I'm not trying to tack it onto everyone who enjoys music that doesn't glorify that subject matter though. I'm only saying I see that as being the case with the people I personally know.
I get you in the sense that rap is often vilified while people ignore the wrongdoings of other genres, or they act like some white artists are the savior of the genre by being the first not to rap about sex and material objects when that's not the case. People often assume that rappers are only going on about those kinds of things when many of them rap about their oppression and injustices. Plus, many people don't take into account that many rappers grew from poverty and to them rapping about material objects is a sign of success and how they came up from nothing. Likewise, woc's bodies are often seen as raunchy and vulgar while white women's are ~just art, or being edgy. I'm sure others will disagree with me on that tho. I'm not saying everyone does it, but it happens often enough. We all participate in the patriarchy somehow, so idk why Beyonce often gets singled out for it.
Many people also feel like they have to put down one type of person to uplift another. Like, "Lorde doesn't need sex to sell, unlike so and so!!" I don't mind if people think it's cool that she's taking a different approach to her music than some other mainstream acts, but it bothers me when they put down other popstars in the process, especially since Lorde has been really good recently about professing her love for some of those female popstars. It's people unnecessarily pitting women against each other which is not a good look. There's room for all types of acts in music. Deciding not to go the uber sexual route doesn't make anyone a better or worse person, it's just a different approach.
Also, dang, that is some major backtracking Theresa is doing. hmm.