Funny because just in class a few days/weeks ago. A few of my friends (that are girls) exactly exclaimed "Uh, how come when a guy goes out with a girl and then the guy dumps the girl for another girl, why is it that it's the two girls that are the ones fighting? For almost every possible case, the guy is at equal fault here." A notion I'd definitely contest to.
However, one thing I've come to understand about Taylor Swift (at least on Speak Now) is that most of these songs do not directly embody her persona and/or experiences (at least not the persona she often conveys/wants us to see). Rather, they are ruminations of how she or a part of herself would handle various premises. For example, I would certainly hope that Taylor did not crash a wedding and convince a man to leave her fiance. But in Speak Now and in her other songs, the premise is there to magnify just how much she feels for this guy.
Somewhat similar to Better Than Revenge is her single Mean. She likely never said things like that to her bullies and the things mentioned in the song may have very well have never happened to her. However, she has very anti-bully notions and used the premise and summoned her smug/self-righteous persona to write that song "why ya gotta be so mean." This style is especially obvious in Never Grow Up because, well, she's not a mother...
On many points I'd agree on you but to be honest, if something similar happened to me, I'd imagine that I would be blaming the other guy for the most part.
This made me laugh pretty hard.
Yeah, it happens. I have two little sisters in middle school (they both looove Better Than Revenge too haha) who will absolutely despise a girl their crush is dating, but whenever I ask why they're not mad at the guy for dating someone else, they look at me like I'm a lunatic. I don't think Taylor herself is a mean or bad person at all - and I really don't blame her for being upset, but again, I just thought it irresponsible.
I dunno, I've been cheated on and I didn't have any hostility towards the other woman at all. It was my ex's fault 100%. She could've tried to "steal" him all she wanted, but inevitably his giving in is what happened to cause it, you know? Is it sucky for the girl to make moves on a guy who isn't available? Yes. But ultimately it's not really her fault if the man gives in. If not her, it would've been someone else. Again, not saying this is something Taylor does often, but when she does it rubs me the wrong way.
Also, I'm sorry! I'm done derailing the thread. I just really dislike that song haha.