These conversations scare the fucking shit out of me. I've never really dated during high school. I am now in college and rather than making an effort to get out there, be slutty and meet guys, I prefer to focus on my grades and getting into a good grad school and hopefully make more money than most of my female peers once we finish school. I work part-time too so I never really have time for boys either.
I do Psych, so most of my friends are the typical feminine types - most of them aren't even too concerned about getting a good job, and those who are would take finding a good guy over a good job anyway. I'm starting to believe that I'll never have much luck with guys anyway, which is why I'm so obsessed about this whole career thing. It scares me cause I've been hearing news about so-and-so from middle school getting married, and I'll be hearing more of that in the future. All I can think of is to keep working and hope I'll make more money and have better degrees than anyone who's ever bothered with boys.
So meeting boys = slutty? I'm not sure how there can't be a balance of going out and meeting people, yet still getting great grades. I focus an insane amount on getting into grad school, but I sure as hell am not going to be stay in on the weekends. If you don't put yourself out there and go out and stop thinking you're better than all of the girls who are "slutty" because they talk to boys, you're not gonna get anywhere. Don't make work your entire life already, you're too young to do that.