Male - 27 Years Old
okay i need some confirmation.
My friend (a girl) just broke up with her bf of 4 years. Obviously during those 4 years we got to know the bf pretty well, and learned that he's pretty cool and is really competitive and likes sports, so we began to invite him to play sports with us. He also invited me to his family graduation party a few weeks ago, and i was told he considered me a good friend of his.
now since they broke up, my friend said that she'd feel uncomfortable if we called him while she was around, and we said fine. We respected the idea that since they broke up (she broke up with him), that she would feel emotionally unstable to be in the same place as him at present time.
BUT! she has also asked us to not see him at all, ever. Like, if she's not around, and he asks us to play soccer or something, we have to say no or just ignore him...or if we're looking for an extra guy to play with us, we can't call him. I think that that's mean spirited and irrational.