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Adam Pfleider 11/09/12 08:12 AM

Consequential Apathy: Exit 152
 
This past weekend I attended Fun Fun Fun Fest and saw some nostalgic acts. Friday night I left the festival to attend Taking Back Sunday's Tell All Your Friends 10th Anniversary Tour. The album, like a few others, holds a special place in my lifetime, and that place in sappy crater I call a love life. You can read my thoughts on my personal attachment to the record here. I invite you all to share your own stories and albums or songs that go with them. I don't want to turn the front page into 'Personal Life' today, but I think we can make a pretty cool mixtape of stories to end the week nonetheless. Or you can just head to the replies and call me a dork, either way, I hope you enjoy it.

lordchamberlain 11/09/12 08:19 AM

dork!

taking back sunday's "where you want to be" reminds me of my summer in maine in 2004, linkin park's "hybrid theory" reminds me of my trip to kauai in 2001 (haha), the dangerous summer's "reach for the sun" reminds me of 2010 and how fucking great of a year that was but also the scumbag fucking bitch that broke my heart and left me reeling. it's amazing the memories certain songs can evoke. i can remember specific car rides and conversations based on certain songs. it's beautiful, actually.

Dustin Harkins 11/09/12 08:25 AM

I've got a story to share that I'll probably do after I finish this bit of work in my office haha.

I enjoyed your writing, as usual of course.

Chris Collum 11/09/12 08:29 AM

Pretty sure I wrote an embarrassingly long user review of that record on this site several years ago that detailed my sappy bullshit feelings about the record pretty extensively...yikes, had forgotten about that

Dustin Harkins 11/09/12 08:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Chris92 (Post 115226212)
Pretty sure I wrote an embarrassingly long user review of that record on this site several years ago that detailed my sappy bullshit feelings about the record pretty extensively...yikes, had forgotten about that

I found it. The length isn't toooo long considering how big that album is in this music scene, but I like how you have 7 different albums in the RIYL haha.

ParkwayTom 11/09/12 08:45 AM

Though I've had the album since like 9th grade, Tell All Your Friends always reminds me of driving to Atlanta with my girlfriend a couple years ago. We were going down to see a show (that I ended up losing my phone and breaking my foot at), and decided to throw the album on to nostalg super hard. Regardless of how cheesy it sounds, it was a beautiful day for the drive and things were going so perfectly with her, so now that recent memory kinda trumps a lot of the earlier ones I had with it.

Chris Collum 11/09/12 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Dustin Harkins (Post 115226482)
I found it. The length isn't toooo long considering how big that album is in this music scene, but I like how you have 7 different albums in the RIYL haha.

I just re-read it for the first time since posting it. It held up better than I was expecting but I still wouldn't write anything even remotely resembling that if I sat down to review it today haha. Whatever. I was like 17 or some shit.

Dustin Harkins 11/09/12 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Chris92 (Post 115226912)
I just re-read it for the first time since posting it. It held up better than I was expecting but I still wouldn't write anything even remotely resembling that if I sat down to review it today haha. Whatever. I was like 17 or some shit.

I know exactly what you mean haha.

Dustin Harkins 11/09/12 09:02 AM

Okay, here's my story about an album I have an emotional connection with due to memories. I'm hoping this isn't just supposed to be TAYF stories or else I just typed all this out for no reason haha.

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My story begins in in May 2008, about an album called Come Now Sleep by As Cities Burn. I was 17, about to play my first major (in my eyes) festival ever in my first band. The festival was in Fort Worth, TX, with the 3 headliners He Is Legend, As Cities Burn, and Oh, Sleeper. I was so excited to play. I had heard great things about As Cities Burn from a girl I used to be friends with, but hadn’t ever listened to them, or any of the other headliners like my friends had, but I was excited regardless. We arrived at the venue bright and early to discover we'd be playing around 2 or 3 PM, in an upstairs area. Not just upstairs, but upstairs in a 3 story venue (the main stage was on the first floor) at a tiny bar that didn't even really have a stage. Upon hearing this, we were very disappointed, but beggars can't be choosers.

Our set began as scheduled, with about 20 people watching us, including a girl I had invited because I had a crush on her. Our set almost got cut off twice because the bassist and I kept climbing on the bar due to hating the lack of a stage. After a few attempts we got the hint and resorted to staying on our "stage" on our respective sides near the "PA system" which was two tiny speakers on stands. Still, for a first festival (and my third show ever at the time, I think) it was such an incredible feeling. The 20 people who watched us either loved it or pretended to love it, and I came offstage to see my best friend making out with the girl I brought.

Keep in mind, I was a ridiculously sensitive high school kid, so I took everything way more seriously than I should have, so it devastated me. I tried to just go load my equipment out to get away from it and security started yelling at me and my bassist for our "antics" earlier. We found out because of it we weren't getting paid. It was never about money in the first place, but as the guy who drove the whole band around, it would've been nice to have some gas money. (And they were difficult people to drive around with, haha) I just was not having it that day, so I went and tried to talk to my brother about it. He kinda shrugged it all off, he wasn't a very emotional person at all, and I was a trainwreck back then, so I stowed away backstage, thinking about how badly I didn't want to care about anything, all those teenage angst thoughts, whatever.

