I'm not denying that that stuff can develop, but if it doesn't then it doesn't. It's not the girl being stupid or not understanding "where all the good guys are".
Hate to be the guy who prolongs this, but I think every guy knows that when a girl says "where are all the good guys?", she really means "where are all the good guys who will sweep me off my feet?" I think what a lot of guys find confusing is, as women (rightfully) expect us to view them less and less stereotypically, why do they all still expect the stereotypical guy?
Just my two cents anyways.