[kianacarly]

Originally Posted by upthepunx

My god. All I read here was, "Boo-hoo, boo-hoo-hoo". You have parents that care, a girlfriend, and you're in college. But it's still not good enough. You can sneak out at night if your parents don't want you out, "No way, they'll catch me" so what, like it's any better now. I understand that you're upset about this, I get it. Being in college we are literally under the control of parents into adulthood, they pay the bills, it's a sacrifice we have to make as students. But don't make things worse on yourself. If she leaves you because you can't stay the night at her house 5 out of 7 nights a week than maybe something needed to change. You're an adult, there are literally no excuses at 22 years. I'm fucking 22 years old. Almost 23...and that's much worse. Nobody likes you when you're 23.

tbh they are incredibly lucky they even have parents that have the resources to help pay for school. I think that's what bugged me reading the thread because there were a few "wah my parents help pay for school so they chose where I went and control me" type of comments. Mine can't help pay a cent so I don't sympathize in the least. They could've chosen to take out loans and be independent if they wanted. And I know some people will be like "well I can't afford to be financially independent!" which I get because I've been there, but they don't realize that to even have that option to have their parents pay for their stuff as an adult is just so lucky. Unless someone has to stay home to help take care of a sick parent or something, I guess idgi. To me, having parents that can help pay for schooling means you must be at least a little well off financially, and it just sounds like spoiled suburban kids whining. /I have a lot of feelings about this, clearly

[justsurrendrfan]

Originally Posted by kianacarly

tbh they are incredibly lucky they even have parents that have the resources to help pay for school. I think that's what bugged me reading the thread because there were a few "wah my parents help pay for school so they chose where I went and control me" type of comments. Mine can't help pay a cent so I don't sympathize in the least. They could've chosen to take out loans and be independent if they wanted. And I know some people will be like "well I can't afford to be financially independent!" which I get because I've been there, but they don't realize that to even have that option to have their parents pay for their stuff as an adult is just so lucky. Unless someone has to stay home to help take care of a sick parent or something, I guess idgi. To me, having parents that can help pay for schooling means you must be at least a little well off financially, and it just sounds like spoiled suburban kids whining. /I have a lot of feelings about this, clearly

My parents haven't paid for a cent of my college and they chose where I go, which is what bothered me. Here I am in my last year of college and it still pisses me off.

[RyanPm40]

I wish my parents paid for college. I'm gonna be near 100k in debt.

[kianacarly]

Originally Posted by justsurrendrfan

My parents haven't paid for a cent of my college and they chose where I go, which is what bothered me. Here I am in my last year of college and it still pisses me off.

I wasn't referring specifically to you there, but why did you let them choose your school if they're not even gonna help pay for it?

[brook183]

Originally Posted by justsurrendrfan

Hey, we all love our families especially our parents but there are times that they think they know it all, in reality they don't. As a result bad things have happened based on their advice or orders. Here's the place to share.
My parents don't like when I stay over a gfs house in fact when I do, the next day when I go home I have to eat shit. As a result it is impossible for me to maintain a relationship when a girl wants this to happen.
My parents made me go to a state school so I wouldn't leave home. So I'm going to the worst school in the state heck my community college was better.
Anyone else want to share?

What state college are you going to?

[CheckeredFloors]

Hahahahah justsureenderfan is somehow worse at life than he is at the Internet.

[Kozzy333]

Originally Posted by justsurrendrfan

My parents haven't paid for a cent of my college and they chose where I go, which is what bothered me. Here I am in my last year of college and it still pisses me off.

That makes no sense dude. What the fuck?