There were three other people backstage and one of them noticed me sulking and came up to talk to me. I vented for a bit and he told me that although things are aggravating and unfair sometimes, all I should do is think about all the things I'd accomplished today, about how years along the line all I'd remember is that I played this awesome show, and wouldn't have any of the other details weighing on me forever. Now it seems like such a simple gesture, the kind of thing anyone would say, but back then I was deep into my Aspergers syndrome mindset when it came to socializing with anyone, so I didn't let myself get words of encouragement much, so the fact that he decided to randomly talk to me meant the world to me. I thanked him and he told me he was glad to help, and then left the green room. I chilled out a bit, then went back to join my friends to watch As Cities Burn. They played an incredible set, and I bought Come Now Sleep from them that day, just as a way to try and remember that moment of kindness forever. Since that day it's been one of my favorites in the genre, and when I listen to it, I think about not just how great life is, not just about embracing the accomplishments you make and letting go of the things that don’t matter, but about Cody going out of his way to help out a whiny kid that didn't really have a notable problem at all.

Chris Collum 11/09/12 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Dustin Harkins (Post 115226952)
I know exactly what you mean haha.

I do see this record as one of several that kind of pointed in me in the right general direction in terms of my music listening habits, that is towards the pop-punk and post-hardcore scenes that were self-imploding as I discovered them circa 2006/2007. I eventually then proceeded to check out Archers of Loaf, Radiohead, Neutral Milk Hotel, Built to Spill and Explosions in the Sky because I'd seen Jesse Lacey mention them in interviews and well...the rest is history haha.

llluminate 11/09/12 09:28 AM

So many awesome moments on this record.

You've got this silly way...

Holly HoX! 11/09/12 09:43 AM

Sweet story, Dustin.

I have way too many. I'll just say I enjoyed reading this, Adam.

iamthealex 11/09/12 10:00 AM

Great record. Probably wouldn't make my top ten favorites, but definitely on of the first records that got me into music and I still jam to it today.

xXrunninglateXx 11/09/12 10:03 AM

My attachment to the album ties directly to another much beloved band around here: Name Taken.

I went to high school with the guitarist and one day we got to talking between classes about our mutual love (, admiration and basically borderline obsession) over Further Seems Forever's The Moon Is Down. While we were talking I noticed his t-shirt (seen below) and asked him about the band (fyi, at this point, the tardy bell had already rung but we didn't care). He began professing his equal amount of love for Tell All Your Friends so naturally, I asked my mom to drive me to Tower Records to purchase it that day. Fell in love almost immediately... and there you have it!


seventwenty3 11/09/12 10:13 AM

The show was incredible. I don't think it's their best album at all, but it will always be my favorite. I still have The Starting Line 10 year and Killswitch 10 year to go to before December ends. I'm mulling over the possibility of Sum 41 as well. If anything I think we just need fun music again.

seangt3 11/09/12 10:43 AM

i was 20 at the time having the same old relationship issues weve all had..went to the mall lookin for some new music and i came across a cd that said taking back sunday and it had a sticker on it saying for fans of thursday and dashboard confessional and i was a huge fan of both bands..so i bought it and was blown away by it and its been one of my favorite albums since ...til this day i can listen to that album for days on end...even my kids love the album..my 6 year old could sing along the whole thing word for word

Holly HoX! 11/09/12 10:55 AM

Haha I have that shirt too

suicidesaints 11/09/12 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Dustin Harkins (Post 115227162)
Okay, here's my story about an album I have an emotional connection with due to memories. I'm hoping this isn't just supposed to be TAYF stories or else I just typed all this out for no reason haha.

Was that at the Ridglea... I might have been at that show

Dustin Harkins 11/09/12 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by suicidesaints (Post 115231762)
Was that at the Ridglea... I might have been at that show

Yes it was as a matter of fact haha, the Playing With Fire Festival.

suicidesaints 11/09/12 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Dustin Harkins (Post 115233022)
Yes it was as a matter of fact haha, the Playing With Fire Festival.

I can't remember the name of the festival, but I did go see ACB some time around then at the Ridglea and there was shit ton of other bands playing (that I can't remember right now)

I never even knew the Ridglea had a 3rd floor... they are re-opening it though, so I will have to pay attention this time around

SuNDaYSTaR 11/09/12 11:54 AM

I'm going to see Taking Back Sunday next week and wanted to wear the very same shirt I bought at their show ten years ago. Needless to say, it doesn't fit.

BroNamath 11/09/12 01:36 PM

they were incredible last night

Alex DiVincenzo 11/09/12 06:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xXrunninglateXx (Post 115229432)
My attachment to the album ties directly to another much beloved band around here: Name Taken.

I went to high school with the guitarist and one day we got to talking between classes about our mutual love (, admiration and basically borderline obsession) over Further Seems Forever's The Moon Is Down. While we were talking I noticed his t-shirt (seen below) and asked him about the band (fyi, at this point, the tardy bell had already rung but we didn't care). He began professing his equal amount of love for Tell All Your Friends so naturally, I asked my mom to drive me to Tower Records to purchase it that day. Fell in love almost immediately... and there you have it!


I have that shirt. I wore it on my first day of high school and made friends with a kid because of it.

I can't wait to see this record played next weekend.

Archael 11/09/12 07:28 PM

boring album

2 fucking classics

8 snoozefests