Stuck in the "chase" of dating.

[nickstetina]

Who else has this problem? I feel like I've developed a bad habit of "the chase is more fun than the catch".

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[TheHoldSteady]

I don't have this problem, but my two girl friends talk about this all the time.

They can't be happy with a guy. They find reasons to leave 'em so that they can "chase" again. It's bizarre.

[caress me down]

I used to have this mindset and then I found someone worth sticking with

[Hamlet]

Don't chase. It puts her on the pedestal and gives her all the power, making you come across as needy and insecure.

Think of yourself as the prize, the ones that girls should be chasing. Sure, ask girls out (and while we're at it, as many as you're interested in, just so you don't get stuck on one), but don't beg for numbers, don't give them gifts before they've earned them, and NO FUCKING MIXTAPES.

[nickstetina]

I used to have this mindset and then I found someone worth sticking with

I was in a two year relationship. Really only ended because of the distance of college, so it wasn't like a bad break up at all, but ever since then I find myself doing it. It's not like a concious mindset, it just happens.

[Iwudstilldie4u]

Madame Bovary Syndrome

I feel this way too; my advice is to keep chasing until you find someone you want to stick with. Adolescence will pass.

[anthonydarko]

Don't chase. It puts her on the pedestal and gives her all the power, making you come across as needy and insecure.

Think of yourself as the prize, the ones that girls should be chasing. Sure, ask girls out (and while we're at it, as many as you're interested in, just so you don't get stuck on one), but don't beg for numbers, don't give them gifts before they've earned them, and NO FUCKING MIXTAPES.
Best post so far and I agree, mixtapes are just a no-no in this situation. Mixtapes can give off the impression that you're really desperate or really creepy, depending on what songs you use.

[nickstetina]

Don't chase. It puts her on the pedestal and gives her all the power, making you come across as needy and insecure.
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Definitely avoid those at all costs. The word "chase" in this scenario kind of comes off that way, but I'm thinking of it in more in the sense, as soon as the relationship is kind of secured, interest in it dissolves. So, in essence everything leading up to that was the "chase".

No fucking mixtapes, haha.

[atticus1492]

You will be alone for the rest of your life.

Die alone in a fire, cunt.

[inyoursea]

Stop chasing and let it come more naturally. Chasing is only more fun than the catch when the catch sucks.

[perceptrons]

Hamlet's post pretty much is the be all and end all of this thread.

Also, if you're in a relationship now that started from a chase, you need to redefine the power quickly.

[BryterJonah]

Fries >>> Fish

[HelpMeSleep]

I think I must like the chase because I can't ever stand any of the guys who chase me and make it easy.

[Trioxide]

The chase is the most fun part. Or being chased.

[BryterJonah]

I like the chasing for new products and a sense of balance in my life.:-)

[liarsturnmeon]

we always what we can't have.
then when we have it, we don't want it anymore.

[BryterJonah]

we always what we can't have.
then when we have it, we don't want it anymore.
That was a great Scrubs episode.

[nickstetina]

we always what we can't have.
then when we have it, we don't want it anymore.

Yeah. It's kind of sick that we're programmed like that, haha. I still think theirs exceptions though, like when you find the right person. I think I just know as soon as a relationship moves from the pre-relationship playful, flirtacious business to considering yourself boyfriend or girlfriend, if it's going to work out. And if it's not, I have no desire to continue...

[framebyframe]

I have this problem. I let guys chase me and then once they start to get serious I freak out. Sorry guys. I'm a horrible person.

[argg_xo]

I have this problem. I let guys chase me and then once they start to get serious I freak out. Sorry guys. I'm a horrible person.
you are not the only girl with this problem! i do the same thing.

[framebyframe]

you are not the only girl with this problem! i do the same thing.

I personally think it has something to do with being a hopeless romantic. Or high standards? I don't know

[argg_xo]

I personally think it has something to do with being a hopeless romantic. Or high standards? I don't know
i feel that i'm a good mixture of both :shrug:

[eliselovesmusic]

Best post so far and I agree, mixtapes are just a no-no in this situation. Mixtapes can give off the impression that you're really desperate or really creepy, depending on what songs you use.


? Really?

hmm.

But yeah: the chase is always better then the catch. Hi five for being destined for lonliness.

[liarsturnmeon]

That was a great Scrubs episode.

i get all my life lessons from scrubs. don't you?

[anthonydarko]

? Really?

hmm.

But yeah: the chase is always better then the catch. Hi five for being destined for lonliness.
In my experience, I've had some awesome success with a mixtape and some disastrous, more the latter than the former. However in defense of the mixtape, if done right, it can work wonders.

[hockeycoshow1]

I have this problem. I let guys chase me and then once they start to get serious I freak out. Sorry guys. I'm a horrible person.

you are not the only girl with this problem! i do the same thing.

I hate you both.

[boysandbulletsx]

Hahaha, I've realized that I have the exact same problem. For some reason, I am turned off by guys who show too much interest in me. When it starts to seem like he wants to get closer to me, I sort of freak out and I give him the cold shoulder. I was just having a conversation about this with my friend, who's 25 and in a really strong relationship with her boyfriend and she's really smart about relationship stuff. She says that, unless you're really fucked up and socially inept, it's something you'll eventually grow out of as you mature. But why the need to be serious with someone now? We're young, so why be tied down to someone right now?

[Kid Freash]

I personally think it has something to do with being a hopeless romantic. Or high standards? I don't know

It's a blessing and a curse to have both of those. Is it so hard to meet a model who likes Fall Out Boy and Metallica?

[BryterJonah]

The difference between this and chasing for new friends is that the chase for new friends is a lot more intimidating. Whereas when crushing over some girl, you're more prone to put emphasis on the attraction aspect of it. We all want to impress and leaving a lasting impression on these people we've yet to acquaint ourselves with. And this causes us to fluster and fear. It's an unknown realm you wish to enter, like some sort of desolate cave. Just walk on in. Cause baby, it's all gonna be ok.

Why? Because I'm here. And I'll always love you no matter what. From my heart to the pit of my gut. Don't ever worry, cause I'll always be here, to save you, and love you.

tell her that, and it's a done deal

[liarsturnmeon]

The difference between this and chasing for new friends is that the chase for new friends is a lot more intimidating. Whereas when crushing over some girl, you're more prone to put emphasis on the attraction aspect of it. We all want to impress and leaving a lasting impression on these people we've yet to acquaint ourselves with. And this causes us to fluster and fear. It's an unknown realm you wish to enter, like some sort of desolate cave. Just walk on in. Cause baby, it's all gonna be ok.

Why? Because I'm here. And I'll always love you no matter what. From my heart to the pit of my gut. Don't ever worry, cause I'll always be here, to save you, and love you.

tell her that, and it's a done deal

if you said that to my face, i would probably rape you.
:)