[HarryPotter]

would Jerry Seinfeld go roller skating? No. Dinner and Movies will suffice. Now how to get girls to date is another question.

[thespearkid]

I think I'll do the coffee thing. There's this mad chill coffee/bakery in the art's district of Charlotte that's connected to a hookah bar.

[t00latef0rr0ses]

girls love it if you take them into a dark alley and try to rape them. the more aggressive the better.

[ghelms88]

Originally Posted by t00latef0rr0ses

girls love it if you take them into a dark alley and try to rape them. the more aggressive the better.

If she's a fighter, she's a keeper.

[deanster321]

Dinner is probably a little bit too serious, cinema isn't good for socialising. I'd say get a drink with her at a bar or a coffee shop and take it from there.

[Cereal_Killer]

Originally Posted by allthruwinter

take her on a picnic, girls love picnics, and food.

yes.

[SoCoSquid4]

just have fun and do things you enjoy! im 26 and the girl im kinda seeing is 20. we had a day last week where i told her i'd do yoga with her if she went to the driving range with me. we ended up having a lot of fun doing both. can always do the traditional dinner/movie thing, but it never hurts to be creative and do something that will put a smile on both your faces while still getting to know each other.

[BusterBluth]

Originally Posted by get up kidd

I once went to a record store and then to a local show for a first date. It actually worked out really well. Find out what shes kinda interested in and try to aim it towards that. Good luck man.

Keep us updated.

sounds like my dream date.

[CharlieCrap]

Talk as much as possible and never let her say anything. Go somewhere that's conducive to this strategy like a movie theater, where people are expected to be conversing and if you say something she agrees with then she can kiss you without anybody filming it very easily. If she starts talking about something, just figure out how to interrupt her and start talking about yourself again. One time I kept a relationship for a year and half because she had just been waiting her turn to talk because girls will usually say something stupid that makes you want to break up with them if you let them say anything and then before you know it you'll be gay and THEN all your dude friends will be afraid of you/stop cuddling and your parents will make you sleep in the room above the garage (it was my room already so FUCK them) and they won't let you go up for communion at church. god fuck my life just wipe the damn goblet or whatever I JUST WANT SOME FUCKING WINE ON SUNDAY

[sjb2k1]

i keep reading this and thinking about how i'm not going to be a 20-something much longer.

[Spartan789013]

Originally Posted by muzicislife31

I don't see a whole lot of dating going on in our age group at all...

I am completely with this. I haven't been on a "real" date yet, nor have I ever heard of anyone doing so.

[phillipjacob]

Simple but creative. Coffee and a walk in the park (maybe somewhere you know with a great scenic view in the park to talk)

dinner (nothing to fancy but nothing to cheap or cliche, middle of the pack (find out what she likes to eat though)
oh and pay obviously.

conversation is always the hardest part so come in hand with some in depth but not harmful questions
like if shes in school, what she's going for, what her ambitions in five years are)

music/movies always make great intro conversations

be yourself, but be a very polite version of yourself.

avoid religious/political/war type of conversations unless shes likeminded and brings it up

and if you think its not going well, dont panic
just keep it smooth sailing. and your confidence up.

[Cody Nelson]

First date: Day date. Short. Basically go get coffee.
Second date: Day date. Extended. Frisbee golfing or a walk on a lake are my preferred if you want to be active. Lunch and a visit to a record store if you don't want to be, maybe?
Third date: Night date. Dinner and/or drinks.

My rubric. Use if you like.

[xxemo_kittyxx]

These conversations scare the fucking shit out of me. I've never really dated during high school. I am now in college and rather than making an effort to get out there, be slutty and meet guys, I prefer to focus on my grades and getting into a good grad school and hopefully make more money than most of my female peers once we finish school. I work part-time too so I never really have time for boys either.

I do Psych, so most of my friends are the typical feminine types - most of them aren't even too concerned about getting a good job, and those who are would take finding a good guy over a good job anyway. I'm starting to believe that I'll never have much luck with guys anyway, which is why I'm so obsessed about this whole career thing. It scares me cause I've been hearing news about so-and-so from middle school getting married, and I'll be hearing more of that in the future. All I can think of is to keep working and hope I'll make more money and have better degrees than anyone who's ever bothered with boys.

[Kassie09]

Originally Posted by xxemo_kittyxx

These conversations scare the fucking shit out of me. I've never really dated during high school. I am now in college and rather than making an effort to get out there, be slutty and meet guys, I prefer to focus on my grades and getting into a good grad school and hopefully make more money than most of my female peers once we finish school. I work part-time too so I never really have time for boys either.

I do Psych, so most of my friends are the typical feminine types - most of them aren't even too concerned about getting a good job, and those who are would take finding a good guy over a good job anyway. I'm starting to believe that I'll never have much luck with guys anyway, which is why I'm so obsessed about this whole career thing. It scares me cause I've been hearing news about so-and-so from middle school getting married, and I'll be hearing more of that in the future. All I can think of is to keep working and hope I'll make more money and have better degrees than anyone who's ever bothered with boys.

So meeting boys = slutty? I'm not sure how there can't be a balance of going out and meeting people, yet still getting great grades. I focus an insane amount on getting into grad school, but I sure as hell am not going to be stay in on the weekends. If you don't put yourself out there and go out and stop thinking you're better than all of the girls who are "slutty" because they talk to boys, you're not gonna get anywhere. Don't make work your entire life already, you're too young to do that.