Bullying will never stop in our school system...because thats what the "system" inherently creates. Since there is already a competition and power struggle for better grades there is going to be a social power struggle just like anywhere else in society. And that struggle is going to result in people needing to feel and act out to gain more power or in other words bully.
So basically its always going to be inevitable with our overall system and all you can really do is understand that the people bullying you were also once bullied, its not their fault.
I was bullied from middle school up until my first year of college, when I distanced myself from the majority of my high school friends. It scarred me for so long, but I'm finally at the point in my life where I know who I am and what I want, and I am comfortable with who I've become. Took me awhile to get there, so I can sympathize with some of my young patients in the hospital. Everything about bullying disgusts me to the point that I know the new movie coming out is going to make me cry like a baby.
The problem is that kids just don't understand how their actions affect others. Pending I'm looking at this trailer as a long-time victim of bullying, but, as a human being, I can't look at these kids and comprehend how someone can hurt them in any way. They're so bright, innocent, and still so pure.. and bullying takes that away from them. The only way to stop this epidemic is to have these young kids feel the way that I (and most adults) feel NOW, at an earlier age. This movie may jump-start this viewpoint, and I hope it becomes successful.
I used to get verbally abused in middle school all the time about being fat. I lost a ton of weight in 10th grade though and am now pretty small. I haven't been made fun of really since. Except about the way I dress.
I was just watching a dateline thing about bullying. It made me want to look into starting something or doing something for younger adults that are dealing with this on both sides. It def seems like it has gotten much worst since the time i was in high school. I don't want to start any of that "being different and unique and being unique is great" type shit. I want to talk to them how they talk to each other. Tell them how it really is. No sugar coating. I think the idea of the teachers and counselors trying to talk to kids about bullying isn't reaching to the core ( don't get me wrong i think most teachers and counselors are doing the best they can in dealing with this situation). But to me most people listen better when there is an outside perspective (i know it seems strange but similar to the way your dog is a complete maniac then a dog whisperer deals with it and its and angel) Because someone has to fix this, between the bullying in the suburban schools and the massive amounts of fights in the city school its crazy. Kids are dying left and right.
I know bullying is prevalent in the school years, but it doesn't stop there. Most of the time, people grow out of it, but sometimes they don't. I hate that people have to build a defense mechanism of "not giving a fuck" just so they don't have to hurt anymore. I will never understand people that purposely try to cause pain to others. I spend my days trying to make even one person smile. I can't begin to understand how that disconnect happens.
A lot of the teachers at my school didn't do shit about it. I think the most effort one of them did was get us to make a fake truce and shake hands. Otherwise, they'd actively look the other way and ignore it.
What I always found odd, is that I went to a private school as well as a public school, and the bullying was much more present in the private school as opposed to the public. Either way, I'm glad all this is really coming to light as of late. It's a serious issue that needs to be addressed. Cartoon Network and others are doing a great job with it.
There is not a person that I know that hasn't been bullied or harassed in some form or fashion in their life. It is not a new phenomenon. It's just that the existence of the internet has made the bullying more extreme and intrusive.
You can't end bullying, there are always going to be shitty kids with shitty parents that don't teach their kids about how to treat other people. I would stick to the tried and true method of not giving a fuck. Bullies only harass people to get a rise out of them, don't give them that rise and it goes away. It's a skill that will be very useful later in life too.
I agree with you, in the sense that nothing is really truly ever going to put a stop to bullying. I also agree that there will always be shitty kids with shitty parents who don't raise them to respect others, or kids who are abused at home and feel the need to inflict that abuse on others in school and elsewhere. But I think its damn near impossible to not give a fuck. That stuff is absolutely life-ruining when it goes on. I was bullied all through out my school years, I was never pushed so far as to seriously contemplate suicide, but I'd be lying if I siad the thought NEVER crossed my mind. I was beat up, I got spit on, I got pushed around, called names, I ignored the shit out of the kids who bullied me and it seemed to enrage them even more. Sometimes ignoring things only makes it worse. I sometimes wish I could go back in time and woman up and beat the shit out of some of them, but at the time I was terrified, absolutely terrified. I wish we lived in a world where kids could go to school and have peace of mind, but I just don't think that world will ever exist for the ones who don't fit into a perfect little box.
1.) I believe I was an actual bully when I was in school, but once I became aware of what I was doing, I stopped it immediately... and 2.) OP posting about paperwork proving she was 'abused' is all in all ridiculous.
I don't think that's what she was doing...? Don't know the OP personally, but from my own experience sometimes you might not realize at the time that emotional abuse/manipulation is going on until you talk to someone or get the facts. Sometimes it takes a bit of retrospect to look back and think, "man, what on earth was I thinking by sticking around through all that?" Sometimes you don't realize something you're going through is common or even abusive until someone/something opens your eyes to it, and I'm glad the OP got more info/help on what she went through. It's very difficult to do.
I guess you could label me in the now "don't give a fuck" category. But after years and years of being bullied, I finally realized that I don't need these people to be a part of my life, so I can cut them out. Similarly, I realized that I am who I am, and there are plenty of people out there who enjoy my company and like me as a whole, so why should I dwell on those who don't? I didn't do anything to hurt them, rather, I was just an easy target as a small girl who didn't stick up for herself. I'm trying to make my own dreams come true, and am doing so by continuously helping those who are less-fortunate than I am - who could really ask for anything better?