i have to side with the buddy though, he put a new roof on the house and a paint job in 8 years, that's more than most guys will do for their wives. He seemed very dedicated.
he's getting a raw deal here too
I agree, and you can always make the argument that he would be a better replacement for the family than anyone because he already has a strong connection with them.
The one thing that makes me lean towards him being sort of an asshole though is the fact that their relationship was secret. That wasn't his decision, but it still implies that he realizes he is doing something wrong.
But 8 years is a long time. It would be fair to move on with their lives.
I think the entire situation would be handled differently if all of America wasn't pointing their fingers at her calling her the perfect wife and the whole never-giving-up-hope thing.