You obviously don't understand the disease of alcoholism. What Ben did was in excusable, and I think he would be the first one to tell you that. But it's clear he has a SERIOUS issue. He's seems to have owned up to it and wants to make things right. It's hard to understand if you've never had someone close to you battle with addiction, but Ben needs serious help.
Let's play the blame game. Who/what can we blame so the person actually responsible isn't the one taking the blame?!
Seriously, there are bad people in the world. The way people can rationalize things could make Hitler sound like a saint.