[Gumbyjag]

This thread has been a great read. If I'm single for another year, I'm definitely gonna try one out.

[richter915]

Originally Posted by CallMeTroy

You should tell us what you did. We all want to know.

Originally Posted by RyanGarner

This man speaks the truth.

It wasn't really working well so instead of being mature and just creating a better profile or finding better ways to message women...I would get drunk and send insulting messages to women en masse. I found that I would actually get more responses by being an asshole and ended up with a date somehow. Either way, it led to bans in the end.

[TerrancePryor]

Been on Okcupid since 2009. Nothing.
Been on Plentyoffish since last year. Nothing.
Maybe its just me.

[Alison1488]

Originally Posted by TerrancePryor

Been on Okcupid since 2009. Nothing.
Been on Plentyoffish since last year. Nothing.
Maybe its just me.

Are you initiating or waiting for them to message you? Personally, I find a lot of guys don't know how to present themselves properly. I'm going to help my friend make his profile because he needs help.

[TerrancePryor]

Originally Posted by Alison1488

Are you initiating or waiting for them to message you? Personally, I find a lot of guys don't know how to present themselves properly. I'm going to help my friend make his profile because he needs help.

I always message women. I never get any messages back. It sucks.

[Alison1488]

Originally Posted by TerrancePryor

I always message women. I never get any messages back. It sucks.

You should maybe evaluate your approach.

[TerrancePryor]

Originally Posted by Alison1488

You should maybe evaluate your approach.

I always ask about what kind of music they're into or about their career path. No response.

[marieeboxx]

Originally Posted by TerrancePryor

I always ask about what kind of music they're into or about their career path. No response.

Just say something like "hey you seem like a cool person, how are you?" or something like that. Don't ever send an insulting or inappropriate message in hope to try to get a response. And don't ever try to be funny and make a joke about something on their profile. I hate it when guys do that.

[TerrancePryor]

Originally Posted by marieeboxx

Just say something like "hey you seem like a cool person, how are you?" or something like that. Don't ever send an insulting or inappropriate message in hope to try to get a response. And don't ever try to be funny and make a joke about something on their profile. I hate it when guys do that.

I never tell jokes/insult them. Idk. I guess I'm not good enough to date. Oh well. Time to fill the house with cats!

[marieeboxx]

Originally Posted by TerrancePryor

I never tell jokes/insult them. Idk. I guess I'm not good enough to date. Oh well. Time to fill the house with cats!

That's good. I've been getting rude messages and people making a joke trying to be funny, and someone told me most guys do that to try to get a response. Those men just don't know how to talk to women...

But keep trying, I'm sure you'll get a response sooner or later. Are you looking for any specific type of lady?

[TerrancePryor]

Originally Posted by marieeboxx

That's good. I've been getting rude messages and people making a joke trying to be funny, and someone told me most guys do that to try to get a response. Those men just don't know how to talk to women...

But keep trying, I'm sure you'll get a response sooner or later. Are you looking for any specific type of lady?

Not really. Just someone that I can spend time with.

[marieeboxx]

Originally Posted by TerrancePryor

Not really. Just someone that I can spend time with.

I'm sure there is someone out there. Good luck with your search!

[Waffleconsumer]

Originally Posted by TerrancePryor

Not really. Just someone that I can spend time with.

I think there's an okcupid sub-Reddit that you can put your profile on for everyone to have a look at and make suggestions.
Problem is, it's usually just dudes looking for when girls put their profiles up lol.

[Alison1488]

Originally Posted by TerrancePryor

I always ask about what kind of music they're into or about their career path. No response.

Personally, if I ever got a message that said something along the lines of, "hey, what's up?", I never responded. It doesn't give much to go off of and you have to consider 10 other guys just sent whatever girl that exact message. I think it's nice to pull something they mentioned in their profile and get them to elaborate or comment on it. It shows you took the time to read it and that you're interested. You have to keep in mind that because there's not physical interaction, you have to work it that much harder in the messages.

Also, work on your own profile. Most guys are terrible at presenting themselves. Talk about the things you love to do and what you're actually looking for from the site.

[phil19]

not for me, but a mate of mine back home has got with quite a few hotties he's met on a dating site. he swears by it.