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01:51 PM on 11/14/12 
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Hey, congratulations, you're human. And you think, and feel, and use introspection to explain all of these negative thoughts you have. It's better you do it this way, than with your fists. Here's the good part, you're only 19... you've got plenty of years ahead to change it.

I always used to think that when I was 18/19/20 that working, and life was some sort of soul-quest where I venture out into the mist and end up doing something that I love.

It's not true that way, the rest of your life is what you make it. And it's likely that these first few years of your legal adulthood are going to be the full of the most hard work, full of sucking it up and taking it. Hopefully there's a lot of fun you're having too, and if this isn't true, you can fix it.
You're obviously smart enough to understand what you are going through, you have the capability to make this what you want. Your intelligence is going to put you ahead in life eventually. It will count for something, and you'll see it become more meaningful the older you get, just work hard and keep pushing.

Thanks for the advice; you were the farmost encouraging one to give some as well. I appreciate it.
08:29 PM on 11/14/12 
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If the same happened to you, why are you still being a prick about the matter? 'Cause this didn't help, man. How? You lost my attention talking to me like you know me. Only my friends have done this... and that's because they knew me. But thanks, some of it did help me, and I appreciate it.

I said what I said because I truly want to help you, if I even can.

I'm sure you couldn't fully appreciate what I was saying because of the way I presented it. It was blunt and insulting. No question.

But you need to see that my reaction was the result of the way you presented what you were saying. In your original post, even though you were saying that you were the one with the problem, you were really just blaming the rest of the world for being too stupid and annoying for you. The first step to rebuilding yourself is tearing yourself down, and the first step to tearing yourself down is taking accountability for who you are.

If the point of what you were saying was that you are angry all the time and are looking for ways to cope, then you would have gotten a very different response from me. Then again, if thats how you had been thinking, you might've already come up with ways to deal with your anger on your own, and wouldn't have to come to this forum for advice.

You say that I talked to you like I knew you, which is probably true (my bad), but I obviously don't. But I do know what you're going through. Very, very well. And when it comes to not taking accountability and needing a drastic perspective change, sometimes you need a good smack in the face to get you going. Especially when its a fucking post on a website. If I could talk to you in person, it'd probably be different. But if all I have to get through to you is the words on this page, then I'm gonna make them strong and effective.

Now, what really has the power to fix what you are concerned about is ...... the next few years of your life. They will be TUFF. HOWEVER, you need to go into it with the right mindset. If you are any sort of decent, and not apart of the mindless earth which you loathe, then the endless amount of shit your about to go through will set you straight, as long as you deal with it on your own, stay humble and worry about yourself more than other people. If you go through all of it with the attitude of that first post, then you wont learn a fucking thing.

You, in all likelihood, will be fine. The truth is, that if you really are so annoyed by everyone, then that means you have the ability to see above all the bullshit. And theres a lot of it. You should spend less time being mad about it, and start setting your standard. And your standard should NOT involve shitting on people who don't share your views. Tolerance muthafucka.

Also, smoke weed.
05:10 AM on 11/15/12 
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yeah I struggled with this problem, it's not healthy to be too nice or a pushover, sometimes you really need to be a douche for a short bit just for your own sake.

the only problem there is that doing this may make people nervous around you because they don't know if you're gonna yell at them or just be nice (bi-polar or moody).
08:20 AM on 11/15/12 
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[quote=decel241;115424152]I said what I said because I truly want to help you, if I even can.

I'm sure you couldn't fully appreciate what I was saying because of the way I presented it. It was blunt and insulting. No question.

But you need to see that my reaction was the result of the way you presented what you were saying. In your original post, even though you were saying that you were the one with the problem, you were really just blaming the rest of the world for being too stupid and annoying for you. The first step to rebuilding yourself is tearing yourself down, and the first step to tearing yourself down is taking accountability for who you are.

If the point of what you were saying was that you are angry all the time and are looking for ways to cope, then you would have gotten a very different response from me. Then again, if thats how you had been thinking, you might've already come up with ways to deal with your anger on your own, and wouldn't have to come to this forum for advice.

You say that I talked to you like I knew you, which is probably true (my bad), but I obviously don't. But I do know what you're going through. Very, very well. And when it comes to not taking accountability and needing a drastic perspective change, sometimes you need a good smack in the face to get you going. Especially when its a fucking post on a website. If I could talk to you in person, it'd probably be different. But if all I have to get through to you is the words on this page, then I'm gonna make them strong and effective.

Now, what really has the power to fix what you are concerned about is ...... the next few years of your life. They will be TUFF. HOWEVER, you need to go into it with the right mindset. If you are any sort of decent, and not apart of the mindless earth which you loathe, then the endless amount of shit your about to go through will set you straight, as long as you deal with it on your own, stay humble and worry about yourself more than other people. If you go through all of it with the attitude of that first post, then you wont learn a fucking thing.

You, in all likelihood, will be fine. The truth is, that if you really are so annoyed by everyone, then that means you have the ability to see above all the bullshit. And theres a lot of it. You should spend less time being mad about it, and start setting your standard. And your standard should NOT involve shitting on people who don't share your views. Tolerance muthafucka.

Also, smoke weed.[/QUOTE/]

You really know how to keep an audience, don't you?
09:02 AM on 11/15/12 
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You really know how to keep an audience, don't you?

ahaha, you really are a sarcastic dick. No hope

Seriously, you start a thread about being too sarcastic, and then respond sarcastically in the thread? Duh.
09:58 AM on 11/15/12 
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07:18 AM on 11/16/12 
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I was joking, but taking what you said seriously. I was being sincere when I said that.
11:41 AM on 11/16/12 
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all i can say is, your not born to please others. so if they dont like you, thats fine. dont pretend to be someone that your not.
01:35 AM on 11/17/12 
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07:52 AM on 11/22/12 
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Sometimes, I can feel that but I realized to be true to myself.
10:20 AM on 11/22/12 
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