now that im back at school i am really bad at going to the co-rec becasue its very intimidating to go there because everyone is benching like 250+ and i can probably do 180 once or twice.....
i've been there dude, i know what that feels like, so trust me when i say this: that's fucking stupid.
if you're doing this to impress other dudes, that's a whole other thing. but if you're doing this for yourself, who cares what the people around you are doing.
i played football all through high school and for a year in college, but i've never been able to bench impressively. i always had a strong body and was relatively cut, but i never pressured myself with how much weight i was doing. i did what i could. i pushed myself, and once i hit my limit i wasn't ashamed of it. i wasn't trying to impress anybody, i was trying to strengthen my body.
and plus, most dudes get into their workouts. you may think they're looking at you and snickering about how little you're doing, but they're not. they really don't give a shit. and if they are, they've got bigger personal issues than you do, so you can snicker amongst yourself. it all balances out.
i say this as somebody who used to be overly intimidated by stepping into weight rooms. it's just a pointless attitude to have.