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11:50 AM on 01/10/11
Carolina.Alex
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It's alright, I know you want to know haha. I'm just going to go with the flow. We're going to keep seeing each other as much as her schedule will allow, but I'm definitely not going to allow her to become the most important thing in my life until I'm the most important thing in her's again.
12:01 PM on 01/09/11
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Sounds really good. Glad it went well for you. I won't ask whether you're thinking about pursuing her again or not because questions like that never go well. You keep doing you.
11:45 AM on 01/09/11
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She just kind of looked at me for a second, like she couldn't believe I actually came, then she ran over and hugged me. I assume she was cool with it. We sat in her car and talked for about 45 minutes after the service, even though she had somewhere to be. All in all, I think it went about as well as I could have hoped.
11:31 AM on 01/09/11
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She was cool with it? I'm kind of surprised.
10:59 AM on 01/09/11
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It went well actually, I think I'm going to keep going to church with her every now and then. Not every week, but I'm not having sex every week now. Fair is fair.
10:45 AM on 01/09/11
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I want to hear this.
10:38 AM on 01/09/11
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I surprised Taylor at her church today.
01:18 PM on 01/07/11
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people get all mad n shit

just don't want a paper traaaaiiillllll
12:55 PM on 01/07/11
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I deleted two the other day haha
12:37 PM on 01/07/11
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makin' errrrbody so mad yo
12:20 PM on 01/07/11
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Damn you and your thread deleting ways.. always dropping my post count.
11:57 AM on 01/03/11
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I agree completely with what you just said. She even said "You make me so happy, but it doesn't change the fact that I can't handle the additional work and obligation that our relationship acquires." There's hardly anything bad I could say about her, even now, but that is so stupid. This is going to sound selfish, but a small part of me hopes that she realizes that everything will be even more difficult to deal with now that I won't be around to love and support her.

I think the worst part is that I know I didn't do anything wrong, and I'm sure she still has feelings for me. Like you said, maybe neither of us will feel the same way in 10 months, but its a waste not to enjoy every day that we have.
10:12 PM on 01/02/11
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1) I remember you telling me about them and figured they had something to do with this. What can you do, though, right?

2) I remember him too, you posted a bit about him. He's ugly as shit, fat, pathetic, and stupid. I don't understand how girls get guilted into feeling bad about fellows like him after they've been apart for ages. But then again, I don't know how they wind up dating in the first place, so.

3) This is where it gets interesting. I remember AP, but I moved to Canada before I ever considered taking any such courses. Given the chance I probably wouldn't have anyway, but uh anyway this isn't about me, it's about her and I'd like to talk about her for a moment.

She's got a lot to do and I'm just wondering how mature she is, really. The word maturity has always had a painful sting for me, because it was tossed around a lot in my middle school and early high school years that I was really immature and that was something for a lot of kids to go on, so I've never liked to revisit those terms, but since (don't worry this is going to swing back to Taylor) I've been in university I find myself revisiting them nonetheless when trying to make sense of the surroundings and it's struck me that many people are actually rather immature about lots of things. Stress ties into that and I just wonder about someone who's got so much going on in her life that when it comes time to cut something out, she cuts out love. It's pretty indicative of a somewhat immature psyche. I don't know if people are taught enough to take things in stride. I can't claim to be a really mature individual without sounding like a complete buffoon but it seems to me that what she needs to do is to stop for just a minute and filter out what she really wants in her life. She's what, 17? 18? She doesn't need to be stressed out. She needs to understand that she can take her life in stride and should only cut out things she really doesn't enjoy. I mean, I don't know her, but this is my closest estimate here. You seem like you've got your head on pretty straight and I really think you got the short end of the stick here and that she's been pretty unfair. It's silly to come out and be all "I can't see you anymore" just because one has a lot going on. What she needed to do instead of breaking up with you was sit down with a pen and paper and work out what she wants in her life.

4) The way I see caring for another, or love is that it's there until it fades. It doesn't sound like this has faded... maybe by the time university swung around for her it would have, or the long-distance thing would have caused it. But really, you treasure each day until it fades, and when it fades, you treasure the memories and move on. I think this is what you mean by "not meant to be" as well.
09:49 PM on 01/02/11
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A combination of several factors.

A) Her parents are insane, and they've been riding her case even harder than usual, telling her she's a terrible daughter for ignoring their wishes, etc etc.

B) Her ex-boyfriend was extremely smothering, she dated him for two and a half years. She never really had time to decide whether she was ready for another serious relationship, she met me right around when they broke up and fell for me (and vice-versa, as you can tell).

C) Her school is on an eight class a day schedule (she's a senior in high school), and she is taking five AP classes. If you don't know what that is, it stands for Advanced Placement and you can earn college credit by taking them in high school, but they're much more difficult than normal classes. She's also on the cross country team, soccer team, debate team, and an officer in the National Honors Society. She's always stressed about how much she has to do, and even when I told her not to worry about seeing me, she would get upset if she couldn't find time for me.

D) She's most likely going to school in South Carolina to Wofford College. Depending on where I transfer to next fall, that is either two or five hours away.

If memory serves, she ended the conversation with something along the lines of, "Words can't describe how hard this is for me because I care about you, and never wanted to hurt you… but I believe this is what’s right for me now and I hope you can respect that."

I told her that I'd be lying if this wasn't breaking my heart, but that I wasn't angry. Then I told her that I hoped we could keep seeing each other, even if we aren't in a relationship, and that I'd always be there for her. Ironically, after I said that, she said "I love you" for the first time, then followed up with "but this isn't the right time. If we're meant to be together, we'll find each other again."


Personally, I've never bought the whole concept of anything being "meant to be." If we're not together again before she leaves for school next year, I doubt I'll ever see her again.
09:35 PM on 01/02/11
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thank you, and also, don't sleep on it. stay up all night, if you want or need to. it's only the world's pansies that say "sleep on it" when somebody's dealing with an issue like yours. your mind has got to process the entire thing and thinking about it is the only way you'll come out of this happy. what was her reason, or did she just say she needed to?

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