked too all day or interacted with saw that i was in a good mood so they were as well. i know my logic might not make sense, but hey at least a good day came of it.
see shows what a positive attitude can accomplish. depressed people need to see this
anthonydarko
03/27/09, 10:34 PM
update...
went on a date tonight, had a good time, seemed like she did too. kinda happy that i went, and acted as my normal self, without any issues. its a lot easier dealing with confidence when i just act like myself. today was a happy day because i was looking forward to that date, and it just seemed as if everyone i talked too all day or interacted with saw that i was in a good mood so they were as well. i know my logic might not make sense, but hey at least a good day came of it.
:appl:Way to go man.
Confidence for me is more like acceptance. As far as we know you get one life, and regardless of what you think will happen when it's all done, you should still make the best of your life. You can't do that if you don't feel good about yourself. Make the best of what you've got, make lemons out of life, or whatever you have to do.
bertpwns
03/28/09, 10:33 AM
I guess so, I mean I do it at least once a day. everyday. I'm starting to think this may not be the healthiest of ways to spend my free time.
I don't think there is anything wrong with masturbating lol. It's definitely not unhealthy either. And I assure you, females do it too, and most females do it just as much as males. Anyone who says they don't masturbate is a liar. Either that or there is just something wrong with them lol.
TMartin442
03/28/09, 10:38 AM
get laid.
AlkalineAshes
03/28/09, 12:04 PM
Confidence for me is more like acceptance. As far as we know you get one life, and regardless of what you think will happen when it's all done, you should still make the best of your life. You can't do that if you don't feel good about yourself. Make the best of what you've got, make lemons out of life, or whatever you have to do.
u baked man? haha good tho
u baked man? haha good tho
I actually was hahaha.
redsoxguy676
03/28/09, 03:42 PM
i hope that people who read this post, that have confidence issues, will also get something good out of the opinions and ideas that all these people are giving. confidence is the best power that someone can use, as long as you believe you can be confident.
xxporcelainxo
03/31/09, 04:18 PM
:[ everyone thinks im really self confident, but when im nervous i just pretend im someone else.
caress me down
03/31/09, 04:45 PM
I pity you for posting this in PL. Bad choice!
But if you want a self confidence boost I reccomend just being friendly to everyone you meet because that attitude will be returned and you'll feel good/happy/whatever
samsara
03/31/09, 04:49 PM
Challenge every beefy guy you see, to a duel.
Charles777
03/31/09, 05:00 PM
Challenge every beefy guy you see, to a duel.
Slap them with a glove and do ten paces?
samsara
03/31/09, 05:01 PM
Slap them with a glove and do ten paces?
well duh. Thats the way people formally do it.
Charles777
03/31/09, 05:14 PM
well duh. Thats the way people formally do it.
I'm on it
geez, i really cant give advice on self confidence as i really dont have much myself
xxporcelainxo
04/03/09, 12:53 PM
buy a really cool pair of pants. everyone. and i mean everyone- will compliment you on them. im talking neon here. throw them in once and a while and walk down a different street... youll get more and more compliments every time hahahaha.
thesafeword
04/03/09, 12:56 PM
buy a really cool pair of pants. everyone. and i mean everyone- will compliment you on them. im talking neon here. throw them in once and a while and walk down a different street... youll get more and more compliments every time hahahaha.
Don't do this. We already have enough obnoxious, attention whore scene kids already.
redsoxguy676
04/03/09, 01:29 PM
Don't do this. We already have enough obnoxious, attention whore scene kids already.
i like the way you think sir.
xxporcelainxo
04/03/09, 01:41 PM
Don't do this. We already have enough obnoxious, attention whore scene kids already.
'cept if you're NORMAL and you do it people will think you're cool not an obnoxious whore.
thesafeword
04/03/09, 02:11 PM
No.
BryterJonah
04/20/09, 02:47 PM
hey guys, i'm just trying to get some opinions on how to build self confidence, beings that i'm having some trouble with that lately.
any ideas would help.
Stop relying on the Red Sox.
Stop relying on the Red Sox.
oh snap son. That's gotta burn.
ReadyForAction
04/20/09, 03:57 PM
Fake it till you make it is what worked for me
beth danger
04/20/09, 04:13 PM
I'm kind of a magnet for embarrassing situations. I used to have self confidence issues because of it- always trying to hide the ridiculous things that happened to me and pretending to be someone who I wasn't. I'm sure everyone could see right through it. I made a major breakthrough when I started to embrace my awkward, accident-proneness. I mean, I can't escape it. It's who I am. Sometimes when I'm embarrassed about something, I like to just put it out in the open. If it's not something personal that I'm trying to hide anymore, than it's not something to be embarrassed about. I'm a much happier person now that people laugh along with my misfortunes.
BryterJonah
04/20/09, 04:16 PM
"A man should not strive to eliminate his complexes but to get into accord with them: they are legitimately what directs his conduct in the world." -Sigmund Freud
redsoxguy676
04/20/09, 06:12 PM
Stop relying on the Red Sox.
has nothing to do with the red sox. and i don't know exactly how i am relying on the red sox.
BryterJonah
04/20/09, 06:19 PM
twas a joke my brutta
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