[moonpies87]

as i have gotten older i realize i have lost touch with some friends. our lives have lead us in different places and towns, engagements and marriage happens. it just sucks knowing that i use to be able to hang out with these people alot and talk to them everyday but now I hardly see them. It just doesnt seem right and sometimes makes me sad :(

[NFGDay182]

I definitely feel that man. Try to stay in touch anyway you can even if you can't see them all the time. It's not the same, but it makes it less of a bummer.

[suckitandsee]

It happens to everyone but I'm definitely going through it this summer. I find myself a lot more at ease going out with certain friends rather than some of my old friends... and I miss some of the people I discarded throughout the past 5 years

[allthruwinter]

That's what happens when you get older. I often find myself feeling really down about growing apart from friends, or losing them after a while, but you will find that some people let life get in the way of their friendships, and you just have to either fight harder to keep the friends you have, or when you make new ones, make sure they're not the type to let life get in the way of your relationships with them.

[just.Starla.]

I know what you mean. It's gotten kind of bad for me lately because I feel like I'm slowly losing contact with my best friend. It's all very depressing. But I know it happens all the time.

[ari telescope]

That sucks. I've only lost contact with people I don't care about (or who stopped caring about me) so its not that sad. I'm still bffz with the people who matter.

So. I guess I wasnt very helpful here. Facebook?

[JustThatGuy]

I think about this all the time and it bums me out...alot.

[sauce301]

bro, i know that feel for sure. it's just life though, you end up meeting other people along the way who the same thing happens with and others who stick around longer.

[Xuut]

Some people drift because they change and suddenly, you find that you can't keep a conversation longer than ten seconds or more complex than:
Hi, how are you, good, nothing much, and LOL.

Most of the time, if they're not making some effort (trying to actually make a conversation/hangout/etc) then you shouldn't be either because it's clear that you don't matter to them that much. As someone who moves large distances a lot I find that the people who still want to be friends with me make the effort. I live on pretty much the other side of the country and even though it's ridiculous, I always try to make time for them, even with my new friends.

[Tony]

As others have said, it happens as you get older. Whether they're moving to the suburbs to raise a family or moving across the country for work, you're going to see them less and less. There doesn't really seem to be a whole lot you can do about it, as it's a two-way street. If they're not as invested as you in maintaining the friendship, then it's eventually going to fizzle. And as we get older, people are generally more interested in planting some roots and not moving around, so those friendships that are made as we age tend to last much longer.

A friend of mine moved just 20 minutes away with her husband to start a family, and I've seen her maybe once a year over the last five years, largely because she stopped putting in the effort (understandably, since she has a family and all). Contrast that with another friend of mine who moved to Hollywood to get into the movie business and I've managed to see him at least twice a year and we still talk all the time. And I only regularly keep in touch with two people I went to high school with.

Really, the only thing you can do is try to maintain contact on your end until they stop putting in the effort. And the best thing you can do is just continue meeting people and making new friends. It took me a long time to realize that, as a bunch of my friends moved away all at the same time and I was really lonely for a while there, especially since I was trying to maintain old friendships that didn't make sense anymore.

[Memphis]

First of all, facebook. At first, I was against it, but now, when I'm out of college, it really is the easiest way to stay in touch.

Secondly, try to write or call them every once in a while. In my experience, they usually appreciate it too (and vice versa). Now that I think about it, I've never actually lost touch with anyone who really mattered to me since, let's say, high school. I don't like losing friends too, I am one sentimental mother****er...

[mrgenious]

it's been happening to me pretty consistently over the past 3 1/2 years. it's tough to find friends who will actually last for the long haul, especially a group of friends.

[xhmnimx]

Yeah, I lost all my high school best friends. It's so sad.

[kianacarly]

Sorry, bb. I'm sure you'll gain new friends and you'll always have those great memories. As long as you guys make the effort to stay in touch once in a while you can still remain friends, even if you can't see each other every day anymore. Just one of those unfortunate downsides to growing up

[Less Than Mike]

Happens to everyone, it's just a fact of life. You and your friends are each going to go their own direction in life and you guys will drift apart.