[upthepunx]

Originally Posted by kianacarly

tbh they are incredibly lucky they even have parents that have the resources to help pay for school. I think that's what bugged me reading the thread because there were a few "wah my parents help pay for school so they chose where I went and control me" type of comments. Mine can't help pay a cent so I don't sympathize in the least. They could've chosen to take out loans and be independent if they wanted. And I know some people will be like "well I can't afford to be financially independent!" which I get because I've been there, but they don't realize that to even have that option to have their parents pay for their stuff as an adult is just so lucky. Unless someone has to stay home to help take care of a sick parent or something, I guess idgi. To me, having parents that can help pay for schooling means you must be at least a little well off financially, and it just sounds like spoiled suburban kids whining. /I have a lot of feelings about this, clearly

If you have all your student loans in your name that's admirable. I personally have been lucky enough to have parents that can afford to pay my undergraduate tuition. I paid all of my general education at a community college, with money from my own shitty job, but the cost of finishing my B.A. is more than I can afford. It's tough, especially when I hear this shit all the time,"Hey, how much did you pay for books?", someone replies,"Oh, I donno' I just took my dad's credit card and paid for 'em...". I don't get how people do this. Graduate school, for me in the future, will be a different story. Those are loans that will be off of my parents back, and onto mine. My family can't bear the burden of that tuition, I'll take the insane interest rate on my own name there.

[kianacarly]

Originally Posted by upthepunx

If you have all your student loans in your name that's admirable. I personally have been lucky enough to have parents that can afford to pay my undergraduate tuition. I paid all of my general education at a community college, with money from my own shitty job, but the cost of finishing my B.A. is more than I can afford. It's tough, especially when I hear this shit all the time,"Hey, how much did you pay for books?", someone replies,"Oh, I donno' I just took my dad's credit card and paid for 'em...". I don't get how people do this. Graduate school, for me in the future, will be a different story. Those are loans that will be off of my parents back, and onto mine. My family can't bear the burden of that tuition, I'll take the insane interest rate on my own name there.

I'm going to a cc right now and can pay for it with scholarships, but as soon as I transfer next year it's all me. My parents are still raising three kids, so I would never even ask. I guess I've always been raised with knowing that if I want to go to school I'm going to have to make it happen for myself - no help. I'm actually the first one in my family who is even going to complete college. That's why I just want to shake a couple people in this thread haha, especially since so many people have it worse (not talking about me here. I'm pretty lucky too!).

[marieeboxx]

Originally Posted by kianacarly

I wasn't referring specifically to you there, but why did you let them choose your school if they're not even gonna help pay for it?

If you were referring to me about the college thing, I can see where you're coming from. I know people who's parents can't pay for their college either, but usually those people get, BOG waiver, scholarships and/or financial aid, as well as having a job...unlike me I don't have any of those. And it's actually my dad that pays my tuition (not both my parents). He works overtime so he can afford the installment plan (as well as paying for bills), it's not easy, but he wants me to go to school, so he chooses to pay for it. Anything else, I have to pay for...like housing if I wanted to go away to school. Which is no problem if I had a job, but no one will hire me. Since I have the worst luck when it comes to finding a job, I'm afraid to take out a student loan, and still have that bad luck continue and have no way to pay it off. I also barely have any clothes, own one pair of shoes, and everything like my desk, and bed was a "hand me down" that we got from a family member that didn't need it anymore or a garage sale. I have to pay for everything else, which is really difficult to do without a job (which no one I know seems to understand, they just say "just ask your parents for money" -____- but it's like 'we don't have any money'). My home life is horrible, it's a really bad environment to be in, which is why I needed to go to school as far away from home as possible. Some people don't have a problem living at home, so living at home for them while going to school is no big deal. But if anyone has lived the hell I lived/go through everyday, they'd complain too. I've given up everything in my life, because my parents rely on me so much, it would of been nice to have a little bit of happiness for a change, but that even gets taken away from me.

[OfSkate&Scars]

I could see if you were 16, but 22

The fuck.

