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Originally Posted by AFHA125

Ok so my girlfriend moved into her new dorm yesterday, which is a co-ed hall. This is her second night. And tonight they were already drinking. something i disprove of and she knows I don't. But tonight she was already drinking with a bunch of people she barely knows and it just really upset me. I know I'm probably being ridiculous but it just bothered me and now we're in a big fight. I guess I don't really need advice just want some opinions

College is all about drinking with people you barely know. They can become your lifelong friends... Just because you disprove of drinking, doesn't mean she's not allowed to.

You're going to have a VERY tough time with that relationship if you don't make changes.

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Originally Posted by kismet

My friend really wants me to go to this party with her tonight. I kind of want to go because I've never been to a real "party" with drinking and all of that just to experience it, but I've always avoided those types of parties because it's not my thing at all. I just feel like there's pressure to go out and go to parties because I'm in college now... I dunno, would it be totally lame to sit this one out?

I sit things out ALL the time. Sometimes I just like spending a night alone. Don't ever let someone pressure you into doing something. Trying new things and expanding your horizons is one thing, but you should do that mostly at your own pace (with little pushes from friends, not uncomfortable peer pressure.)

If you're trying to sidle into the party scene, try it with a small, close-knit group of friends before going to a huge house party full of strangers or something.

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Originally Posted by AFHA125

Ok so my girlfriend moved into her new dorm yesterday, which is a co-ed hall. This is her second night. And tonight they were already drinking. something i disprove of and she knows I don't. But tonight she was already drinking with a bunch of people she barely knows and it just really upset me. I know I'm probably being ridiculous but it just bothered me and now we're in a big fight. I guess I don't really need advice just want some opinions

I went through the same thing years ago, although I approve/encourage drinking. It sucks cause you worry but you either have to break up or get used to it cause that's what college kids do dude. Maybe go spend the night there and hang out with everyone so they know you as whoevers boyfriend and not just some dude.

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Originally Posted by kismet

My friend really wants me to go to this party with her tonight. I kind of want to go because I've never been to a real "party" with drinking and all of that just to experience it, but I've always avoided those types of parties because it's not my thing at all. I just feel like there's pressure to go out and go to parties because I'm in college now... I dunno, would it be totally lame to sit this one out?

If it's not your thing then just tell your friends that. I would suggest that you try it out though. If you go my best advice would be to drink slow and don't let your friends talk you into taking a bunch of shots because I imagine you're not a big drinker so it'll be tough to keep a clear head if you do too many. Big parties aren't my thing either but after a few drinks you'll get more talkative and start to have fun.

[kismet]

Originally Posted by drat!

If it's not your thing then just tell your friends that. I would suggest that you try it out though. If you go my best advice would be to drink slow and don't let your friends talk you into taking a bunch of shots because I imagine you're not a big drinker so it'll be tough to keep a clear head if you do too many. Big parties aren't my thing either but after a few drinks you'll get more talkative and start to have fun.

I do want to go out, the circumstances were just very sketchy for this one. And the most drinking I do is a glass of wine at night haha.

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Originally Posted by kismet

I do want to go out, the circumstances were just very sketchy for this one. And the most drinking I do is a glass of wine at night haha.

I imagined correctly haha. If you're not comfortable going somewhere and your friends are trying to get you to go just tell them you're uncomfortable with and that's that. If they keep saying stuff like "you never come out with us," just pick a place you're comfortable going to. Easy peasy.

[Acrid]

Been with a girl for 2 years and just want to be with other people. I still love her, but I'm not in love with her and I just want to be a little promiscuous while I'm young and (arguably) good looking.Don't know how to end it, especially when everything is normal.

[LetterBomb31]

Originally Posted by Acrid

I still love her, but I'm not in love with her

[Acrid]

Originally Posted by LetterBomb31

I mean that I care for her, I really do. I'm just not head over heels, butterfly in my stomach, IN love with her. Know what Im sayin?

[LetterBomb31]

Originally Posted by Acrid

I mean that I care for her, I really do. I'm just not head over heels, butterfly in my stomach, IN love with her. Know what Im sayin?

[Jenajena]

To any girls out there in high school who have very little experience dating, or are shy, that was me a couple years ago. I know this sounds super cliche, but don't be a guy's second choice. When he finds someone else (or gets back with his ex, which happened to me) you will feel guilty and stupid, even though you didn't do anything wrong. Don't let a guy think you're there just to talk to until he moves on.

[abbysmith]

My boyfriend dumped me 2 weeks ago saying that he just didn't feel that way about me anymore. For the week after I was freaking out and crying and desperately texting him and the whole shebang. But then I realized that it wouldn't make a difference and I just needed to leave him alone and move on. HOWEVER, ever since I stopped texting him he's been texting me every few days just to "see if I'm okay" and stuff. I know he's just worried because he knows I'm hurting and he says he still cares about me. But when he does this it gives me false hope that he wants to be with me again. I don't know what to do. I still want him back but I'm trying to get over him and now every time he texts me it feels like my heart is being ripped out again. What do I do :( He was my first boyfriend and this was my first breakup.

[abbysmith]

Someone please help before I rip all my skin off in frustration

[IamtheOwl]

Tell him that unless he wants to get back with you, not to text you for a while as you are still hurting.

[iamthealex]

Got a big ol' crush on one of my roommates. She's adorable, and smart (unlike most girls I've met in the last year or so), she laughs at my dumb jokes and thinks I'm not an asshole (or at least pretends to). I already know I'm not going to pursue anything for fear of potentially fucking up my living situation for the next year, but just looking for a little reassurance that this is the only option.