You a grown man and are more than capable of making your own decisions

[kianacarly]

Originally Posted by marieeboxx

If you were referring to me about the college thing, I can see where you're coming from. I know people who's parents can't pay for their college either, but usually those people get, BOG waiver, scholarships and/or financial aid, as well as having a job...unlike me I don't have any of those. And it's actually my dad that pays my tuition (not both my parents). He works overtime so he can afford the installment plan (as well as paying for bills), it's not easy, but he wants me to go to school, so he chooses to pay for it. Anything else, I have to pay for...like housing if I wanted to go away to school. Which is no problem if I had a job, but no one will hire me. Since I have the worst luck when it comes to finding a job, I'm afraid to take out a student loan, and still have that bad luck continue and have no way to pay it off. I also barely have any clothes, own one pair of shoes, and everything like my desk, and bed was a "hand me down" that we got from a family member that didn't need it anymore or a garage sale. I have to pay for everything else, which is really difficult to do without a job (which no one I know seems to understand, they just say "just ask your parents for money" -____- but it's like 'we don't have any money'). My home life is horrible, it's a really bad environment to be in, which is why I needed to go to school as far away from home as possible. Some people don't have a problem living at home, so living at home for them while going to school is no big deal. But if anyone has lived the hell I lived/go through everyday, they'd complain too. I've given up everything in my life, because my parents rely on me so much, it would of been nice to have a little bit of happiness for a change, but that even gets taken away from me.

Aw, I'm sorry for your situation. It took me so long to finally even get a minimum wage job (yes, even McDonalds and Dairy Queen didn't give me an interview). The worst is when you're really trying to turn in apps and check up on them, but people still don't understand the struggle and make it seem like you're lazy or they just don't get it. I just wanted to make sure that everyone who has a parent(s) help pay for school realize how lucky they are. It is awesome that your dad is willing to sacrifice like he is, and just the fact that you even have the option to not take out a loan is incredibly lucky. I also get not wanting to ask your parents for money. I can't do that either. They are still raising three other kids and can barely pay the bills, so I would never. It will work out though. I know you'll probably just roll your eyes and disregard that because I did the same thing when people told me it would work out for me haha, but after about 2.5 years of on and off job searching, I got a part-time job, which is enough for now. It can be super defeating and a huge ego killer to face so much rejection (I still hold a grudge against all the places who wouldn't even grant me an interview lol), but it will happen eventually. Trust. I'm so shy and awkward and I lacked experience, and I never thought I would get a job. It's just luck and good timing. Good luck!

[marieeboxx]

Originally Posted by kianacarly

Aw, I'm sorry for your situation. It took me so long to finally even get a minimum wage job (yes, even McDonalds and Dairy Queen didn't give me an interview). The worst is when you're really trying to turn in apps and check up on them, but people still don't understand the struggle and make it seem like you're lazy or they just don't get it. I just wanted to make sure that everyone who has a parent(s) help pay for school realize how lucky they are. It is awesome that your dad is willing to sacrifice like he is, and just the fact that you even have the option to not take out a loan is incredibly lucky. I also get not wanting to ask your parents for money. I can't do that either. They are still raising three other kids and can barely pay the bills, so I would never. It will work out though. I know you'll probably just roll your eyes and disregard that because I did the same thing when people told me it would work out for me haha, but after about 2.5 years of on and off job searching, I got a part-time job, which is enough for now. It can be super defeating and a huge ego killer to face so much rejection (I still hold a grudge against all the places who wouldn't even grant me an interview lol), but it will happen eventually. Trust. I'm so shy and awkward and I lacked experience, and I never thought I would get a job. It's just luck and good timing. Good luck!

It does suck when you really are try to find a job, and people still aren't understanding. My mom thinks I'm not trying hard to find a job, even though I check up on them, talk to the manager, etc. I even go out of my way to travel 30-45mins tops just to try to get employment. But according to her, that isn't trying hard enough. She's not the least bit encouraging, she just brings me down all the time. I do work on campus, so I have something, but it isn't even close to being enough to afford what I need. And I think I only got that job because I did something almost exactly the same at the community college I went to. It would be nice if I was able to find something seasonal during the holidays/over the summer. I've been searching for a job (non campus related) for more than 2.5 years, so its been really difficult. A lot of people can't seem to understand that, some of those people are the ones that are employed by their parents or a close friends parent. I as well hold a grudge against all the places that wouldn't grant me an interview. I lack experience too, but people can't get experience without a job. But someday I'll be making more money than them, working in a cardiac rehab lab (hopefully)

[kianacarly]

Originally Posted by marieeboxx

It does suck when you really are try to find a job, and people still aren't understanding. My mom thinks I'm not trying hard to find a job, even though I check up on them, talk to the manager, etc. I even go out of my way to travel 30-45mins tops just to try to get employment. But according to her, that isn't trying hard enough. She's not the least bit encouraging, she just brings me down all the time. I do work on campus, so I have something, but it isn't even close to being enough to afford what I need. And I think I only got that job because I did something almost exactly the same at the community college I went to. It would be nice if I was able to find something seasonal during the holidays/over the summer. I've been searching for a job (non campus related) for more than 2.5 years, so its been really difficult. A lot of people can't seem to understand that, some of those people are the ones that are employed by their parents or a close friends parent. I as well hold a grudge against all the places that wouldn't grant me an interview. I lack experience too, but people can't get experience without a job. But someday I'll be making more money than them, working in a cardiac rehab lab (hopefully)

Yeah, it's super frustrating. Sometimes it's all about connections and when you don't have any you're screwed. It's so hard because they all tell you that you need experience but, like you said, nobody is willing to take a chance on you. I stressed this to my now-boss during my interview and he totally got it. I couldn't even get interviews at McDonald's or Denny's. Every time I would go to some fast food or retail place I applied at but didn't even get an interview for, and see who they actually deemed good enough to work there it made me feel so bad about myself (because, and I'll sound so arrogant, but sometimes I was like "...really?"). I just knew that once someone took a chance on me I would do well because I'm responsible and a good worker. It's just that nobody even gives you the opportunity. Finally the boss I have now did, and I'm employee of the month at my corporation that has over 800+ employees and I want to throw it in all those places faces haha. That's why for me, it was all luck and timing. If I'm ever in the position to hire, for at least min. wage positions, I'm determined to be a lot more understanding. Experience just doesn't seem that important for a min. wage job because it's so fast and easy to teach/learn anyway. idk if you're even looking for a min. wage job or what, but it's a fight for sure.

[marieeboxx]

Originally Posted by kianacarly

Yeah, it's super frustrating. Sometimes it's all about connections and when you don't have any you're screwed. It's so hard because they all tell you that you need experience but, like you said, nobody is willing to take a chance on you. I stressed this to my now-boss during my interview and he totally got it. I couldn't even get interviews at McDonald's or Denny's. Every time I would go to some fast food or retail place I applied at but didn't even get an interview for, and see who they actually deemed good enough to work there it made me feel so bad about myself (because, and I'll sound so arrogant, but sometimes I was like "...really?"). I just knew that once someone took a chance on me I would do well because I'm responsible and a good worker. It's just that nobody even gives you the opportunity. Finally the boss I have now did, and I'm employee of the month at my corporation that has over 800+ employees and I want to throw it in all those places faces haha. That's why for me, it was all luck and timing. If I'm ever in the position to hire, for at least min. wage positions, I'm determined to be a lot more understanding. Experience just doesn't seem that important for a min. wage job because it's so fast and easy to teach/learn anyway. idk if you're even looking for a min. wage job or what, but it's a fight for sure.

I totally know what you mean. I see some people or i know people who aren't very good workers and it makes me wonder how they even got the job. But yeah, I'm there right now, chick fil a wouldn't give me an interview, couldn't get hired at target, a curtesy clerk, etc. for retail I feel like it is more based on appearance than anything, like you basically have to have "the look". The mall in my town and 100s of stores, and one summer I applied to all the ones that people my age work at. Got like maybe 3 interviews. For now I'm looking for part time/min wage while I'm still in school. Sometimes I feel like places are lazy and don't want to train new employees so the require them to have experince in whatever it is. It's ridiculous. Ive seen job adds on Craigslist for like subway and they say you have to have a minimum of a year of sandwich making. And I'm like -____-